No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you keep doing everything yourself, even when you're exhausted, this episode is for you. You're not tired from the tasks on your plate. You're tired from the parts of the job nobody can see: the noticing before and the checking after. In this episode, I share the research behind that invisible work, a few of my own stories (including moments where I got it wrong), and a simple way to hand over the whole job, not just one more task. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the heaviest part of your load is the part nobody can see The four stages of every household job and which ones moms tend to hold What I call the default loop, and why it keeps you doing it all Why taking a job back costs you more than it saves (my holiday gift-wrapping story) How to hand over the whole job this week, and why their frustration is part of the learning Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder: a cooperative family game that does the asking for you No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom Tell me which job you're handing off: @noguiltmom on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you're the only one who notices what needs to be done around the house, this episode is for you. Sam Kelly, author of Notice and Do, joins me to talk about the moment she realized she was teaching her kids to rely on her for all the noticing, just like her husband had. We talk about the rage that comes with carrying the mental load, why a chore system only gets you half of the way there, and how to hand over ownership without hovering. In this episode, you'll learn: Why noticing is a teachable skill, just like brushing your teeth or tying your shoes How to turn grief and rage about the mental load into fuel for change What the Big Three and learning ladders are, and how they give kids real ownership Why a chore chart relies on you to do all the noticing and delegating, and what to do instead How pre-existing motivators work for strong-willed and ADHD kids, and why the pushback is temporary Resources mentioned in this episode: Notice and Do: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load by Sam Kelly Sam Kelly's website Sam Kelly on Instagram (@samkelly_world) Happy Home Ladder No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn No Guilt Mom podcast page Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever felt mom guilt after yelling and wondered why you yell at the same time every day, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our ⁠Start Here playlist⁠ — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. Your yelling probably has a timestamp, and that does not mean something is wrong with you. I share three stories, from a childhood kitchen sink to a 5 p.m. toddler "no" to a 10 p.m. bedtime request, and walk you through why your yelling window happens and the smallest possible plan for changing it. In this episode, you'll learn: Why you tend to yell at the same moment almost every day, and why that makes it a pattern instead of a character flaw The sequence behind a yelling moment: the trigger, the feeling, and the sentence your brain adds a half second later Why the belief that your kid did it on purpose fuels anger, and how to start rewriting that sentence when you are calm How to make an if-then plan that says what you will do instead of what you are trying to stop Why you don't need more patience in your yelling window, you need a plan Resources mentioned in this episode: The Happy Home Ladder: a simple cooperative family game so you don't have to ask daily The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn The No Guilt Mom Inner Circle Follow the show on Spotify Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

New here? Start with our Start Here playlist, five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you pass your own stress onto your kids without meaning to, this episode is for you. Ever wonder why your reaction to something small, like your kid not eating dinner, feels way bigger than the moment itself? In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Edith Shiro, author of The Unexpected Gift of Trauma, breaks down how stress and trauma pass from parent to child without either of you realizing it, and what you can actually do to interrupt the cycle. In this episode, you'll learn: How to tell when your reaction to your kid is really about something from your own past A 5-minute script to repair with your child after you react in a way you're not proud of Why validating your child's feelings, even before you set a limit, makes discipline actually work How to handle a teenager's rejection without taking it personally What to say when your child is being bullied, or is the one doing the bullying Resources mentioned in this episode: Dr. Edith Shiro's website The Unexpected Gift of Trauma by Dr. Edith Shiro Dr. Edith Shiro on Instagram The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl The Happy Mom Reset, a free class Ready to stop the yelling and guilt cycle in your own home? Grab your spot in The Happy Mom Reset. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you've ever struggled with mom guilt and wondered why you're so hard on yourself as a mom, this episode is for you. New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood. That harsh voice in your head may not be yours. Bestselling author and relationship coach Sabrina Bendory joins JoAnn to explain the mother wound, the role you learned to play as a child, and how both show up in your relationships and your parenting. You'll also hear what to say to your child after you've yelled, and why your child's neediness can stir up feelings that have nothing to do with them. In this episode, you'll learn: What the mother wound is, in plain terms, and why it shapes how you treat yourself Why two things can be true: your mother did her best and your needs still weren't met How the "role self" you built as a child to feel safe still runs your adult relationships Why your child's needs can trigger anger, and the grief that may be underneath it A simple repair after you yell: "That was not your fault" Resources mentioned in this episode: Happy Home Ladder The Feminine Code by Sabrina Bendory Detached by Sabrina Bendory You Will Be OK podcast on Instagram Sabrina Bendory on Instagram No Guilt Mom Inner Circle The Best Mom is a Happy Mom by JoAnn Crohn Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book mentioned in the episode) Thank you to our sponsors! Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/omnin6le #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement, for the Sutton debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton and for the Bancorp debit flex card at cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp. Savings and Offers provided by Cash App, a Block Inc. brand. Offers may not be affiliated with third party merchants. Parents and legal guardians can open a managed account for kids 6-12. Cash App will pass through a portion of the interest paid on your savings balance held in an account for the benefit of Cash App customers at Wells Fargo Bank, N.A., Member FDIC. To earn interest on your Cash App savings balance, you need to have sponsor approval. Exceptions may apply. Savings yield rate is subject to change. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices