<p>There are moments in our relationships where communication breaks down, and things can start to feel overwhelming. In today&#39;s episode, we explore a concept from Dr. John Gottman’s research that can help explain why. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse represent four harmful communication patterns that, when left unchecked, can lead to the downfall of a marriage. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—these destructive behaviors don’t just harm the relationship; they destroy connection and intimacy. But there is hope! In this episode, we’ll not only discuss these patterns but also explore antidotes to help you turn things around and strengthen your marriage.</p> <p><strong>Podcast Mentions</strong></p> <p>Support this Podcast: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support">Click Here</a></p> <p>Black Love Doc: <a href="https://blacklove.com/series/black-love-doc/">Black Love Show</a></p> <p>John Gottman:  <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work-ebook/dp/B00N6PEQV0/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2DPIWNOU3XM4P&keywords=john+gotman&qid=1663222513&sprefix=john+gotman%2Caps%2C114&sr=8-1">The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work</a></p> <p>The Four Horsemen by The Gottman Institute: <a href="https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/">The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling</a></p> <p>Therapy for Black Men: <a href="https://therapyforblackmen.org/">Find a Therapist</a></p> <p>Therapy for Black Girls: <a href="https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/?_ga=2.138533619.1579268197.1663223195-406225342.1659574403">Find a Therapist</a></p> <p>BetterHelp: <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/">https://www.betterhelp.com/</a></p> <p>TalkSpace: <a href="https://www.talkspace.com/">https://www.talkspace.com/</a></p> <p>CBT Thought Diary: <a href="https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/">https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/</a></p> <p>Libby Audiobook Library: <a href="https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/">https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/</a><br></p>