Robin Dreeke on Curiosity, Connection, and Honeypots: Lessons from FBI Counterintelligence
Kelly interviews former FBI counterintelligence agent Robin Dreeke about how curiosity, nonjudgment, and precise word choice build connection and elicit truth, while labels like “liar” trigger defensiveness, shame, and “shields up.” Dreeke explains reframing accusations (stealing, deception) as safety and agenda issues, using “what” questions over “why,” and treating gut instincts as noticing deviations (“wobbles”) without jumping to biased stories. They discuss shame as a powerful tool...