In this deeply vulnerable Part 1 episode, Christabel and Kachi peel back the layers of their origin stories to understand how they learned to navigate conflict, safety, and love. Coming from two distinct backgrounds, both shaped by the violence of the Biafran genocide survivors and the silence of a strict religious household, we explore the survival strategies that saved us as children but challenged us as adults. In this episode, we discuss: The Fighter vs. The Performer: How Christabel learned to "fight back" and "hulk out" as a parentified daughter, while Kachi learned to "perform goodness" and embrace silence to survive a high-control environment. The Cost of Survival: The impact of domestic violence, physical abuse, and the pressure to be a "good child" on our nervous systems. Queer Identity in the Shadows: Kachi opens up about navigating lesbian identity in a Nigerian Catholic all girls boarding school and the internal conflict of hiding to stay safe. Two Paths to Healing: We break down the myth that there is only one way to heal. We discuss how Kachi found herself through solitude, sobriety, and psilocybin , while Christabel needed to heal in relationship to witness her own triggers. Join us as we trace our attachment styles back to the source and prepare the ground for Part 2. Find us on Instagram @richqueeraunties @christabelmintahgalloway @qingkachi If you enjoyed this episode, leave us a review, rate us and share with one person today to help the algorithm do its thing to get this to the people who need it. XO, Your Rich Queer Aunties Christabel & Kachi Get full access to Rich Queer Aunties at christabelmintahgalloway.substack.com/subscribe