The Coming Out Chronicles

<br/><br/>Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at <a href="https://nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p><strong>This week’s Saboteur is the The Hyper-Rational. </strong></p><p>🎥 Watch the video clip of this Saboteur in action. I’ve purposefully made it a little silly, but I think you’ll get the picture.</p><p>Here’s how it might be showing up, and how you can shift into your Sage perspective instead.</p><p><strong>Why this matters:</strong> Hyper-Rational prioritizes logic over emotion. Noticing it helps integrate feelings with decisions for wiser, balanced choices.</p><p>Here’s a simple reframe to move from Saboteur to Sage:</p><p><strong>Spot It</strong>The Hyper-Rational claims, “Feelings are messy. Logic is what matters.”</p><p><strong>Shift It</strong>Ask, “What wisdom might emotions bring to this decision?”</p><p><strong>Step It</strong>Check in with your body and name one feeling you notice.</p><p><strong>If you notice this saboteur showing up in your life, I’d love to help you shift it. </strong></p><p><strong>✨ This post is part of the “From Saboteur to Sage Series.”</strong></p><p>We all have inner saboteurs… the voices that keep us stuck in fear, overwork, or doubt. They think they’re protecting us, but they often drain our energy and hold us back.</p><p>The good news? Once you can <strong>spot</strong> them, you can <strong>shift</strong> them. That’s when your Sage the wise, calm, creative part of you takes the lead.</p><p>Has this got you wondering which Saboteur is most impacting your performance at work, or interfering with your relationships?</p><p>You can take the 5 minute assessment <a target="_blank" href="https://www.centered.ca/saboteur-assessment"><strong>here</strong></a>.</p><p>And schedule a 1:1 debriefing call with me <a target="_blank" href="https://calendly.com/nancyshadlock/sab"><strong>here</strong></a>. It’s a game changer!</p><p>Here’s to creating a more Centered and peaceful world for us all!~Nancy</p><p>💫Want some quick actions you can take to manage these Saboteurs? 💫</p><p>Here’s a sheet you can download and print off to have on your fridge! Doing even 10 seconds of one these tools really does make a difference in lowering your stress and creating more peace in you… and those around you.</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at <a href="https://nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p><strong>This week’s Saboteur is the Stickler. </strong></p><p>🎥 Watch the video clip of this Saboteur in action. I’ve purposefully made it a little silly, but I think you’ll get the picture.</p><p>Here’s how it might be showing up, and how you can shift into your Sage perspective instead.</p><p>Stickler is about rigidity and perfectionism. Noticing it helps create flexibility and release energy spent on unnecessary control.</p><p>Here’s a simple reframe to move from Saboteur to Sage:</p><p><strong>Spot It</strong>The Stickler mutters, “It has to be perfect or it’s a failure.”</p><p><strong>Shift It</strong>Smile and ask, “What is good enough to move things forward?”</p><p><strong>Step It</strong>Release one small detail today that doesn’t need your energy.</p><p><strong>If you notice this saboteur showing up in your life, I’d love to help you shift it. </strong></p><p><strong>✨ This post is part of the “From Saboteur to Sage Series.”</strong></p><p>We all have inner saboteurs… the voices that keep us stuck in fear, overwork, or doubt. They think they’re protecting us, but they often drain our energy and hold us back.</p><p>The good news? Once you can <strong>spot</strong> them, you can <strong>shift</strong> them. That’s when your Sage (the wise, calm, creative part of you) takes the lead.</p><p>Has this got you wondering which Saboteur is most impacting your performance at work, or interfering with your relationships?</p><p>You can take the 5 minute assessment <a target="_blank" href="https://www.centered.ca/saboteur-assessment"><strong>here</strong></a>.</p><p>And schedule a 1:1 debriefing call with me <a target="_blank" href="https://calendly.com/nancyshadlock/sab"><strong>here</strong></a>. It’s a game changer!</p><p>Here’s to creating a more Centered and peaceful world for us all!~Nancy</p><p>💫Want some quick actions you can take to manage these Saboteurs? 💫</p><p>Here’s a sheet you can download and print off to have on your fridge! Doing even 10 seconds of one these tools really does make a difference in lowering your stress and creating more peace in you… and those around you.</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at <a href="https://nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>I’m so delighted to be ending an old and starting a new year with you!</p><p>As I looked back at 2025, I found that in every area of my life… there was more ease and flow! And that was not just a me thing… while things got crazier and crazier in the world around us, all of my clients also reported that as they’ve grown their mental fitness muscles, they have grown in feeling like life is so much more ease filled for them as well!</p><p>That is my wish for you this year! May you find the path of Ease.</p><p>I created a future self visualization for you to do this weekend to help you hear from your wiser elder self at the end of 2026 how you were able to create more ease in your life. We will time travel and hear what insights they have… so you can start implementing those changes today! You can access that visualization here: https://www.centered.ca/newyear</p><p>Here’s to you creating your most ease filled year yet! I’m already celebrating all that will open up for you!