When the word most associated with 'masculinity' is 'toxic', it's clear we have some problems. Domestic abuse has been called New Zealand's shame, and the Me Too movement has highlighted how powerful men have used their power to abuse women. In this episode, John and Glenn meet a man who has gone from abusing to helping to reform other abusive men. They also speak to Stuff's Me Too editor Alison Mau. This show contains explicit refrences to domesic abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices