The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Doctor Alexandra Stockwell, MD | Podcast Guru

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Welcome to "The Intimate Marriage Podcast," the podcast where we explore the secrets to cultivating passionate and intimate relationships. I'm your host, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, aka "The Intimacy Doctor," an experienced intimacy coach and marriage expert. In every committed marriage, intimacy and connection are the foundation for a fulfilling relationship. Join me as we delve into how small shifts and being uncompromising in your daily interactions can lead to profound and nourishing physical/emotional intimacy. During each episode, we'll explore topics such as sexual intimacy, emotional awareness, and building an intimate connection that feels comfortable and authentic for you and your partner. I'll share practical advice and strategies to help you unlock the full potential of your relationship. As "The Intimacy Doctor," I've helped countless couples transform their relationships and create a life filled with passion, purpose, and deep satisfaction. With over two decades of experience, I believe that true intimacy and success stem from being unapologetically yourself. Together, let's uncover the secrets to a juicy, nourishing, and intimate marriage. —----------- Download the first chapter of my bestselling book, "Uncompromising Intimacy," here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=book If you're ready to take your intimacy skills to the next level, explore my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. It's designed specifically for couples who refuse to settle for anything less than extraordinary love and connection. Visit https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/aligned-hot-marriage/?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ahm to learn more. Join my email list to stay connected—it's where I share my latest insights and offer opportunities for live Q & A: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe?utm_source=libsyn&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=subscribe —---------- WHAT DOES AN INTIMACY COACH DO? An intimacy coach is a trained professional who specializes in helping individuals and couples cultivate deeper connections and enhance their intimate relationships. The role of an intimacy coach is to guide and support their clients in exploring various aspects of intimacy, including emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy. Intimacy coaches create a safe and non-judgmental space for their clients to express their needs, desires, and concerns related to intimacy. An intimacy coach helps clients develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence, enabling them to better understand their own desires and those of their partner. They provide guidance on effective communication techniques, conflict resolution, and exploring new ways to deepen emotional and physical intimacy.

Recent Episodes

302. What If You Could Have the Best Sex of Your Life at Any Age? | with Dr. Debra Durst

What happens when we stop treating sexual health as something separate from overall health? For many women, sexual vitality, sensation, arousal, and pleasure gradually change with age, yet these experiences rarely receive the attention they deserve in conventional medicine. In this episode, Alexandra Stockwell, MD sits down with Dr. Debra Durst, known as “The SexMD,” to explore the fourth element of great sex in a long-term relationship: physical health and vitality. Dr. Durst shares how her own journey from emergency medicine to sexual wellness revealed a major gap in healthcare, and why women deserve comprehensive care that addresses sexual function, not simply reproduction or disease prevention. They discuss sexual rejuvenation therapies, hormones, blood flow, erectile tissue, arousal, orgasmic strength, and the experience of feeling more fully connected to your body. Alexandra also shares her own experience receiving treatments at Dr. Durst’s clinic and the striking sense of physical awakening and wholeness she experienced afterward. In this episode, you'll discover: - The four elements required for great sex in a long-term relationship - Why female sexual health receives far less attention than it deserves - What sexual rejuvenation therapy actually addresses - How blood flow, nerve regeneration, and erectile tissue relate to arousal and pleasure - Why sexual vitality deserves attention throughout every stage of life - How Dr. Durst built a practice focused on comprehensive sexual wellness Dr. Durst’s message is simple and powerful: sexual health is not taboo, and we are never too old to embrace sexual creativity, vitality, and pleasure. Learn more about Dr. Debra Durst and RevitalyzeMD: https://www.revitalyzemd.com/ Watch Alexandra Stockwell, MD and Dr. Durst on the SexMD podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ru_mGdHug0

45 MIN

301. The Art of Non-Sexual Physical Touch, and how good it feels

When couples feel disconnected sexually, they often focus on sex itself. But one of the most powerful ways to rebuild closeness is found in a different kind of intimacy: non-sexual physical touch. In this episode, Alexandra Stockwell, MD explores how intentional physical affection creates safety, connection, and attunement between partners. From holding hands and cuddling to giving a massage or simply putting an arm around your spouse, these small moments of touch communicate care without creating pressure or expectations around sex. Alexandra also explains why touch often disappears when couples are out of sync sexually, navigating infertility, or simply overwhelmed by parenting. She offers a practical framework for understanding what kind of touch feels best for each partner, including pressure, pace, and location, and explains why being fully present while touching your spouse makes the experience even more meaningful. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why non-sexual touch is essential for emotional and physical intimacy • How to create affection without making your partner feel pressured for sex • The three variables that determine whether touch feels connecting: pressure, pace, and location • Why your attention matters just as much as the physical touch itself • How everyday affection helps your bodies relax and release emotional armor • Why non-sexual touch actually enhances your sexual connection Intimacy isn't created only through sex. It starts with a hand held gently, an intentional embrace, or simply being fully present with the person you love.

