You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach&apos;s feed. But here&apos;s what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren&apos;t right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex&apos;s new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want.Think about it like this: imagine a room filled with puppies and kittens—everything you love. But a rattlesnake sits in the corner. You won&apos;t enjoy a single puppy because your eye stays locked on that snake. That&apos;s how your brain works with dating. One wrong thing captures all your focus while opportunities pass you by.Women tell me they do everything right, yet feel stuck. I always find their attention lives somewhere else—on past hurt, on people&apos;s opinions, on what&apos;s not working. Your surface actions don&apos;t matter when your mind swirls with fear and frustration underneath.This year, learn to direct your attention consciously. Stop the exhausting mental loops. Create space for the love life you want.Ready to redirect your attention and momentum in 2026? Schedule a 90-minute Life Momentum Planning Session at <a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'>sadecurry.com/info</a>. Limited spots available before the holidays.

<description>&lt;p&gt;You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach&amp;apos;s feed. But here&amp;apos;s what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren&amp;apos;t right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex&amp;apos;s new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Think about it like this: imagine a room filled with puppies and kittens—everything you love. But a rattlesnake sits in the corner. You won&amp;apos;t enjoy a single puppy because your eye stays locked on that snake. That&amp;apos;s how your brain works with dating. One wrong thing captures all your focus while opportunities pass you by.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Women tell me they do everything right, yet feel stuck. I always find their attention lives somewhere else—on past hurt, on people&amp;apos;s opinions, on what&amp;apos;s not working. Your surface actions don&amp;apos;t matter when your mind swirls with fear and frustration underneath.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This year, learn to direct your attention consciously. Stop the exhausting mental loops. Create space for the love life you want.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Ready to redirect your attention and momentum in 2026?&lt;/b&gt; Schedule a 90-minute Life Momentum Planning Session at &lt;a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'&gt;sadecurry.com/info&lt;/a&gt;. Limited spots available before the holidays.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey. Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's new girlfriend or rehearse angry texts, you drain the energy you need to create what you want. Think about it like thi...

242. 2026: Dating without Distractions

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you&apos;re navigating the job market or the dating scene.The Four Moves That Changed Everything:1. Set Your Intention I put &quot;full-time employee&quot; on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.2. Build Your Network Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.3. Pivot When You Hear &quot;No&quot; My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A &quot;no&quot; doesn&apos;t mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn&apos;t about you. It&apos;s information.4. Ask for Help Closed mouths don&apos;t get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.Your next chapter starts with one decision.Ready to build the confidence and clarity you need—in love and in life? <a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'>📞</a> Schedule your dating consultation call with Sade today.

<description>&lt;p&gt;Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you&amp;apos;re navigating the job market or the dating scene.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;The Four Moves That Changed Everything:&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;1. Set Your Intention&lt;/b&gt; I put &amp;quot;full-time employee&amp;quot; on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I walked through it.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;2. Build Your Network&lt;/b&gt; Every good thing comes through people. I made connections outside my team—learned names, asked about families, showed up for others. Those relationships became my safety net.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;3. Pivot When You Hear &amp;quot;No&amp;quot;&lt;/b&gt; My boss told me there was nowhere to grow. I believed him—and used that truth to find my next move. A &amp;quot;no&amp;quot; doesn&amp;apos;t mean you lack value. It means your value belongs somewhere else. This is the same lesson I teach my dating clients: rejection isn&amp;apos;t about you. It&amp;apos;s information.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;4. Ask for Help&lt;/b&gt; Closed mouths don&amp;apos;t get fed. I leveraged my network. I asked people to recommend me. Three months later, I landed a new role—just before 400 people got laid off.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Your next chapter starts with one decision.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Ready to build the confidence and clarity you need—in love and in life?&lt;/b&gt; &lt;a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'&gt;📞&lt;/a&gt; &lt;b&gt;Schedule your dating consultation call with Sade today.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene. The Four Moves That Changed Everything: 1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my brain to spot opportunities I would have missed. When the right door opened, I...

241. BONUS: 4 Things I Did To Escape 2 Layoffs In 4 years

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?Here&apos;s what I&apos;ve discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there&apos;s a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women &quot;should&quot; behave in relationships with men.Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.That&apos;s not your childhood trauma. That&apos;s decades of programming about what women owe men.This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That&apos;s okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?Schedule a dating consultation<a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'> call with me</a> and let&apos;s map out your path to a relationship that works for you.

<description>&lt;p&gt;You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Here&amp;apos;s what I&amp;apos;ve discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there&amp;apos;s a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women &amp;quot;should&amp;quot; behave in relationships with men.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows interest, something shifts inside you. You feel pressure to prove your loyalty. To respond on his timeline. To show gratitude that he chose you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;That&amp;apos;s not your childhood trauma. That&amp;apos;s decades of programming about what women owe men.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This conditioning affects how you see your body, how you feel about dating multiple people, and how you respond when a man expects access to your time and attention.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The path forward? Notice without judgment. Slow down. Observe your knee-jerk reactions. Ask yourself: what belief drives this behavior?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Then decide what works for you—not what society dictates.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Self-compassion matters here. Shame will surface. That&amp;apos;s okay. Love yourself through it. Adjust without beating yourself up.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You hold the power to create new patterns that lead you to the right person.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Ready to break free from the patterns that hold you back?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Schedule a dating consultation&lt;a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'&gt; call with me&lt;/a&gt; and let&amp;apos;s map out your path to a relationship that works for you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations? Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think. Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships with men. Think about it. You match with someone on an app, and the moment he shows ...

