It's About DAMN Time

This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance.I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode.But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex.It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off.And it’s showing up everywhere.In my sleep.In my stress.In my body.And yeah… in my sex life too.This episode is for the people who carry the weight for everyone else and forgot how to carry anything for themselves.If you’ve ever been the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody leans on… this one is for you.What we get into:Why this isn’t really about sex or performanceHow being “always on” shows up in your bodyThe difference between resting and just pausingWhy pleasure feels like pressure when you can’t let goHow stress quietly runs your life if you don’t check itIt’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time I stop treating rest like a reward… and start treating it like a requirement.D.A.M.N. Challenge:This week, don’t try to fix anything.Just notice where you’re holding tension.Your shoulders.Your chest.Your stomach.Your breath.Then do one small thing to relax.Not perfect. Not deep. Not life-changing.Just one win.Take the bath.Go to bed early.Sit still for a minute.We’re not chasing home runs.We’re stacking small wins.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body?This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.”At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless.But this conversation turned into something deeper.We talked about:The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains youThe lie we tell ourselves about “security”Why quitting without proof of concept is dangerousThe difference between choosing your passion and choosing yourselfScarcity mindset vs. intentional transitionWhy you can’t analyze your way into entrepreneurshipThis isn’t a “burn it all down” episode.It’s about the internal math.The emotional cost.The identity split of holding on to two worlds at once.If you’ve ever thought:“I know this isn’t where I’m supposed to be… so why am I still here?”This one’s for you.In This Episode:When “stable” starts feeling like a trapWhy one of your identities eventually has to dieThe danger of romanticizing entrepreneurshipHow to build revenue before you make the leapWhy service — not ego — drives incomeWhat I’m still wrestling with in my own careerIt’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we stop glorifying quitting…and start asking what staying is costing us.Connect with Arylle YoungFind her on all platforms: @ArylleYoungShe helps podcasters turn their voice into revenue with strategy, not vibes.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop nowMentioned in this episode:Ready to Make Your Podcast Actually Pay You?If you’ve been thinking about starting a podcast… or you already have one and it’s not making money yet… this is for you. Arylle created a Podcast System Audit to help you get clear on what’s working, what’s not, and how to structure your podcast with profitability in mind from day one. This isn’t about posting episodes and hoping something sticks. It’s about: Building a podcast that opens real opportunities Creating a strategy that fits your life and goals Making money without the long, drawn-out guessing game If your goal is freedom, not just content… start here. Grab the Podcast System Audit here: https://podcashmachine.com/podcast-system-auditPodcast System Audit

I grew up in church.God was always the right answer.Mess up? God.Feel guilty? God.Need forgiveness? Quote a verse and reset.But depression changed everything.When my mental health started slipping, my faith didn’t disappear. My trust did. I didn’t feel guided. I didn’t feel covered. I didn’t feel held.And when I was struggling the most, I kept hearing the same thing:“You’re not praying hard enough.”In this episode, I talk openly about my fractured relationship with God.Not from a place of rebellion.From a place of honesty.I still believe in a Creator.I just don’t know what our relationship is anymore.This isn’t anti-God.It’s anti-performing faith.If you’ve ever felt abandoned in your darkest season…If your depression made you question what you were taught…If you believe but don’t feel connected…This conversation is for you.What We Talk AboutGrowing up in a Black Southern household where God was the solution to everythingHow faith sometimes felt like a spiritual reset buttonWhen depression made trust disappearThe “pray harder” narrative and how it damaged more than it healedWhy suffering in the Bible is accepted, but mental health struggles aren’tComparing my relationship with God to my relationship with my fatherWanting peace more than answersThe difference between believing in God and feeling held by HimWhy you shouldn’t force a version of faith that doesn’t match where you are emotionallyIt’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about DAMN time we stop forcing a relationship with God that doesn’t reflect where we actually are.Be honest about your faith.Be honest about your doubt.Be honest about your pain.Truth is not rebellion.It’s alignment.If This Episode ResonatedYou are not broken.You are not faithless.You are human.Share this episode with someone who doesn’t have the words yet.Let them know they’re not alone.Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This week I’m joined by content creator, podcaster, and entrepreneur friend Kat P.We talked about what it really means to be “unfiltered” without being emotionally reckless. How overthinking shows up even when you look fearless online. Why content creation can turn into therapy before you ever step foot in therapy. And how being honest can free you… or burn the whole bridge down.It’s funny. It’s a little wild. It’s real. And somehow we still landed the plane.If you’ve ever held your tongue, edited yourself for comfort, or talked yourself out of living your life… this one’s for you.In This Episode, We Get IntoWhy both of us avoid going live and overthink everythingThe difference between being unfiltered and being emotionally recklessWhen honesty inspires people vs. when it hurts peopleContent creation as a diary, an outlet, and a form of survivalTherapy, avoiding therapy, and what finally pushes you to goWork life vs. real life and hiding your personality to keep a paycheckInternet trolls, clapbacks, and when it’s worth respondingThe consequences of “saying it with your chest”Doing it for the plot… and knowing when to chillIt’s About DAMN Time SegmentKat’s take: stop thinking so much and do the thing. Get rejected. Get uncomfortable. Start over. Live anyway.Because life is already hard. You might as well enjoy it on purpose.Where to Find Kat PTikTok: @art_n_shytInstagram: @art_n_shytYouTube: @thoughtsnshyt3306Podcast: Thoughts N ShytCalls to ActionIf this episode hit you, send it to your “I overthink everything” friend.And if you’ve been filtering yourself to make other people comfortable… let this be your sign.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

We’ve all had that moment.The one where something felt off… but we stayed anyway.In this conversation with Jhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner, we unpack the difference between lust, love, and longing and the ways we ignore our own intuition in the moment. From intense chemistry and love bombing to slow burns and emotional awareness, this episode is about learning how to recognize what your body already knows.If it isn’t love… what is it?And more importantly...why do we keep choosing it?What We Get IntoThe difference between lust, love, and longingWhy intense chemistry can feel right—but still be wrongLove bombing vs. the slow burnMistaking physical intimacy for emotional connectionIgnoring red flags we definitely sawLearning to trust your intuition in relationshipsWhat it really means to “do it for the plot” (and why it backfires)It’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we listen to our intuition when it comes to love…and stop ignoring what we already know.About the GuestJhamyne “Jhazzy” Joyner is a poet, creative, and storyteller currently working on her upcoming poetry book, I Should’ve Known by the Way You Kissed Me, a project that explores lust, love, longing, and loss through lived experiences and reflection.Tap In with Jhazzy📍 Instagram: @allthatjazz_📍 Poetry Page: @quotedbyjhané📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now