What if the thing holding us back isn't failure? What if it's the constant feeling that we should already be further ahead? After paddling 470km down the Hunter River, Evan Sutter found himself repeatedly confronting the same thought: "I should be further ahead by now." Further down the river. Further in business. Further in life. Further towards the person he thought he was supposed to become. In this episode of Sutterfaction, Evan explores why we often compare our reality to an imaginary timeline — and how that creates frustration, anxiety and the feeling that we're falling behind. Drawing on lessons from the river, fatherhood, building SwiftReporter, studying psychology and years of exploring wellbeing and human behaviour, Evan reflects on the difference between having goals and becoming trapped by expectations. Because progress is rarely as obvious as we expect. Sometimes the most important growth happens quietly. Sometimes the work nobody sees is the work that matters most. The question is: What if you're not behind? What if you're exactly where this chapter of your journey needs you to be?

Sutterfaction

Evan Sutter

EP. 27 - The Most Dangerous Phrase in Life

JUN 13, 20267 MIN
Sutterfaction

EP. 27 - The Most Dangerous Phrase in Life

JUN 13, 20267 MIN

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<p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">In this episode:</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Why "I should be further ahead by now" might be one of the most damaging thoughts we carry</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">The unexpected lessons from paddling 470km down the Hunter River</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Why progress doesn't always look like progress</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">The hidden work behind building businesses</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">How fatherhood changes your understanding of growth and patience</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">The danger of comparing reality to an imaginary timeline</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learning to work with reality instead of fighting it</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Mentioned:</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Run River Run</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">SwiftReporter</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Evan Sutter writings and reflections</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">A question to consider:</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Where in your life have you convinced yourself you're behind?</p><p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">And what if you're not?</p>