Welcome to Caitlin's Couch! In this episode, Caitlin is interviewing Kaytlyn Gillis, LCSW! Kaytlyn is a psychotherapist and author with a passion for working with survivors of family trauma and the LGBTQ+ community.  Her work focuses on assisting survivors of psychological abuse, stalking, and other non-physical forms of family and domestic violence. Her recent book, Invisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal System, sheds light on the ways that the legal system can perpetuate the cycle of domestic violence by failing to recognize patterns that would otherwise hold perpetrators accountable and protect survivors.  Gillis provides training on recognizing patterns of domestic violence, treating the aftermath of abuse, and helping survivors move forward. Kaytlyn shares how red flags can be disguised as the norm as a child, but these childhood traumas can manifest in adult relationships as dysfunctional patterns.  Check out Katlyn’s website: https://www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com/  Read more about Kaytlyn on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/kaytee-gillis-lcsw-bacs Follow Kaytlyn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claras__voice/ 

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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL HEAR ABOUT

• Who Kaytlyn is and the work she does to assist survivors of psychological abuse, stalking, and other non-physical forms of family and domestic violence.
• How diving into childhood traumas helps to release dysfunctional adulthood relational patterns. 
• What’s normal vs dysfunctional when you grow up in certain situations. 
• The pattern of Serial Monogamy, or repeating the same dysfunctional patterns in relationship after relationship because you haven’t done the inner work yet. 
• The importance of being Trauma Informed. 

 

QUOTES

• “I personally found that once I started to dive into my own childhood trauma, it was incredible in how much it helped me understand my relationship struggles as an adult.”
• “We normalize any dysfunction, because it’s not dysfunction as a child, it’s our normal.”
• “Most of us do [have trauma]. There is no perfect childhood.”
• “It’s not about condemning people or anything like that. Oftentimes, parents who engaged in behaviors that ended up being traumatic, also did things that were loving and kind and ‘good parenting’.
• “Children of trauma had their boundaries violated.”

 

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