</p><p>💗 ~Nancy</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at <a href="https://nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>I’ve been a part of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Substack community, <a target="_blank" href="https://open.substack.com/pub/elizabethgilbert?r=2rbasw&#38;utm_medium=ios">Letters From Love</a> for the last 2 years and it has truly been transformational for me. This group of us who we call “The Lovelets” has become a safe space to connect with the <strong>s</strong>pirit <strong>o</strong>f <strong>u</strong>nconditional <strong>l</strong>ove (SOUL). Each week, Liz offers a prompt to write a letter from love to ourselves. It has been a beautiful way to start my day feeling held in love. Then I show up differently because of being first filled up. </p><p>Today’s prompt was: <strong>“Dear love, what would you have me know about why I am here?”</strong> </p><p>It feels vulnerable… but I feel called to share the response I got from love. I’ve attached the recording of me receiving the transmission in real time. (I don’t tend to write these letters as much as I like to speak them out loud as I hear them from love.)</p><p>I’ll put the words here, in case you’d rather read it.</p><p><em>Dear love, what would you have me know about why I am here?</em></p><p>Oh, sweet baby girl… we thought you’d never ask.</p><p>We know you’re scared to ask that question… you don’t want to find out that you’ve wasted your time, or that you’ve been climbing the wrong mountain. We know you’re afraid the answer might be too hard… or too easy.</p><p>But we are here with you today to tell you this:</p><p><strong>The reason you are here is to be here.</strong></p><p>There’s no fancy explanation we can give you… nothing flashy enough to satisfy your ego’s need for justification. </p><p>You are here to be here, baby girl. That is all.</p><p>Sit with that for a moment.</p><p>Being here means being in your senses… </p><p>It means being present with the people we’ve gifted you to do this life with… </p><p>Being here means feeling the full range of emotions this life brings… from the highest highs to the lowest lows… and most especially, the middle. The quiet, ordinary middle. Just being.</p><p>And sweet, sweet girl… we know you. </p><p>We know that, being an Aries, you love fiery things… you love excitement… you want a big, bold purpose about changing the world. And you are trying so hard to live that out so beautifully.</p><p>But you don’t have to.</p><p>You can simply be.</p><p>We know you’ve started to sense this in recent days and weeks… you’re beginning to follow the desires of your body… your “meat suit”… letting it guide you toward what you want to do next. You’re no longer driven by the push to do more… create more… save more… change the world more.</p><p>You’re following your bliss.</p><p>You’re going swimming, and instead of pushing for one more lap, you’re floating… held by us. Just being.</p><p>Doesn’t that feel good?</p><p>More of that, please, sweet girl… </p><p>More just-being time… </p><p>Get your hammock out… rest… feel held by us.</p><p>That is the juiciest part of life… feeling how thin the veil is between forever and this moment… right here… right now.</p><p>And when you can balance in that surf… that wave of being both an infinite starseed, always moving… and a very human person, sitting in the here and now, feeling everything in your body… that is where it’s at.</p><p>So sweet, girl. Rest.</p><p>Know this… it doesn’t really matter what you do.</p><p>We know that might piss you off… </p><p>We know it worries you… that you’ll become lazy or complacent or not live the life you truly want. </p><p>But we know you, sweet fledgling… little duckling with her legs always flapping under the water.</p><p>We know you.</p><p>We know the desires of your body will guide you to beautiful things… things that may very well transform the world. But don’t let that be what drives you.</p><p>Let love compel you… </p><p>Let love inspire you… </p><p>Let love bubble up within you so fully that you can’t contain it… that it spills over and surrounds the people around you.</p><p>Even as you know… it can’t do the work for them. </p><p>It’s an inside job.</p><p>But you also know this… the act of feeling our love so deeply… of loving yourself so deeply… is contagious. It’s inspiring.</p><p>So keep going, little one…</p><p>Keep sitting with us every day… let us speak to you… let us hold you.</p><p>We love it when you come to us… when you’re sad, disappointed, frustrated… </p><p>We love it when you come to us full of joy and excitement… </p><p>We love it when you meet your older, wiser self on the porch and let her speak into your current challenges… we love how much peace and perspective that gives you.</p><p>Keep being here… </p><p>Keep living fully… </p><p>Keep experiencing all the things you want to experience… </p><p>Keep being the most YOU you can be.</p><p>We love you.</p><p><em>Love, love.</em></p><p>There’s my letter. Have you tried this practice before? I’d love to hear your version. What would love say to you about why you are here?</p><p>Big love to you!~N.</p> <br/><br/>Get full access to Mental Fitness for Leaders with Nancy Shadlock at <a href="https://nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_4">nancyshadlock.substack.com/subscribe</a>