<p>In this episode, <strong>Dr. Ali Novitsky</strong>, triple-boarded physician, Master Coach, and founder of <strong>The FIT Collective</strong>, continues her deep exploration of <strong>stress </strong>— this time focusing on how different <em>stress types</em> influence relationships, team dynamics, and emotional regulation.</p><p>Dr. Ali revisits the origins of her company, <strong>MindBodyMarriage</strong>, as she lays the groundwork for a series on how stress types interact in pairs, families, and professional teams.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Key Points Discussed:</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>1. Why Stress Types Matter in Relationships</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali explains that interactions between stress types can be complex and deeply influential. By understanding:</p><ul><li><p>What each type does when <strong>stressed</strong>, and</p></li><li><p>What each type contributes when <strong>regulated</strong>,</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>We can accurately predict team behavior, decrease conflict, and strengthen relationships. This awareness becomes essential when multiple people—and multiple stress types—interact at once</p><p><br></p><p><strong>2. A Review of The Six Stress Types:</strong></p><p><strong>Assertive</strong> – Stressed: takes over; Regulated: decisive leader.</p><p><strong>Isolation</strong> – Stressed: avoids vulnerability; Regulated: productive, independent.</p><p><strong>Control</strong> – Stressed: rigid, inflexible; Regulated: organized, structured.</p><p><strong>Validation</strong> – Stressed: seeks reassurance; Regulated: creates harmony.</p><p><strong>Impulsivity</strong> – Stressed: reacts quickly; Regulated: creative, executes well.</p><p><strong>Catastrophizing</strong> – Stressed: fears worst-case; Regulated: strong problem-solver.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>3. Real-Life Application: Team Dynamics</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali illustrates a medical <strong>code scenario</strong> with two possible outcomes:</p><p><br></p><p><em><strong>Dysregulated Team</strong></em></p><ul><li><p>Assertive type takes over abruptly</p></li><li><p>Isolation type withdraws</p></li><li><p>Control type panics over broken expectations</p></li><li><p>Validation type doubts themselves</p></li><li><p>Impulsive type fires off ideas without follow-through</p></li><li><p>Catastrophizing type spirals into worst-case thinking</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>The team technically achieves the outcome—but experiences <em>burnout, fear, and dysfunction.</em></p><p><br></p><p><em><strong>Regulated Team</strong></em></p><ul><li><p>Assertive type leads with clarity</p></li><li><p>Isolation type stays focused and productive</p></li><li><p>Control type keeps structure</p></li><li><p>Validation type creates calm</p></li><li><p>Impulsive type supports with creativity</p></li><li><p>Catastrophizing type anticipates needs and supports problem solving</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Same patient outcome—<strong>entirely different team experience.</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali emphasizes that true success includes psychological safety, teamwork, and emotional regulation.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>3. The “Leaky Valve” Analogy</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali introduces the concept of a <strong>leaky emotional valve</strong>:</p><p>When we are chronically dysregulated, stress “leaks” into every system in our lives—relationships, work, communication, and health. Regulation closes the valve, making all downstream healing easier.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Takeaways</strong></p><ul><li><p>Understanding your stress type increases self-awareness and compassion.</p></li><li><p>Daily regulation practice—not occasional effort—is necessary for real change.</p></li><li><p>Healthy teams are built on regulation, not perfection.</p></li><li><p>You can always choose to become the “regulated member” of your team.</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Timestamps</strong></p><p>00:00 – Introduction &amp; why this series matters</p><p>00:27 – MindBody Marriage → The FIT Collective</p><p>00:38 – Stress &amp; relationships: the “relationship matrix”</p><p>02:03 – Different stress scenarios in relationships and teams</p><p>02:24 – Overview of the 6 stress types</p><p>05:06 – Assertive stress type</p><p>06:11 – Isolation stress type</p><p>07:09 – Control stress type</p><p>08:51 – Impulsivity stress type</p><p>10:06 – Catastrophizing stress type</p><p>11:22 – Validation stress type</p><p>12:22 – Dysregulated team code scenario</p><p>18:29 – Regulated team code scenario</p><p>26:01 – How do we measure team success?</p><p>27:29 – Why whole-team training and daily regulation matter</p><p>28:43 – Transform 10 &amp; the leaky valve</p><p>29:26 – Private coaching with The FIT Collective</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Work with Dr. Ali</strong></p><p><strong>🔥 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/transform" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Transform® 10.0</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – Enrollment is open!</p><p>🌿<strong> </strong><a href="https://www.thefitcollective.com/nutrition-training" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Nutrition Training &amp; Obesity Prevention</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> - Start today.</p><ul><li><p><strong>💪 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/beginner-program" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Beginner Strength Training Program</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – 12 months for just <strong>$199</strong>!</p><p><strong>🧘 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/total-fitness" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Total Fitness Program</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – A 12-month mind-body transformation</p></li><li><p><strong>🧪 </strong><a href="https://inbodyusa.com/discount/FITCOLLECTIVE" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Get 15% off InBody Models (USA/Canada)</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – Small referral commission may apply</p></li></ul>

