<p>Have you ever felt like no matter what you choose, you're somehow still choosing wrong? Or noticed that one person always gets blamed for everything while the real problems never get addressed? You're not imagining it.</p><p>In this episode, we're exposing three manipulation tactics that keep people trapped, compliant, and fighting the wrong battles. These patterns show up in narcissistic relationships, but they don't stop there. Once you understand how they work, you'll start recognizing them in your workplace, in organizations, and in systems you navigate every day.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you'll discover:</strong></p><ul><li><strong>The illusion of choice</strong> – How you're given options that make you feel empowered while someone else controls the outcomes (and why you blame yourself when things go wrong)</li><li><strong>Triangulation and the scapegoat role</strong> – Why every toxic system needs someone to blame, how that person gets chosen, and what happens to everyone else who stays silent</li><li><strong>Dependency and learned helplessness</strong> – How the trap gets built to make you feel like you can't leave, then conditions you to stop trying</li><li><strong>Real-world examples</strong> – From healthcare tied to employment to scapegoating in society, see how these tactics operate at every level</li></ul><p><br></p><br><p>🔗 <strong>Additional Healing Resources &amp; Support: </strong>👉 <a href="https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">movingforwardafterabuse.com</a></p><p>📚<strong> **Books by Lynn**&nbsp;</strong>👉 <a href="https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Go Here</a>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;🎓 <strong>**Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery**</strong>&nbsp;👉 <a href="https://forward-rising-academy.learnworlds.com/course/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-course" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Start the Course</a></p><p>🧘‍♀️ <strong>**Somatic Healing Audio Sessions**&nbsp;</strong>👉 <a href="https://waketheelephant.gumroad.com/?section=fumrexnB_nrWf469tXS3-A==#fumrexnB_nrWf469tXS3-A==" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Listen Now</a>&nbsp;</p><p>📥 <strong>**Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets &amp; 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