Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

The Friendship Recession and Its Solution with Jourdann Lubliner. Ep. 214 Welcome back to Becoming: HER - this week’s guest is Jourdann Lubliner — founder & CEO of the newly-launched app and community for couples: Doubles Social. Jourdann has built a platform aimed at intentional connection between couples, helping them build friendships and explore their cities together.But while her app is a fascinating vehicle, today’s episode is about a deeper cultural shift: the changing nature of friendship, connection, and community. According to recent research, the percentage of U.S. adults who report having 10 or more close friends has dropped from about 33 % in 1990 to just 13 % today which a recent piece from Harvard’s Leadership & Happiness Laboratory has called a “Friendship Recession,” meaning not just less time with friends, but a fundamental erosion of the ability to form, maintain, and prioritise friendships. Friendships have been paramount in my life so this is a topic I’m really interested in. Tune in to find out more! In this episode…EffortTwo-way streetDoom scrollingDoubles socialMaking friends vs. making friends as couplesMaintaining sense of individualityNew friendsLonelinessNetworking Quotes“Building intimacy and vulnerability within your couple is crucial.” - Nikki Spo “Little movements to stay connected with friends will help you feel less lonely like enhancing existing modes of communication.” - Jourdann LublinerTimestamps:0:00 - 3:50 | Intro3:50 -7:15 | The app8:10 - 11:35 | The friendship recession11:35 - 13:40 | Our own fault13:40 - 15:40 | Maintaining sense of individuality vs. making friends as couples15:40 - 18:35 | New friends18:35 - 19:25 | Double dates19:25 - 25:30 | Loneliness25:30 - 29:50 | Addressing loneliness to an introvert29:50 - 32:10 | Helping people get active32:10 - 35:50 | Couple friendships35:50 - 38:45 | Digital friendships38:45 - 45:10 | Real vs. online connections45:10 - | What is next for Doubles Social –Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!Connect with Doubles [email protected] Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this powerful and practical episode, I am joined with fitness expert and Menopause Coach Unni Greene Feder, a former competitive figure skater, author, and mother of four who has helped thousands transform their relationship with fitness and their bodies.Unni shares her journey of reinvention after major life changes and breaks down how strength training, nutrition, and mindset can support you through aging, menopause, divorce, overwhelm, and identity shifts.Let’s get started!In this episode…Why strength training is essential during life transitionsHow lifting weights impacts hormones, inflammation, metabolism, and confidenceThe truth about eating “more” to lose fat and build lean massHow to approach menopause and midlife shifts with clarity instead of fearDaily rituals to help you feel strong, radiant, and calmHow fitness helps you regain control and redefine your identityQuotes “I always sought to surround myself with women who were older than me because I wanted their wisdom.” - Nikki Spo “It shouldn’t be more stressful to handle stress.” - Unni Greene Feder If you’re not important to yourself and you don’t hold yourself in high esteem, why do you expect others to respect you and hold you in high esteem.” - Unni Greene Feder Timestamps:0:00 - 3:35 | Intro3:35 - 8:15 | Unni’s background8:15 - 11:00 | Transitions11:00 - 13:35 | Male vs. female trainers13:35 - 14:50 | Women wisdom14:40 - 19:00 | Coaching women in different phases19:00 - 28:55 | Women having the permission to evolve over time28:55 - 35:15 | Self-pity35:35 - 38:55 | Feeling emotions rather than feeling nothing38:55 - 51:45 | Body mechanics & body awareness51:45 - 57:45 | Brain health57:45 - 1:01:10 | Tangible everyday steps to get to the space of strong, calm, & radiant1:01:10 - 1:04:40 | Self-care1:04:40 - 1:07:20 | Admirable women1:07:20 - 1:07:50 | What it means to Unni to become her1:07:50 - 1:10:35 | Outro –SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW. Connect with Unni Greene Federhttps://unnifit.com/ / Eat More to Lose More@unnigreene Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming HER, the space where we celebrate women who rise, rebuild, and keep dreaming no matter the odds.Today’s guest, Dr. Jenisbel Acevedo, is a doctor, philanthropist, content creator, and mother of two whose story is rooted in courage and hope.At just nine years old, Jenisbel left Cuba on a handmade raft built by her father — a journey that taught her to face change with faith and to hold onto her dreams through uncertainty. Her new book, Un Barco de Sueños — A Raft of Dreams — captures that same spirit of resilience and reminds us that it’s never too late to chase what calls your heart.Jenisbel, welcome to Becoming HER.In this episode…The power of courage and faith in the face of adversityHow to hold onto your dreams even when the odds feel impossibleWhat it means to start again — and chase purpose later in lifeThe story