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Dirty talk can feel… intimidating. What do you say? When do you say it? What if it comes out weird, awkward, or just not you? In this solo episode, we’re breaking down how to talk dirty in a way that actually feels natural, fun, and authentic to YOU.  We cover: Why dirty talk feels so hard for so many people. How shame, pressure, and the idea of needing to “perform” can make it feel intimidating instead of fun. What dirty talk actually is (and what it’s not). Why it’s not about saying the “perfect” explicit line, and how it can be playful, romantic, confident, or even a little silly. How to start dirty talk without feeling awkward. Simple, low-pressure ways to ease into it. Real-life dirty talk examples you can actually use. Easy phrases like saying what you like, sharing fantasies, narrating sensations, and giving compliments that feel natural and doable. How to make dirty talk feel authentic to YOU. Why you don’t need to be a different person or “sexier version” of yourself, and how to find what genuinely turns you on. Confidence hacks to get out of your head during sex. Using humor, trying on a persona if it helps, and focusing on fun instead of performance. What to do when dirty talk goes wrong (because it will). How to laugh it off, recover in the moment, communicate after, and keep the experience light instead of shutting down. A simple dirty talk framework to fall back on. Using sensations, actions, and emotions as an easy formula when you don’t know what to say. Why dirty talk is a learned skill (not something you’re born good at). How practice, repetition, and lowering the stakes can completely change your confidence over time.  Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet FREEBIE! Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Tara, tenured professor, award-winning researcher, and author of the new book "How Do You Like It: A Guide For Getting What You Want (In Bed)," to talk about what it actually takes to have a satisfying, connected sex life. From communication to confidence to understanding what it is you like, this conversation breaks down the practical skills behind better sex. We Cover: Why great sex is a learned skill, not something you’re just “good at.” Breaking down the myth that sex should come naturally and why education, practice, and communication matter. How to figure out what you actually want in bed. Simple ways to explore your desires, preferences, and turn-ons without shame or pressure. The biggest communication mistakes couples make about sex. Why avoiding conversations leads to disconnection and how to start talking about sex in a way that feels safe and productive. How to ask for what you want without feeling awkward or rejected. Practical tools for expressing needs, giving feedback, and building confidence when communicating about sex. Why desire can feel confusing or inconsistent in relationships. Understanding different desire styles and why your sex drive might not work the way you think it should. How to create more satisfying and connected sex in long-term relationships. Small shifts that can make a big difference in intimacy, pleasure, and emotional connection. What’s getting in the way of your sex life (and how to start shifting it). Common blockers like stress, shame, and unrealistic expectations, and how to work through them in real life. Connect with Dr. Tara by buying her book "How Do You Like It" HERE, following her on Instagram HERE, or going to her website HERE! Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, we’re sitting down with Dr. Jennifer Lincoln, OB-GYN and OB hospitalist, to talk about birth in the only way we know how... with a whole lot of honesty and oversharing. So many people go into labor thinking they know what to expect… and then everything feels confusing, fast, or completely different than what they had planned. We talk about what’s actually normal, how decisions get made in the moment, and how to stay informed without feeling overwhelmed by it all. We Cover: What “normal labor” actually looks like (and why it’s more flexible than you think). Breaking down the stages of labor, timelines, and variations so you understand what’s typical, what’s not, and why there’s a wide range of normal when it comes to childbirth. How to advocate for yourself during labor and delivery in a medical system that can feel overwhelming. What informed consent really means, how to ask questions, and how to feel more in control of your birth experience even in high-pressure or emergency situations. The biggest myths about birth and pregnancy on social media (and what’s actually evidence-based). Separating fear-based narratives and misinformation from real medical guidance so you can make decisions rooted in facts, not that random TikTok you saw while doom scrolling. Your options during labor: inductions, C-sections, epidurals, and everything in between. A clear, judgment-free breakdown of common interventions, what they involve, and how to decide what’s right for you and your body. What happens when things don’t go according to plan (and how to navigate unexpected outcomes). Understanding complications, emergency scenarios, and how to mentally and emotionally prepare for the unpredictable nature of birth. How to approach decision-making when labor isn’t progressing as expected. Exploring how providers assess labor in real time, what “not progressing” actually means, and how to stay informed instead of rushed or pressured. Why so many people still feel unprepared for birth (even after doing all the research). How overwhelming information, lack of clear guidance, and mixed messaging can still leave you feeling unsure going into labor. Connect with Dr. Lincoln by buying "The Birth Book" and following her in Instagram. Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.  The Question: “All my friends talk about how amazing their sex lives are, and meanwhile my partner and I are struggling. It’s starting to make me feel like something is wrong with me or our relationship. We’ve been together a couple years… is it normal to have this many issues or is this a red flag?” What We Cover in This Episode: Why it feels like everyone else is having better sex than you. The truth about comparison, what people don’t share about their sex lives, and how this impacts your confidence. What are actual red flags in a sex life vs normal relationship struggles. How to tell the difference between fixable intimacy issues and deeper problems like lack of care, effort, or emotional connection. Why your sex life might not feel good (and it’s not your fault). How poor sex education, lack of communication, and not knowing your own desires can create a disconnect in the bedroom. How to figure out what you like sexually. Practical ways to explore desire, including solo play, Want/Will/Won’t lists, and expanding your understanding of pleasure. How to communicate about sex without making it awkward. Simple ways to talk about turn-ons, turn-offs, and different desire styles like responsive vs spontaneous desire. How to improve your sex life and feel more connected to your partner. Taking pressure off, redefining what sex means beyond penetration, and creating a version of intimacy that actually works for you. FREE "Want, Will, Won't List" here! Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pelvic floor health is one of the most overlooked parts of our bodies, and for many people with vulvas, it’s the missing link to better pleasure, stronger orgasms, and feeling more connected to their body. This week, we’re joined by Jana Danielson, founder of Bloom Better, a longtime Pilates instructor, pelvic floor educator, and creator of the Cooch Ball, a pelvic floor fitness tool designed to help people reconnect with their bodies. Jana shares her personal journey from years of chronic pain and medical dismissal to becoming a leader in pelvic floor education. We talk about why pelvic floor health matters for everything from core strength to sexual pleasure, how shame has kept many of us disconnected from this part of our body, and the small things you can start doing today to support pelvic floor health. We cover: Jana’s journey from chronic pain to pelvic floor advocacy. How years of unexplained pain, medication, and medical dismissal led Jana to explore movement, Pilates, and the pelvic floor as a path toward healing. Why the pelvic floor is so misunderstood. How shame, lack of education, and gaps in traditional health care have left many people disconnected from this important part of their anatomy. The role the pelvic floor plays in pleasure and sexual function. Why pelvic floor health impacts arousal, orgasm, and sensation more than most people realize. How movement and breath affect pelvic floor health. The connection between the nervous system, breath, posture, and pelvic floor engagement. Common pelvic floor issues many people experience. From tension and pain to weakness and lack of awareness, and why these challenges are more common than most people think. How Pilates and body awareness can improve pelvic floor function. Why strengthening, relaxing, and reconnecting with the pelvic floor can transform both physical comfort and sexual wellbeing. The inspiration behind the Cooch Ball. How Jana created the first pelvic floor fitness tool designed specifically to help people release tension and reconnect with their pelvic floor. Why pelvic floor care matters at every stage of life. From postpartum recovery to aging and menopause, and why this part of the body deserves attention long before problems show up. CLICK HERE to get your own Cooch Ball!  Connect with Jana on Instagram or TikTok. ⁠Interested in 1:1 coaching with Cass & Em? Book a FREE strategy sesh HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices