No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever tried gentle parenting and still wondered what to do when your kid says shut up to you, this episode is for you. When your kid tells you to shut up, your face gets hot and your brain can go blank. In this solo episode, I explain what is usually going on underneath those words and walk you through five calm steps for kids third grade and up, plus an easy adjustment for younger kids. You'll also hear why your own triggers matter and why you deserve the same pause you give your kids. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "shut up" usually means overwhelm or a need for more say, not disrespect The question that gets you further than "what do I do?": what happened right before Five calm steps for kids third grade and up: let the shock land, get quiet and don't tower, name it and leave, take the time you need, and come back to repair How to adjust for younger kids with a simple "I need to go to the bathroom, I'll be right back" How to work with your own triggers and why you deserve a tap out Resources mentioned in this episode The Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom Penn State study on harsh parenting and children's stress regulation Laura Markham on parenting triggers (Today's Parent) No Guilt Mom on Instagram (share your strategy on the five steps post) NoGuiltMom.com Follow the podcast on Spotify Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist, five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. You validate your kid's feelings. You explain the reasoning behind every rule. And your kid still melts down anyway. Child development specialist and author Dr. Siggie Cohen joins JoAnn to explain the missing piece: why kids speak the language of emotion while parents default to logic, and exactly what to say when bedtime, screens, or "get ready" turns into a nightly fight. In this episode, you'll learn: Why explaining the "why" behind a boundary doesn't get your kid to comply The real reason "how many times do I have to tell you" backfires every time How to validate your kid's feelings without caving to what they want The exact language to use during transitions like bedtime and screen time Why staying calm and confident, not permissive, is what actually helps your kid through a meltdown Resources mentioned in this episode: You Are the Parent by Dr. Siggie Cohen The Happy Mom Reset (free class) Ready to feel calmer and more confident in your parenting? Join us for the free Happy Mom Reset class. Protect your loved ones without spying on them. Go to https://heypolo.com/ngm or use code NGM and get 70% off your first year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're carrying the mental load and wondering how to stop being the default parent, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Nobody sits down and decides to become the default parent. It happens one "I'll just grab it" at a time. In this solo episode, I share the seven rules I follow so I'm not the default parent in my house, from the "go ask Dad" rule I started when my kids were little to the overflowing trash I refuse to take out. In this episode, you'll learn: Why being the default parent is a set of habits, not a personality trait How to end the "I do everything" fight by seeing the real split in your house Why doing your partner's jobs to be nice backfires, and what to say instead The simple "go ask Dad" rule that retrains your kids Why "it's just easier if I do it" is a trap, and how to let your partner do it his way Resources mentioned in this episode: Home Responsibility Calculator (free): see the real split in your house Skylight Calendar: $30 off the 15-inch calendar #ad #sponsored The Fair Play Deck by Eve Rodsky The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom on Instagram: come tell me your calculator results Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever struggled with people pleasing and wondered why you put everyone else's needs before your own even when it's costing you, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist Jessica Anne Pressler joins JoAnn to talk about self-abandonment, the pattern of putting everyone else first until you disappear from your own life. They dig into where it starts in childhood, how it shows up as people pleasing and trauma bonding in adult relationships, and how to finally start trusting yourself again. In this episode, you'll learn: What self-abandonment actually means, and why most moms do it without realizing it Why your kids learn more from watching you take care of yourself than from anything you tell them What a trauma bond is and why it can feel like an addiction The gray rock method for dealing with someone who wants a reaction from you A simple script for talking back to the inner voice that keeps you stuck (Jessica calls it "the traitor within") Resources mentioned in this episode: Jessica Anne Pressler on Instagram Jessica's novel, Traitor Within, out now The Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Happy Mom Reset (free class) The Best Mom is a Happy Mom (JoAnn's book) No Guilt Mom podcast page Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify No Guilt Mom on Instagram No Guilt Mom on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If gentle parenting has you wanting to back your daughter up without shaking things up at school, but you're stuck on why she keeps getting dress coded in the first place, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. JoAnn goes solo this week on a topic she's been sitting with since her own middle school uniform battles: dress codes, and why they land so much harder on girls than boys. She pulls the research on where dress codes actually came from, what "self-objectification" does to a girl's brain and test scores, and ties it directly into this week's Sydney Sweeney ad backlash. Then she gives you the exact conversation to have with your daughter the next time she comes home dress coded. In this episode, you'll learn: Why dress codes were never really about safety, and where they actually came from The research showing it's girls' bodies, not their behavior, that dress codes target What "self-objectification" is, and how it can measurably lower a girl's test performance Exactly what to say (and not say) when your daughter comes home dress coded How to help her decide whether to comply or push back, in her own words Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder — our family cooperation system The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom website No Guilt Mom on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices