Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Recent Episodes
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
What happens when one parent shatters you by leaving and the other wounds you by staying? This episode unpacks how two very different kinds of unsafe love can live in your body at the same time.
Amber Trejo is an integrative trauma therapist who helps parents with C-PTSD untangle how their own attachment wounds and nervous system triggers show up in the way they love and raise their kids. She grew up with two alcoholic parents — a father who disappeared overnight and a mother who stayed but pulled her into parentification, emotional abuse, and way too much adult reality. It wasn’t until she fell in love and later became a mother herself that those early wounds surged back as paranoia, dread, and explosive reactions she barely recognized as her own.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️Growing Up With Two Kinds of Unsafe — Why having parents who hurt you in different ways makes it harder to see your trauma clearly, easier to minimize it, and more confusing to sort out which wounds came from where.
▪️Attachment Wounds in “Good” Relationships — Why safe, stable partners can still trigger paranoia, phone checking, and urges to run when your body learned that love and danger always showed up together.
▪️The “I Can’t Get What I Need” Core Wound — How this belief quietly drives functional freeze, overdoing, resentment in relationships, and the feeling that everyone else’s needs matter more than yours, including your kids’.
▪️When Parenting Feels Like a Trauma Relapse — When your child’s tantrums, needs, or clinginess send you into screaming, shutdown, or terror because they mirror the ages when no one comforted you.
▪️Raising Kids While Healing Yourself — What real repair looks like when you’ve yelled, grabbed, or minimized, and how to own the harm without dumping your story on your child or drowning in shame.
▪️Vicarious Sexual Abuse — What it actually is and what it can look like later in life
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community
6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection
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☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat
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Instagram → @adultchildpod
TikTok → @adultchildpod
YouTube → @adultchildpod
SPONSORS
Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
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* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
Long-term recovery doesn’t mean you stop getting triggered — it means you finally see how deep the wiring goes. This episode explores how to navigate those ongoing invitations for growth without turning every setback into proof that you’re failing.
Dr. Sarah Michaud is a clinical psychologist, author of Co-Crazy: One Psychologist’s Recovery from Codependency and Addiction, with decades of personal and professional experience in addiction and codependency recovery.
She shares what it was like to be decades sober and still have her life upended by her husband’s relapse — and how that season forced her to confront layers of shame she thought she’d already outgrown. She also opens up about body-based triggers in a new relationship, the impact of covert childhood trauma, and the journey of self-forgiveness.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️Long-Term Recovery Is Not the Finish Line — Why deeper layers of childhood trauma, CPTSD and codependent patterns can surface decades into sobriety and suddenly make you feel back at square one.
▪️When Insight Doesn’t Equal Healing — How you can understand your trauma, teach this stuff to others, and still repeat old behaviors until your nervous system and body are actually part of the work.
▪️Codependency as “I Can’t Be Myself” — What it really means to chronically over-help, manage or shrink around others and how that pattern keeps adult children of dysfunctional families from feeling safe.
▪️When the Body Remembers Before the Brain — How sleep issues, anxiety spikes and body tension with safe people can be clues that covert emotional or sexual trauma is still stored in the nervous system.
▪️Navigating Triggers With Self-Compassion — How naming activations, regulating before you react and reframing setbacks as invitations for deeper healing can shift you out of “I’m failing at recovery.”
▪️Parenting After Addiction and Neglect — How guilt can turn sober parents into over-givers and why reclaiming boundaries with your kids becomes part of breaking generational trauma and codependency.
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Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community
6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection
🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION
Get the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.
➡️ Join here
💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD
☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat
💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA
Instagram → @adultchildpod
TikTok → @adultchildpod
YouTube → @adultchildpod
SPONSORS
Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.com
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