behind Un Barco de Sueños and its message of hopeHow the Acevedo Foundation is creating impact and changing livesQuotes“The antidote to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo “Life is about taking chances because if you don’t you will never realize what's on the other side.” - Jensibel Acevedo “It’s okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be afraid. Just don’t allow anyone to tell you who you have to be. No one can tell you, only you know.” - Jensibel Acevedo Connect with Jensibel AcevedoUn Barco de Sueños (A Raft of Dreams)@jenisbelacevedo | @acevedofoundationConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this powerful and refreshingly honest episode of Becoming HER, Nikki sits down with Keesha Scott, mom of three, certified parenting coach, co-founder of Guardian Recovery, and host of the podcast Cake for Dinner.What started as a project tied to her upcoming parenting book has evolved into a movement, one that invites women to have real conversations about motherhood, marriage, sobriety, identity, and the messy middle of becoming who we’re meant to be.Keesha opens up about her personal journey, from early struggles and single motherhood to finding purpose through healing, faith, and self-awareness. She shares how we can release perfectionism, reconnect with who we are in this season, and raise our kids (and ourselves) with more grace and truth.If you’ve ever felt lost in the roles you play as mom, partner, professional, friend, this episode will remind you that becoming her isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about showing up as your truest self, one imperfect day at a time. Tune in.In this episode…The real reason Keesha created Cake for Dinner — and how it grew beyond a book launch.Why women lose their sense of identity in motherhood (and how to reclaim it).The truth about balancing marriage, motherhood, and self.What authenticity really looks like — and how to stop chasing “perfect.”How to strengthen connection and communication with your kids.The mindset shifts that help us thrive in every season of life.Quotes“You can’t outparent genetics.” - Keesha Scott“People don’t connect with perfection. They connect with reality.” - Keesha Scott“Resentment is like drinking the poison but expecting someone else to die.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps:0:00 - 3:05 | Intro3:05 - 6:50 | Paths shifting6:50 - 11:00 | Addiction in young people11:00 - 15:25 | Parenting from a pure space15:25 - 17:55 | Coming out the other side17:55 - 20:55 | Turning point20:55 - 23:15 | Staying sober through the hardships23:15 - 26:15 | Rise of the community26:15 - 37:00 | Resentment37:00 - 43:30 | The gift of being a mom43:30 - 45:15 | Different experiences45:15 - 50:15 | Giving life meaning50:15 - 51:50 | The desire to be of service51:50 - 53:00 | Women coming together53:00 - 56:05 | Cake for Dinner56:05 - 56:30 | Single mom56:30 - 58:59 | Outro–SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.Connect with Keesha Scottkeeshascott.com@keeshascottparentcoachConnect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome back to Becoming: HER! In this episode, I sit down with Lauren Allan, a proud Miamian, mom, and Team Leader of the Jo-Ann Forster Team, one of South Florida’s most trusted family-run real estate groups. Lauren shares her inspiring path from social work to real estate, how she carries forward her mother Jo-Ann’s powerful legacy, and what it means to lead with empathy, connection, and confidence in business and at home.You’ll hear a candid conversation about legacy, blended families, and finding grace through change, plus, Lauren offers a peek behind the curtain of the Miami real estate world with practical insights for buyers, sellers, and dreamers alike. Tune in! In this episode…Being a facilitatorRelationshipsSales industryThrillFulfilling a legacyEnergy exchangeSelf- awareness/ finding yourselfGrove vs. GablesBlending familiesAccountability & humility Quotes“My mom taught me that real estate isn’t about houses, it’s about people, relationships, and trust.” - Lauren Allen “My parents were very good at letting me be me, and that was a gift and an honor.” - Lauren Allen “The level of your peace comes down to your ability to face change with grace.” - Nikki Spo“Every birthday I ask myself, do I like myself more now than I did last year?” - Lauren Allen Timestamps:0:00 - 2:30 | Intro2:30 - 6:50 | Lauren’s journey6:50 - 11:15 | Facilitator11:15 - 14:55 | Relationship-centric14:55 - 19:50 | Legacy19:50 - 24:00 | Energetic exchange24:30 - 33:15 | Lauren’s favorite neighborhood33:15 - 35:35 | South Miami35:35 - 40:40 | Staying grounded40:40 - 43:55 | Cash offer43:55 - 46:45 | Condo market46:45 - 53:10 | Lauren’s personal life53:10 - 57:55 | Dating after divorce57:55 - 58:55 | Accountability & humility58:55 - 1:01:00 | What does becoming her mean to Lauren1:01:00 - 1:03:30 | Outro Connect with Lauren Allenhttps://www.joannforsterteam.com/@laurengallan / @joannforsterteam Connect with Nikkiwww.nikkispo.com@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.