Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

After betrayal, peace and consistency can sometimes feel surprisingly uncomfortable—even when nothing is actually wrong. This week, Alana explores why the nervous system can mistake what is familiar for what is safe, how hypervigilance can make calm feel threatening, and why safety has to be relearned over time. You’ll also learn a simple question to help you distinguish between something feeling unfamiliar and something truly feeling unsafe. This episode references our past episode - Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW Group Starting! Choose Courageous Couples - Learn how to communicate, reconnect, and take meaningful steps toward a healthier relationship together. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

Therapist Jeremy Levitt (MS, LMFT, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, Functional Nutrition Therapist, Psychedelic Assisted Therapist, Natural Medicine Facilitator) joins us to unpack how legal, clinically-supervised psilocybin therapy is transforming recovery from betrayal trauma and compulsive sexual behavior — from the neuroscience behind it to remission rates for PTSD and addiction that are hard to ignore. It's not a magic pill, but it might be the most powerful tool you haven't considered yet. Tune in to find out why. Are you interested in having a psilocybin-supported healing intensive? Learn more and join our interest list. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Nov 8-11 in Spanish Fork, UT Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. The Integrity Initiative - Group for men to learn how to align their behavior with integrity and authenticity. Tender Resilience - FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity.

After betrayal, many people seeking recovery become highly focused on their partner's reactions. This week Alana explores why using a betrayed partner's immediate emotional response as the measurement of recovery can create instability for both people. The episode explores healthy interdependence, boundaries, self-trust, emotional regulation, accountability, and the difference between relational connection and emotional dependency. Learn how to anchor your recovery internally. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

They stopped the pornography. They ended the affair. They’re in therapy and doing the recovery work—so why do you still not feel safe? In this powerful conversation, Amie joins Luke Gordon and together they unpack the hidden patterns that can continue long after sexual behavior stops, including secrecy, defensiveness, control, image management, and emotional disconnection. They explore what it really takes to move from simply stopping harmful behavior to developing genuine integrity, empathy, and accountability. Get Amie’s FREE video series about identifying abuse. We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

What does it really mean to be a safe person? This week, Alana is joined by Luke Gordon. Together they explore why physical protection is only one part of creating safety—and how emotional regulation, honesty, vulnerability, and the environment we create at home matter just as much. You likely already have the instinct to protect. Now you just need to expand what protection means. Listen to learn: What emotional safety really looks like How regulation creates safety How to expand your definition of “protector” We’d love to hear from you! Fill out this brief survey to let us know your feedback about the podcast! INTENSIVES COMING UP! ***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!*** Revive and Thrive Somatic Intensive for Women - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is October 6-9, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Awakening the Man Within - Join us for a powerful four-day experience designed to help men release shame, old patterns, and what the body still carries, so they can step into greater strength, authenticity, and peace. Come ready to go deeper, reconnect with yourself, and experience the power of healing alongside a brotherhood of men who are doing the same. Women’s retreat in Bali in April 2027 - Join us in beautiful Bali for an unforgettable blend of deep somatic healing, soulful connection, luxury, adventure, and restorative experiences designed to help you release what’s heavy and reconnect with your joy. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW groups at Choose Recovery Services Integrity Initiative - Learn how to align your behavior with your values and live with integrity, authenticity, and connection. Tender Resilience - Heal through art with Beth Woessner. No art experience needed. FREE monthly workshop and 6-Week Group - Use art as a tool to calm your body, regulate your nervous system, and awaken your creativity. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your Life Watch us⁠ on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services ⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation. Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air. More from Choose Recovery Services Beyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values. Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects. Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time. Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships. Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship. Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment. Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses. Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy. Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out. Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.