Under 10: Mini Podcasts on Intimacy with Dr. Jessica Tartaro

When conflict takes over your relationships, most people default to silence. But silence wounds our relationships. When you use this tool, you won’t have to pay the price of silence between you and your loved ones again. 1:45 I’ve been seeing a lot of this in my private practice1:58 Intimacy will show us the state of our hearts2:24 Relationship challenges like a symptom 2:50 This can keep us in love for a lifetime3:20 The set up for the silence5:04 Silence can inadvertently convey things that aren’t true5:49 The tool for disturbing the silence6:10 An example of putting words to the silence7:05 When we don’t put words to the silence, here’s what we risk”7:57 Other examples8:34 Neither of you has to guess8:48 This week’s homework Resources: The Sound of Silence by Simon & Garfunkel (1964): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fWyzwo1xg0 Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash Contact Information: Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns “She” + “Her” Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/ Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together. Looking for tools you can immediately apply to improve your relationships? Tune into weekly installments of “Under 10: A Mini Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Jessica Tartaro“

Reflective listening is deceptively simple. Anyone can practice it. And it has the potential to help us “catch up” when overwhelming events can be too much to digest on our own.    1:30 Emotionally metabolize events that are too big 2:15 Listening for dummies (not really) 2:35 A reflective listening example 3:04 It’s okay to be skeptical 3:40 It just works - here’s why 3:57 We hear through the filters over our ears 4:30 The costs of the distortion 5:23 Why “feeling heard” is so important 7:10 “I will not try to change you”. 8:44 Help us “catch up” to ourselves 9:07 This week’s homework 9:55 Be sure to include this follow up phrase Resources: Subscribe to my Patreon page to ensure you don’t miss an episode of "Under 10"! Find me at: Patreon.com/DrTartaroIntimacyCoaching. And for this week’s homework, check out Episodes 16 and 42 on my website here: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/under-10-podcast/. Podcast produced by Sal DeRosaliaMusic composed and performed by Aimee Mia KelleyPhoto by Tchoutcho Dantine de Thier on Unsplash Contact Information: Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns “She” + “Her” Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/ Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together. Looking for tools you can immediately apply to improve your relationships? Tune into weekly installments of “Under 10: A Mini Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Jessica Tartaro“

When the going gets tough in relationship, sometimes you need more than words to reconnect you - you need bodies. In this episode "teaser", I introduce why sex as a practice can save and sustain your connection over the long term.  Check out the full show on Patreon.com/DrTararoIntimacyCoaching. 00:48 The door is closed and I’m going to share more candidly from here 1:08 The healing role of lovemaking to reconnect you 1:17 My husband and I had some surprising results 1:25 Sometimes it’s not words that will unblock you, it’s bodies 1:38 The end of this week’s teaser and where to find the rest of the episode 1:54 The perks of being a Patreon subscriber - not just podcasts! Resources: To listen to the rest of this episode and make sure you get all future episodes of "Under 10", go to www.Patreon.com/DrTartaroIntimacyCoaching. I look forward to seeing you there! Contact Information: Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns “She” + “Her” Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/ Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together. Looking for tools you can immediately apply to improve your relationships? Tune into weekly installments of “Under 10: A Mini Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Jessica Tartaro“

Having things unsaid in a relationship will clog the pipes of your connection.  In this episode, I explain that it’s never too late to get vulnerable and bring the flow back.    00:49 Big announcement about “Under 10” 1:39 Where to find me on Patreon going forward 2:10 What “getting stuck” means 2:43 You know you’ve gotten stuck when these things are happening 3:23 Poop metaphor (skip ahead as needed) 4:20 This is what unclogs the pipes 4:45 It’s the vulnerability that creates the flow 5:14 An example from a friend’s hot first date and how she got stuck 7:02 The bad news and the good news about getting unstuck 7:48 This week’s homework 9:32 The pun I couldn’t resist 9:42 I hope to see you on Patreon! Resources: I hope you will consider becoming a patron of my work in order to avoid missing any episodes of "Under 10" as well as to get less edited, more raw content. Ready to go deeper with me? Find me at http://Patreon.com/DrTartaroIntimacyCoaching. And thank you! Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley Photo by Nicholas Ng on Unsplash Contact Information: Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns “She” + “Her” Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/ Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together. Looking for tools you can immediately apply to improve your relationships? Tune into weekly installments of “Under 10: A Mini Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Jessica Tartaro“  

“Just moving on '' after the worst of the pandemic poses major risks to our quality of life and capacity to connect.  When you have the courage to slow down and honor what you just went through, you can retrieve and re-integrate the parts of you that got “stuck” in the stressors of the last two years. 1:15 Tempting to just put the stressors of the last two years behind us 2:00 We have all been affected 2:10 The first time I took my mask off 3:00 The definition and importance of continuity 4:20 Our culture rushes past impact 4:42 This is what could have been said 4:56 A “catching up” 5:42 The high costs of just moving on 6:05 Story by Rabbi Bernath about beauty in a metro station 7:00 Shouldn’t beauty arrest us no matter what we are doing? 7:27 The relationship between stopping for beauty and stopping for pain 8:25 This is how we “unstick” from where we got stuck in the past 8:40 This week’s homework – 3 parts Resources: Read the full essay by Rabbi-Yisroel Bernath, “Missing the Beauty, here: https://st-ignatius.net/missing-the-beauty/.  Check out a blog I wrote about my community’s transition out of masks here: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/masks-coming-off-why-transitioning-gently-matters/.  And contact me for more information about speaking to your group by emailing me at [email protected]. Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley Photo credit Antonio Guillem from iStock Contact Information: Dr. Jessica Tartaro Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator Pronouns “She” + “Her” Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562 Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/ Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together. Looking for tools you can immediately apply to improve your relationships? Tune into weekly installments of “Under 10: A Mini Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Jessica Tartaro“