Are you struggling to cope when life keeps throwing curveballs, and you have no idea how to stay grounded? In this solo episode, I'm sharing the exact frameworks, books, and practical exercises that have helped me navigate one of the most overwhelming periods of change I've ever experienced. I spent seven years as a change management consultant before starting this podcast, and in this episode, I'm giving you everything I've learned and used to get me through this period, broken down in a way you can actually use too. If you're going through a job loss, a breakup, a move, a bereavement, or just a season of life that feels completely unrecognisable — this one is for you. 🎙 What we cover: Why change gets harder the older we get The book that completely shifted how I think about change (Who Moved My Cheese) Stephen Covey's Circle of Control, Influence and Concern — and how to actually use it The "do you have a problem? can you do something about it?" diagram from Life's Amazing Secrets A practical fear reframing exercise you can do right now The "next step" rule — why you only ever need to focus on one thing A daily reflection exercise: what did I control today? Why "life is long" is the mindset shift I keep coming back to Who Moved My Cheese? — Spencer Johnson https://www.amazon.co.uk/Who-Moved-My-Cheese-Amazing/dp/0091816971 Life's Amazing Secrets — Gaur Gopal Das https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lifes-Amazing-Secrets-Balance-Purpose/dp/0143442295 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Stephen R. Covey https://www.amazon.co.uk/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Anniversary/dp/1471195201 ⏱ Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:30 Why change gets harder as we get older 3:00 My honest life update and why so much is changing right now 8:00 Grief, guilt, and finding reasons to stay stuck 11:00 Book #1: Who Moved My Cheese 15:00 The Circle of Control, Influence and Concern 20:00 Book #2: Life's Amazing Secrets by Gaur Gopal Das 24:00 The "why worry?" equation 27:00 The fear reframe exercise 33:00 The next step rule 37:00 Daily reflection: what did I control? 40:00 Life is long — removing the pressure to get it right now 45:00 Final thoughts 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices