Welcome to another captivating episode of the Out-Front Podcast! I'm thrilled to have you join us today as we delve into a profound concept that has the power to transform lives: doing the work on yourself.

For those familiar with our discussions, you know that I frequently stress the importance of this practice. It's no secret – true growth and self-development demand more than just passive participation. It requires a relentless dedication to facing our challenges head-on, a commitment to growth, and a willingness to put in the effort.

"Doing the work" has become somewhat of a mantra for me, echoing the belief that meaningful progress is not handed to us on a silver platter but is the result of active engagement and dedication. It's about keeping it real – acknowledging where we currently stand while envisioning where we aspire to be.

But here's the kicker: the work that needs to be done? It's uniquely yours. No one else can do it for you. Only you hold the key to bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

So, buckle up and get ready to explore what it truly means to do the work on yourself and how this journey of self-discovery can profoundly impact our lives. Get ready to roll up your sleeves and dive deep into the transformative power of personal growth. Let's embark on this journey together!

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Hello everyone and welcome to another exciting episode of the out-front podcast listen day I am super excited that you will be joining us on today and so today we're going to. Ah, get into this profound concept of doing the work on yourself. What does it truly entail and more importantly, ah, you know what it truly entails and how can it profoundly change our lives for those who are familiar with me. You know it's no secret that I frequently emphasize the importance of putting in the work I firmly believe that true growth and self-development requires effort dedication and willingness to confront our challenges head on. You got to do the work. You know you got to do the work has become somewhat of a mantra for me echoing a sentiment that meaningful progress is an aspect of life necessities, active engagement and commitment. Keep you real the realization of where you are and where you desire to be required work that only you can do only you can do? What must be done to close that gap from where you are.

 

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To where you desire to behave, I would tell you that through my own journey and interactions with others I've come to realize that many people may not fully grasp what the work entails. Or where to begin on their path of so of this self-development. It's not enough to simply acknowledge that you know the need for change or improvement. 1 must also have the twos strategies and support system. In place to facilitate their growth so without a clear understanding of what the work looks like and how to approach it individuals may find themselves feeling overwhelmed stuck or unsure. Of how to move forward so considering this ah realization I've come I've become considering this realization I've become increasingly passionate about demystifying the concept of the work. And providing guidance and resources to support others on their journey of personal development whether it's to sharing my own experiences offering practical advice or connecting individuals were relevant to and resources.

 

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I strive to empower others to take meaningful steps towards their goals by breaking down the barriers to self-improvement and offering a road map for progress I hope to inspire. That's what I really hope to do I hope to inspire and support others in their pursuit of growth and fulfillment. So today. We certainly have a lot to unpack on this show. So, let's go so today we certainly have a lot to unpack in this episode. So, let's go.

 

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Doing the work isn't just a catchphrase. It's a profound commitment to your own evolution. It's about diving deep into the depths of your being confronting your darkest shadows. And embracing the light within. It's a courageous journey of self-reflection self-awareness and Self-love to bring about the healing that is necessary the healing that is necessary to move forward in whatever your endeavors may be. And here here's the thing no matter how old you are or the level of your attainment. There is still some level of work that remains in all of us within the circle of life. You know I've always said that healing. It is a prerequisite. However, it's often continuous and healing is a journey of progress. Not perfection I think I have to say that again healing is a journey of progress. Not Perfection. You know in the in the in the intricate in the intricate tapestry of human existence healing is a thread that weaves its way through the fabric of our lives. It's a journey marked with twist and turns right and so.

 

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Progress and setback progress and setback progress and setback. But ultimately, it's a progress guided. But ultimately, it's a prospect but ultimately. It's a process guided by resiliency and perseverance in the intricate in the intricate tapestry in the intricate tapestry of human existence healing is a thread that weaves its way through the fabric of our lives. It is a journey marked with twist and turns progress and setback progress and setback progress and setback. But ultimately it is a process guided by resilience and perseverance. Yes, healing at its core is not about achieving perfection rather it is about embracing the imperfections of our journey and finding growth amidst the challenges there will be challenges. So, the concept of healing as a process acknowledges that it is not a linear path with a clear beginning and an end instead. It is a dynamic journey that Unfolds over time.

 

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Shaped by our experience emotions and relationships just as a womb takes time to heal emotional and psychological healing require patience and nurturing. So. 1 of the fundamental aspects of healing is self-compassion. You know this is an area I really must learn on my own for myself that healing is self-compassion it involves. Extending kindness and understanding to ourselves as we navigate the ups and downs of our healing journey. You know often we are often we are our heart often. We are often. We are our hardest critics expecting profession often. We are our hardest critics expecting perfection or instant results again. As I said this is the area that I had to learn. Personally, for myself that we are often our hardest critics expecting perfection or instant results have a true healing requires us to be gentle with ourselves.

 

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Acknowledging our progress, no matter how small and accepting the setbacks accepting and accepting that setbacks are a natural part of the process. So, listen today. My brother My sister's setbacks are a natural part of the process I'll say that again and again setbacks are a natural part of the process. However, healing is not a solitary Endeavor. It is deeply intertwined with our connections to others and then whatever those supportive relationships can provide. Whatever they can when they win and whenever they can provide comfort at some time validation and a sense of belonging all of which are essential for healing to occur whether it is. Whether it's the embrace of a loved one. The empathy of a friend or the guidance of a therapist is the supportive of others can help us navigate the complexities of our healing journey.