240. How to Change Your Dating Patterns After Divorce

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here&apos;s the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don&apos;t deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect because you&apos;ve handled worse.But just because you can handle something doesn&apos;t mean you should.I share a coaching breakthrough with a client who discovered she was tolerating poor behavior simply to prove her strength. We discuss why your intuition knows something&apos;s off, yet you override it. We explore the dangerous question: &quot;What&apos;s wrong with me?&quot; And I challenge you to ask better questions: &quot;Is this the experience I want? What does this relationship cost me?&quot;Your power, confidence, and resourcefulness deserve better than babysitting an immature partner. Stop throwing good years after bad. Start asking about your return on investment—not in a transactional way, but by documenting the truth of your experience.You don&apos;t win a prize for enduring what you don&apos;t have to endure. Choose yourself.Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a consultation call with me at [<a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'>https://sadecurry.com/info</a>].

<description>&lt;p&gt;You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here&amp;apos;s the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don&amp;apos;t deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect because you&amp;apos;ve handled worse.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;But just because you &lt;em&gt;can&lt;/em&gt; handle something doesn&amp;apos;t mean you &lt;em&gt;should&lt;/em&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I share a coaching breakthrough with a client who discovered she was tolerating poor behavior simply to prove her strength. We discuss why your intuition knows something&amp;apos;s off, yet you override it. We explore the dangerous question: &amp;quot;What&amp;apos;s wrong with me?&amp;quot; And I challenge you to ask better questions: &amp;quot;Is this the experience I want? What does this relationship cost me?&amp;quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Your power, confidence, and resourcefulness deserve better than babysitting an immature partner. Stop throwing good years after bad. Start asking about your return on investment—not in a transactional way, but by documenting the truth of your experience.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You don&amp;apos;t win a prize for enduring what you don&amp;apos;t have to endure. Choose yourself.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Ready to transform your dating life?&lt;/b&gt; Schedule a consultation call with me at [&lt;a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'&gt;https://sadecurry.com/info&lt;/a&gt;].&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul. In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince yourself you can handle red flags, emotional immaturity, and disrespect bec...

239. Why Successful Women Have Toxic Relationships

You&apos;ve heard people talk about decentering men. But here&apos;s the problem: even that conversation still centers men.In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking &quot;Does he like me?&quot; or &quot;Will he treat me right?&quot;—I teach you to ask better questions: &quot;What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?&quot;This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.Here&apos;s what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don&apos;t beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn&apos;t, you move on. You hold the power.Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald&apos;s if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn&apos;t exist, then ask men to change.Stop that.Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a dating consultation call with <a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'>Sade at sadecurry.com</a> and discover how to date with confidence and get married again.

<description>&lt;p&gt;You&amp;apos;ve heard people talk about decentering men. But here&amp;apos;s the problem: even that conversation still centers men.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking &amp;quot;Does he like me?&amp;quot; or &amp;quot;Will he treat me right?&amp;quot;—I teach you to ask better questions: &amp;quot;What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?&amp;quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Here&amp;apos;s what I mean: You are your own matchmaker. You don&amp;apos;t beg someone to text you more. You evaluate if what you want exists in this relationship. If it does, you stay. If it doesn&amp;apos;t, you move on. You hold the power.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Think about it this way: Why would you apply to work at McDonald&amp;apos;s if you want to study dinosaurs? Yet we do this in dating all the time. We go where what we want doesn&amp;apos;t exist, then ask men to change.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Stop that.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Your time, focus, and energy belong to you. Reclaim them. Build momentum toward your real goals. Center yourself first—then watch everything else fall into place.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Ready to transform your dating life? Schedule a dating consultation call with &lt;/b&gt;&lt;a href='https://sadecurry.com/info'&gt;&lt;b&gt;Sade at sadecurry.com&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;b&gt; and discover how to date with confidence and get married again.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt; </description>

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men. In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?" This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone else first—bosses, husbands, kids. But you deserve to be your own priority. Here's what I mean: You a...

238. Decentering Men, Centering Yourself

Dating after Divorce is a podcast for divorced women that explores the divorce journey and teaches real strategies for fully recovering from a divorce, rebuilding your life, dating and getting happily re-partnered again. Join Certified Life Coach, Sade Curry for real practical wisdom and real-world techniques from her own divorce journey and life coaching practice. Sade teaches you how to quickly go from divorced and alone to happily remarried while building your best life after divorce along the way. Visit http://sadecurry.com to learn more.

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