How To Channel Your Aggression For Powerful Living
In my latest episode of the How To Series, I look at how to understand anger and aggression, and we get to focus on how to channel aggression best in our lives to be powerful, to crush doubt, and manage our emotional lives well. I begin with an exploration of Sarno’s ideas about anger and the reservoir of rage, but I invite the viewer to take a more specified view with me so that awareness of anger becomes more effective in alleviating emotional symptoms. I also cover why anger is such a hard emotion for so many people of which to be aware, let alone to know how to handle.
The focus of this video is not handling the aggression of others (that’s next week!), but knowing how you are going to handle yours in the best way for you. One of the key components of this interaction with yourself is recognizing that anger can be a wonderful form of self empathy, in that it can occur when you do not like what is happening to the valued self. Seeing it this way allows us to begin to use anger effectively, as we learn to ‘be in our own corner’ while not feeling so invaded or dominated by the other person.
Ultimately, my goal in looking at anger is to be able to help you use it as fuel in your life, rather than having it eat you alive or weigh you down. Anger, as it turns out, is a big motivator and can align you with yourself. This is not so much about how you carry that out with other people, but how you view yourself. Connecting to your core narrative, wanting more for you, recognizing that your goodness or competence can lead to attack from others out of jealousy or feeling threatened, and many more action steps can lead to anger being energy to move forward in your life!
