It's About DAMN Time

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record.It’s late. I’m tired. Life is life right now. Then I got a message from my cousin about his daughter graduating… and it got me thinking.What do we actually say to this next generation?Not the usual advice. Not the clichés. Not the “follow your dreams” speech.Because if we’re being honest… we’ve never seen a world like this before.In this episode, I wrestle with that question in real time. What can we teach them? What do we even know for sure? And why does letting them figure it out feel so damn hard?This is for the parents. The aunties. The uncles. The older cousins. Anybody trying to guide someone… while still figuring it out themselves.And to the Class of 2026… We love you. We got you. Even when we don’t have the answers.In this episode:Why advice doesn’t hit the same anymoreThe fear we don’t say out loud about the futureLetting go of control as a parent and as familyWhat support really looks like nowWhy your actions matter more than your wordsConnect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do… is nothing.This wasn’t planned. No outline. No script. Just me being honest about something I don’t always get right… rest.I went into this week thinking I needed to travel, be outside, create content, stay consistent, and “make the most” of my time off.My body said nah.So I listened.In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like to slow down when everything in you is telling you to keep going. The guilt. The fear. The voice in your head saying you’re about to fall off if you stop.And the realization that maybe… you’re not unmotivated.You’re just tired.What we get into:The difference between being tired and being depressedWhy rest feels uncomfortable when you’re used to being in survival modeHow “time off” can still lead to burnout if you don’t actually slow downThe fear of losing momentum when you stopWhy your body will force you to sit down if you don’t choose toIt’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time you stop negotiating your rest.Not two hours. Not “after I finish this one thing.” Not when everything is perfect.If you’re tired… sit down somewhere.D.A.M.N. Challenge:Pay attention to your body this week.If you know you’re tired, don’t push through it just to prove something.Don’t dress up exhaustion as discipline.Rest until you actually feel recharged… then get back to it.Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance.I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode.But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex.It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off.And it’s showing up everywhere.In my sleep.In my stress.In my body.And yeah… in my sex life too.This episode is for the people who carry the weight for everyone else and forgot how to carry anything for themselves.If you’ve ever been the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody leans on… this one is for you.What we get into:Why this isn’t really about sex or performanceHow being “always on” shows up in your bodyThe difference between resting and just pausingWhy pleasure feels like pressure when you can’t let goHow stress quietly runs your life if you don’t check itIt’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time I stop treating rest like a reward… and start treating it like a requirement.D.A.M.N. Challenge:This week, don’t try to fix anything.Just notice where you’re holding tension.Your shoulders.Your chest.Your stomach.Your breath.Then do one small thing to relax.Not perfect. Not deep. Not life-changing.Just one win.Take the bath.Go to bed early.Sit still for a minute.We’re not chasing home runs.We’re stacking small wins.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body?This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.”At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless.But this conversation turned into something deeper.We talked about:The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains youThe lie we tell ourselves about “security”Why quitting without proof of concept is dangerousThe difference between choosing your passion and choosing yourselfScarcity mindset vs. intentional transitionWhy you can’t analyze your way into entrepreneurshipThis isn’t a “burn it all down” episode.It’s about the internal math.The emotional cost.The identity split of holding on to two worlds at once.If you’ve ever thought:“I know this isn’t where I’m supposed to be… so why am I still here?”This one’s for you.In This Episode:When “stable” starts feeling like a trapWhy one of your identities eventually has to dieThe danger of romanticizing entrepreneurshipHow to build revenue before you make the leapWhy service — not ego — drives incomeWhat I’m still wrestling with in my own careerIt’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we stop glorifying quitting…and start asking what staying is costing us.Connect with Arylle YoungFind her on all platforms: @ArylleYoungShe helps podcasters turn their voice into revenue with strategy, not vibes.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop nowMentioned in this episode:Ready to Make Your Podcast Actually Pay You?If you’ve been thinking about starting a podcast… or you already have one and it’s not making money yet… this is for you. Arylle created a Podcast System Audit to help you get clear on what’s working, what’s not, and how to structure your podcast with profitability in mind from day one. This isn’t about posting episodes and hoping something sticks. It’s about: Building a podcast that opens real opportunities Creating a strategy that fits your life and goals Making money without the long, drawn-out guessing game If your goal is freedom, not just content… start here. Grab the Podcast System Audit here: https://podcashmachine.com/podcast-system-auditPodcast System Audit

I grew up in church.God was always the right answer.Mess up? God.Feel guilty? God.Need forgiveness? Quote a verse and reset.But depression changed everything.When my mental health started slipping, my faith didn’t disappear. My trust did. I didn’t feel guided. I didn’t feel covered. I didn’t feel held.And when I was struggling the most, I kept hearing the same thing:“You’re not praying hard enough.”In this episode, I talk openly about my fractured relationship with God.Not from a place of rebellion.From a place of honesty.I still believe in a Creator.I just don’t know what our relationship is anymore.This isn’t anti-God.It’s anti-performing faith.If you’ve ever felt abandoned in your darkest season…If your depression made you question what you were taught…If you believe but don’t feel connected…This conversation is for you.What We Talk AboutGrowing up in a Black Southern household where God was the solution to everythingHow faith sometimes felt like a spiritual reset buttonWhen depression made trust disappearThe “pray harder” narrative and how it damaged more than it healedWhy suffering in the Bible is accepted, but mental health struggles aren’tComparing my relationship with God to my relationship with my fatherWanting peace more than answersThe difference between believing in God and feeling held by HimWhy you shouldn’t force a version of faith that doesn’t match where you are emotionallyIt’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about DAMN time we stop forcing a relationship with God that doesn’t reflect where we actually are.Be honest about your faith.Be honest about your doubt.Be honest about your pain.Truth is not rebellion.It’s alignment.If This Episode ResonatedYou are not broken.You are not faithless.You are human.Share this episode with someone who doesn’t have the words yet.Let them know they’re not alone.Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now