Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
Recent Episodes
✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
Your childhood isn’t just a memory — it’s still quietly running the show inside your body. This episode unpacks how “The Body Keeps the Score” shows up in ways you might never have connected.
Andrea joins us for a solo episode today, pulling back the curtain on how much of her childhood was still alive in her body long after she thought she’d “done the work.” She shares how a trauma-bonded relationship, nine months of functional freeze, and chronic neck and shoulder pain finally forced her to understand The Body Keeps the Score on a visceral level—not just as an idea. Through her story, she invites you to see your own stuckness, shame, and survival mode as evidence of unfinished trauma, not personal failure.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️ Fragmented Memories & Emotional Flashbacks — How unprocessed childhood experiences get stored in your nervous system and why they show up as emotional flashbacks that feel way out of proportion to the present moment.
▪️ Survival Energy That Never Shut Off — What it means to carry stored fight-or-flight energy in your fascia, muscles, and nervous system, and how that shows up as chronic hypervigilance, numbness, and living in low-grade survival states.
▪️ The Hidden Faces of Functional Freeze — What it looks like when you’re stuck in functional freeze, whether you’re procrastinating endlessly, over-functioning for everyone else, or feeling emotionally numb and disconnected from your own life.
▪️ The Long-Term Impact of Survival Mode — How staying in chronic survival states can lead to physical issues like muscular tension, autoimmune conditions, and chronic pain that are actually linked to stored trauma.
▪️ Limbic System Healing — What it means to actually reprocess and integrate those fragmented memories at the limbic system level, and how this helps reduce emotional flashbacks and bring your nervous system out of survival mode.
Trauma-Bonded No More: My Journey Through Shame, Regression & Finding My Way Back
The Many Faces of Functional Freeze: The Stuck & Shame-Filled Overthinker
The Many Faces of Functional Freeze: The Over-Functioning Fixer
The Many Faces of Functional Freeze: The Detached & Disconnected floater
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Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
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* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
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6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection
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💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD
☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat
💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA
Instagram → @adultchildpod
TikTok → @adultchildpod
YouTube → @adultchildpod
SPONSORS
Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.com
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
What happens when one parent shatters you by leaving and the other wounds you by staying? This episode unpacks how two very different kinds of unsafe love can live in your body at the same time.
Amber Trejo is an integrative trauma therapist who helps parents with C-PTSD untangle how their own attachment wounds and nervous system triggers show up in the way they love and raise their kids. She grew up with two alcoholic parents — a father who disappeared overnight and a mother who stayed but pulled her into parentification, emotional abuse, and way too much adult reality. It wasn’t until she fell in love and later became a mother herself that those early wounds surged back as paranoia, dread, and explosive reactions she barely recognized as her own.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️Growing Up With Two Kinds of Unsafe — Why having parents who hurt you in different ways makes it harder to see your trauma clearly, easier to minimize it, and more confusing to sort out which wounds came from where.
▪️Attachment Wounds in “Good” Relationships — Why safe, stable partners can still trigger paranoia, phone checking, and urges to run when your body learned that love and danger always showed up together.
▪️The “I Can’t Get What I Need” Core Wound — How this belief quietly drives functional freeze, overdoing, resentment in relationships, and the feeling that everyone else’s needs matter more than yours, including your kids’.
▪️When Parenting Feels Like a Trauma Relapse — When your child’s tantrums, needs, or clinginess send you into screaming, shutdown, or terror because they mirror the ages when no one comforted you.
▪️Raising Kids While Healing Yourself — What real repair looks like when you’ve yelled, grabbed, or minimized, and how to own the harm without dumping your story on your child or drowning in shame.
▪️Vicarious Sexual Abuse — What it actually is and what it can look like later in life
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☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat
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Instagram → @adultchildpod
TikTok → @adultchildpod
YouTube → @adultchildpod
SPONSORS
Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.com
* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
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✨ Join Breathe to Heal: A 7-week Somatic Journey to Release & Receive
⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community
6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection
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Get the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.
➡️ Join here
💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD
☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat
💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA
Instagram → @adultchildpod
TikTok → @adultchildpod
YouTube → @adultchildpod
SPONSORS
Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
Check out Calm: https://calm.com/ADULTCHILD
Check out Happy Mammoth, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 15% off happymammoth.com.
Check out SiderAL, Use Code ADULTCHILD for 10% off https://pharmanutra-us.com/
Check out Bioma for 15% of your order gobioma.com/adultchild
Our Sponsors:
* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com
* Check out PharmaNutra and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://pharmanutra-us.com
* Check out Uncommon Goods: https://uncommongoods.com/adultchild
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