<p>This week’s guest is Rachel Overvoll, a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach with Modern Intimacy and the author of <em>Finding Feminism</em>, a memoir that chronicles her journey breaking from a fundamentalist evangelical Christian upbringing and her healing from sexual trauma and domestic abuse. Rachel is also the author of <em>The Breakup Journal</em>, a just released book that offers hands-on, interactive prompts to help you heal from a fractured relationship.</p> <p>This week, I share a sex therapy session with Rachel, where we focus on fantasies and desires, and how to communicate them with our partners. Gulp. </p> <p>Afterwards, we discuss Rachel’s origin story and how she got here and how even experts can still experience trauma in their relationships.</p> <p>PLUS!</p> <p>-spontaneous vs. responsive desire</p> <p>-desire discrepancy and the shame that comes from it</p> <p>-the two types of fantasies – repetition agency vs. reparative</p> <p>-the three most common themes in sex therapy</p> <p>-how do we bring more pleasure into our life?</p> <p>-Rachel’s fantasy for our future</p> <p>Watch this episode on YOUTUBE: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@nakedmanpod">https://www.youtube.com/@nakedmanpod</a> </p> <p>For More Rachel Overvoll </p> <ul> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/finding-feminism-a-memoir-rachel-overvoll/11294361?ean=9781732242746"><em>Finding Feminism: A Memoir</em></a></p> </li> <li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Break-Up-Journal-Rachel-Overvoll/dp/B0CJL28KJP/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+breakup+journal+rachel+overvoll&qid=1698855088&sr=8-1"><em>The Breakup Journal</em></a></p> </li> <li><p>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rachelovervoll">@rachelovervoll</a></p> </li> <li><p>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelovervoll">@rachelovervoll</a></p> </li> <li><p>Rachel’s Spicy <a href="https://app.sunroom.so/user/fa3c2fc7-5150-4a4e-a239-ed01a4cceb46?fromLink=true">Sunroom</a></p> </li> <li><p>Sign Up for a <a href="https://www.modernintimacy.com/certified-somatic-sexuality-coach-rachel-overvoll/">Free Consultation</a>!</p> </li> <li><p>Get Therapy at <a href="https://www.modernintimacy.com/">Modern Intimacy</a></p> </li> </ul> <p>References</p> <ul> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/pleasure-activism-the-politics-of-feeling-good-adrienne-maree-brown/10731855?gclid=CjwKCAjw7oeqBhBwEiwALyHLM0fa8RcEPGC4zvitYOL6dSTW52mWVPaVJZoDA4ikpUFCRBspzNUumRoCaccQAvD_BwE"><em>Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good</em></a> by Adrienne Maree Brown</p> </li> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-emily-nagoski/15822177?ean=9781982165314"><em>Come as You Are</em></a> by Emily Nagoski</p> </li> <li><p><a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/coming-together-embracing-your-core-desires-for-sexual-fulfillment-and-long-term-compatibility-celeste-hirschman-ma/13338137?ean=9780578592657"><em>Coming Together</em></a><em> </em>by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel</p> </li> </ul> <p><em></em><a href="https://account.venmo.com/u/begreenellc">VENMO⁠</a> to support our show. </p> <p><em>The Naked Man Podcast</em> is edited and produced by Freddie Beckley and hosted by Andy Greene. This show is under the umbrella of Be Greene Productions.</p> <p>#mentalhealth #mensmentalhealth #sextherapy #desirediscrepancy #sexcoaching</p>