15 MIN

300. What does it take to break generational patterns? | with Rodd Stockwell, MD

None of us gets to choose the family we were raised in. But we do get to decide which patterns we carry forward and which ones end with us. In this special 300th episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Alexandra Stockwell, MD sits down with her husband, Rodd Stockwell, MD, for an unusually personal conversation about fatherhood, family, and the choices that shaped their marriage and their children’s lives. Rodd reflects on growing up with a distant father and the intentional decisions he made to become the kind of father he wanted to be, while Alexandra shares what it looked like for both of them to navigate major changes in work, parenting, and partnership. Together, they explore what it really takes to become more emotionally present, why conflict and discomfort are worth moving through, and how the relationship skills developed in a marriage naturally ripple into the way we parent. In this episode, you'll discover: • How Rodd broke patterns from his own childhood to become a deeply present father• Why being physically available isn't the same as being emotionally present• How curiosity became a powerful tool for connecting with their children• Why rescuing your partner can actually interfere with long-term growth• How navigating conflict in your marriage teaches children how to handle conflict themselves• Why breaking generational patterns requires intentional choices, not perfection The greatest gift we give our children isn't a perfect childhood. It's the experience of seeing adults choose connection, work through discomfort, repair after conflict, and create something healthier than what came before.

31 MIN

299. The most important change begins with you (and how to get started) | with Becky Aste

When you're struggling in your marriage, it's natural to focus on what your partner needs to change. But what happens when you turn your attention inward and begin creating more safety and connection within yourself? In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell, MD welcomes trauma-informed marriage coach and somatic practitioner Becky Aste, who shares the story of taking her own marriage from separation and the brink of divorce to a thriving relationship. After years of therapy, self-development, and trying to understand their patterns, Becky discovered somatic healing and began working with her nervous system in a completely different way. Together, Alexandra and Becky explore the difference between understanding your relationship patterns and actually changing them, how anxious and avoidant nervous systems can get caught in a painful dance, and why becoming more grounded in yourself can send a completely different signal to your partner. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why understanding your relationship patterns isn't enough to change them • What “somatic healing” means and how it impacts your nervous system • How tiny shifts in your own body and behavior change the dynamic between you and your partner • Why an anxious or avoidant partner isn't necessarily uncaring or uninterested • How creating safety within yourself is an invitation for greater connection • Why secure attachment is a learnable skill, not something only developed in childhood You don't have to wait for your partner to change before you begin creating a different relationship. Sometimes the most powerful place to start is within yourself, one small moment of safety, presence, and connection at a time. The results are so worthwhile! Connect with Becky Aste: Website: www.idobreakthrough.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste

33 MIN

298. When you try to fix things but it makes them worse

When something goes wrong, we frequently respond with wanting to do something about it. Fix the problem. Find the solution. Make everything better. And while that can be a wonderful quality, sometimes our urge to fix is actually a way of escaping discomfort. In this episode, Alexandra Stockwell, MD explores the surprising connection between feeling stressed and our tendency to fix. She explains how fight, flight, and freeze can evolve into “fix” in adulthood, particularly for capable, ambitious people who have learned to feel safe by solving problems and keeping everything under control. Alexandra offers practical ways to recognize when you're fixing from a place of stress versus offering solutions from a place of calm, spaciousness, and choice. She also shares simple tools to regulate your nervous system in the moment and to build a more resilient baseline over time. In this episode, you'll discover: • Why “fixing” can become a stress response in adulthood• How to tell the difference between empowered problem-solving and compulsive fixing• Why a calm nervous system is essential for intimacy, communication, and passion• Simple ways to pause and regulate yourself when you're triggered• How meditation, movement, pleasure, nature, and other practices strengthen your nervous system• Why knowing you have multiple options is a sign that responding rather than reacting You don't have to stop fixing things. The invitation is to notice why you're fixing them. When you soothe yourself first, you’ll create the space to respond with greater curiosity, creativity, and connection.

23 MIN