The Metabolism, Muscles, and Mindset Podcast

Ali Novitsky, MD

Stress Series - 07 - Relationship Stress Dynamics: For Couples & Teams

NOV 18, 202529 MIN
The Metabolism, Muscles, and Mindset Podcast

Stress Series - 07 - Relationship Stress Dynamics: For Couples & Teams

NOV 18, 202529 MIN

Description

<p>In this episode, <strong>Dr. Ali Novitsky</strong>, triple-boarded physician, Master Coach, and founder of <strong>The FIT Collective</strong>, continues her deep exploration of <strong>stress </strong>— this time focusing on how different <em>stress types</em> influence relationships, team dynamics, and emotional regulation.</p><p>Dr. Ali revisits the origins of her company, <strong>MindBodyMarriage</strong>, as she lays the groundwork for a series on how stress types interact in pairs, families, and professional teams.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Key Points Discussed:</strong></p><p><br></p><p><strong>1. Why Stress Types Matter in Relationships</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali explains that interactions between stress types can be complex and deeply influential. By understanding:</p><ul><li><p>What each type does when <strong>stressed</strong>, and</p></li><li><p>What each type contributes when <strong>regulated</strong>,</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>We can accurately predict team behavior, decrease conflict, and strengthen relationships. This awareness becomes essential when multiple people—and multiple stress types—interact at once</p><p><br></p><p><strong>2. A Review of The Six Stress Types:</strong></p><p><strong>Assertive</strong> – Stressed: takes over; Regulated: decisive leader.</p><p><strong>Isolation</strong> – Stressed: avoids vulnerability; Regulated: productive, independent.</p><p><strong>Control</strong> – Stressed: rigid, inflexible; Regulated: organized, structured.</p><p><strong>Validation</strong> – Stressed: seeks reassurance; Regulated: creates harmony.</p><p><strong>Impulsivity</strong> – Stressed: reacts quickly; Regulated: creative, executes well.</p><p><strong>Catastrophizing</strong> – Stressed: fears worst-case; Regulated: strong problem-solver.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>3. Real-Life Application: Team Dynamics</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali illustrates a medical <strong>code scenario</strong> with two possible outcomes:</p><p><br></p><p><em><strong>Dysregulated Team</strong></em></p><ul><li><p>Assertive type takes over abruptly</p></li><li><p>Isolation type withdraws</p></li><li><p>Control type panics over broken expectations</p></li><li><p>Validation type doubts themselves</p></li><li><p>Impulsive type fires off ideas without follow-through</p></li><li><p>Catastrophizing type spirals into worst-case thinking</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>The team technically achieves the outcome—but experiences <em>burnout, fear, and dysfunction.</em></p><p><br></p><p><em><strong>Regulated Team</strong></em></p><ul><li><p>Assertive type leads with clarity</p></li><li><p>Isolation type stays focused and productive</p></li><li><p>Control type keeps structure</p></li><li><p>Validation type creates calm</p></li><li><p>Impulsive type supports with creativity</p></li><li><p>Catastrophizing type anticipates needs and supports problem solving</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Same patient outcome—<strong>entirely different team experience.</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali emphasizes that true success includes psychological safety, teamwork, and emotional regulation.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>3. The “Leaky Valve” Analogy</strong></p><p>Dr. Ali introduces the concept of a <strong>leaky emotional valve</strong>:</p><p>When we are chronically dysregulated, stress “leaks” into every system in our lives—relationships, work, communication, and health. Regulation closes the valve, making all downstream healing easier.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Takeaways</strong></p><ul><li><p>Understanding your stress type increases self-awareness and compassion.</p></li><li><p>Daily regulation practice—not occasional effort—is necessary for real change.</p></li><li><p>Healthy teams are built on regulation, not perfection.</p></li><li><p>You can always choose to become the “regulated member” of your team.</p></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Timestamps</strong></p><p>00:00 – Introduction &amp; why this series matters</p><p>00:27 – MindBody Marriage → The FIT Collective</p><p>00:38 – Stress &amp; relationships: the “relationship matrix”</p><p>02:03 – Different stress scenarios in relationships and teams</p><p>02:24 – Overview of the 6 stress types</p><p>05:06 – Assertive stress type</p><p>06:11 – Isolation stress type</p><p>07:09 – Control stress type</p><p>08:51 – Impulsivity stress type</p><p>10:06 – Catastrophizing stress type</p><p>11:22 – Validation stress type</p><p>12:22 – Dysregulated team code scenario</p><p>18:29 – Regulated team code scenario</p><p>26:01 – How do we measure team success?</p><p>27:29 – Why whole-team training and daily regulation matter</p><p>28:43 – Transform 10 &amp; the leaky valve</p><p>29:26 – Private coaching with The FIT Collective</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Work with Dr. Ali</strong></p><p><strong>🔥 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/transform" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Transform® 10.0</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – Enrollment is open!</p><p>🌿<strong> </strong><a href="https://www.thefitcollective.com/nutrition-training" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Nutrition Training &amp; Obesity Prevention</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> - Start today.</p><ul><li><p><strong>💪 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/beginner-program" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Beginner Strength Training Program</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – 12 months for just <strong>$199</strong>!</p><p><strong>🧘 </strong><a href="https://www.dralinovitsky.com/total-fitness" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Total Fitness Program</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – A 12-month mind-body transformation</p></li><li><p><strong>🧪 </strong><a href="https://inbodyusa.com/discount/FITCOLLECTIVE" target="_blank" rel="ugc noopener noreferrer">⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠<strong>Get 15% off InBody Models (USA/Canada)</strong>⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠</a> – Small referral commission may apply</p></li></ul>