 

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Furthermore, healing is about finding meaningful and purpose in our experience. It involves reflecting on our pain understanding its impact on our lives and using it as a catalyst. For growth and transformation. So other words adversity can be a powerful teacher offering valuable lessons about resilience, empathy and the strength of the human spirit. These are areas that oftentimes we don't deal with first we move from. We try to you know move from one stage of life to the next stage of life without dealing with all our stuff and oftentimes it will. It'll all come crashing down. When we're trying to build and move from one stage of life to the next and we can't quite figure it out because we haven't dealt with all the other stuff prior to moving on. So, embracing the process of healing also requires vulnerability it means allowing ourselves to feel deeply to It's okay to feel emotional and deeply to confront our fears and our insecurities.

 

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And to open ourselves back up to the possibilities of change. This vulnerability is not a sign of weakness. It's so me depending on where you come for our most brothers. You know its vulnerabilities is a sign. Of our weakness but the truth is vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to our courage and our willingness to embrace our humanity. That's true so in in in Essence. Healing is this multifaceted journey that encompasses emotional psychological and spiritual growth. It is about finding peace amidst Chaos Strength amidst, vulnerability and growth. Ah, monthst adversity is a process that Unfolds over time shaped by our willingness to embrace imper perfection to cultivate self-compassion to nurture supportive relationships. Finding meaningful finding meaning in our experience and embrace vulnerability as we navigate the twist and turns of our healing journey. Let us remember that is not about reaching some.

 

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Exclusive state of perfection but rather about embracing the beauty of our imperfect yet resilient self. It's about honoring the progress as we make and take the steps. Matter how small and we find silence in the knowledge that healing is a journey not a destination. So oftentimes. We don't deal with these sorts of things or come to facing things that we must face as we move from one stage of life to the next. We just try to keep building and keep moving but we would understand that these are areas that we must begin to uncover as we move. But 1 stage or life to the next and that's unearthing our core wounds and traumas as we try to build right? We just been taught keep building keep building. Forget about that stuff stack it away deal with it.

 

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Suck it up, but as we try to build these are foundational. You must think about this as something that's foundational. You must deal with to begin to really build the structure that you need to build is stable and sturdy enough. That's resilient enough when winds of adversity begin to blow unearthing. Core rooms and trauma is not a good thing so to truly do the work as I said you got to do the work. You got to do the work this preparing yourself to do the work this is preparing you to do the work to truly do the work. Had to first excavate all the core wounds and traumas and at some point, you must pull out all the hidden bags of triggers. The bags of shit that set you off the emotional shit and the and the. Stuff that kind of make you react in a way that you don't like to react, but you end up reacting anyway, pull it all out pull all pull it all out. You must pull it all out and sit in the discomfort of it.

 

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These are the buried treasures of our psyche hidden beneath layers of conditioning and societal expectations and Trump all that stuff take time to explore the origins of your deepest pains. Ah, wounds that still bleed beneath the surface set aside dedicated time each day for introspection journaling meditating and therapy can all be powerful tos. For excavating buried traumas and wounds as we build again. I'll keep referring to what I say at in the beginning you got to do the work. I'm always talking about I mean you got to do the work and the truth is again as I said this is very much a part of doing the work as you begin to build, and you are no longer. Attempt to move from one stage of life to the next stage of life and building without doing the work of dealing with all the underneath stuff before you begin to build.

 

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So, you got to set some time you got to set aside some time to really dedicate to dealing with this and sometimes it's reparenting the inner child I found out even I had some pretty good parents. We grew up In. And in the pretty well out middle class neighborhood I Guess I'll fall for what is worth I guess for what worth socioeconomic background or condition it was not. All that bad but in my adult life. There were some things that I discovered that I had to sort of go back and what I would call reparenting the inner child in me. There were some periods in my life where I had to go back and reparent my inner child. So reparenting is that sacred act of nurturing and healing your inner child. The innocent. Wounded aspect of yourself that yarns for love and acceptance whatever that may be. It's about becoming you know that loving parent. You may have or may not have had or offering yourself a compassion.

 

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And tenderness that you felt you deserve so create a daily self-care ritual for nourishing your inner child at times this could include affirmations visualization exercises or simply speaking to yourself. Kindness and gentleness whatever that may be. This is a part of doing the work and it leads to transforming relationships through your healing. All relationships personal business. Whatever that relationship is it all just doing this type of work all impacts in a very positive way as you transform relationships through your healing. And understand this many of us never get there So This may be a conversation that many individuals are quite not used to having you transforming through that level of healing. As we do the work on ourselves. Our relationships naturally begin to transform you know they no longer. Are you know, no longer are we bound by old patterns of co-dependencies or seeking validation from others instead.

 

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We Cultivate relationships based on Authenticity Mutual respect and unconditional. Love. So, practice self so practice setting healthy boundaries in your relationships. And communicating your needs acceptability practice setting healthy boundaries in your relationships and communicate your needs assertively and you surround yourself with individuals who honor. Your journey of healing and support your growth you see when we set healthy boundaries are simply to keep things out but rather. Boundaries are not simply to keep things out but rather to protect what's on the inside that the inside work that you must do the inside where you do must. Be protected at all costs the inside work that you do must be protected at all costs and you do that by setting boundaries and oftentimes the.

 

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Boundaries that you set is to protect. What's on the inside.

 

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Um, doing the work is not a destination. It's a life learned journey of Self-discovery and self-actualization. It's about embracing. It's about embracing the full spectrum. Who you are. The light and the shadow and integrating all aspects of ourselves with love and Acceptance. So, I say commit to ongoing self-exploration and growth seek out books and workshops. And communities that resonate with your journey of healing and transformation and remember you are worthy of the deepest love and the highest potential. So, listen, thank you all for joining me today. So, listen. Thank you all for joining me on this transformation Journey of Self-discovery Remember the power of change lies within you until next time keep doing the work and shining your light in the world.

 

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Until next time.