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Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I'm your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman. I get it, you're done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let's be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life. For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working. I knew I couldn't continue to repeat the same cycle with different men. Something had to change. I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first. And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness. You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let's get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe. For more information about the podcast, or other ways you can work with me, visit: www.michellepanning.com I would love to connect with you more on social media! You can find me at: IG: @michellepanning Website: michellepanning.com

Recent Episodes

Episode 244: You're Not Stuck. You're Loyal To The Wrong Version Of Yourself.

MAR 30, 2026

Episode 244: You're Not Stuck. You're Loyal To The Wrong Version Of Yourself.

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m talking about the identity you have to grieve before you can actually have the relationship you say you want. So many self-aware women spend years healing, learning their patterns, and understanding their wounds… yet still find themselves repeating the same dynamics. What if the issue isn’t that you haven’t healed enough, but that part of you is still loyal to the old version of yourself?We unpack how healing can sometimes become a way of staying stuck, why insight alone doesn’t create change, and the hidden loyalty many women have to the identity they built around their pain. If you’ve been doing the work for years but still feel caught in the same relationship patterns, this episode will challenge you to look at what you might still be holding onto and the version of yourself you may need to let go of to finally move forward.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

20 MIN

Episode 243: Why You're Still Single When You've Done All The Work

MAR 24, 2026

Episode 243: Why You're Still Single When You've Done All The Work

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I explain the difference between high standards and high walls and why so many self-aware women end up confusing the two. You’ve done the work, you know your worth and you refuse to settle. But if every potential relationship keeps ending the same way, or you find yourself screening men out before anything really begins, it might not be discernment. It might be protection.We talk about how fear can disguise itself as standards, why some women quietly shift from anxious attachment into avoidant patterns after doing “the work,” and why calm, consistent men can feel boring when your nervous system is used to intensity. If this sounds familiar and you’ve been telling yourself you just haven’t met the right person yet, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

21 MIN

Episode 242: The Cost of Being The Girl Who Has It All Together - An Interview With Bia Zutis

MAR 16, 2026

Episode 242: The Cost of Being The Girl Who Has It All Together - An Interview With Bia Zutis

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m joined by one of my clients, Bia Zutis to talk about the perfectionism-to-self-worth journey so many high-functioning women quietly find themselves on. From the outside she looked successful, self-aware, and like she had everything handled. But underneath that? She was exhausted from performing, holding herself to impossible standards, and feeling like she had to love by being “better.”We talk about the gap between how she appeared to be doing and how she actually felt, the perfectionism that was quietly driving her self-abandonment, and the moment she realised the way she’d been relating to herself was costing her more than she thought. She shares what started to shift during the work, the patterns she began to see clearly, and why she chose to keep going deeper through The Connected Woman, retreats, and now The Experience.If you’re the woman who looks like she has it all together but secretly feels exhausted from trying to get everything “right,” this conversation will hit home.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

51 MIN

Episode 241: Why You Can’t Let Go (Even When It’s Hurting You)

MAR 9, 2026

Episode 241: Why You Can’t Let Go (Even When It’s Hurting You)

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m unpacking trauma bonds, why smart, self-aware women stay in relationships that are hurting them, and why leaving can feel terrifying even when you know it’s unhealthy. This isn’t about weakness or lack of awareness, it’s about nervous system conditioning and intermittent reinforcement keeping you hooked. We talk about why intensity gets mistaken for intimacy, how relief after pain becomes addictive, and why information alone doesn’t break trauma bonds, attachment does. I break down the difference between love and survival wiring, why self-blame keeps you stuck, and how to start detaching from the fantasy without shaming yourself or bypassing the grief. The real question isn’t “Do I feel bonded?”, it’s “Is this person actually safe for me?”. If you realise you’ve been trying harder in relationships that require you to abandon yourself, this episode is your permission slip to stop.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

15 MIN

Episode 240: Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship

MAR 2, 2026

Episode 240: Healthy vs Unhealthy Needs in a Relationship

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy needs and unhealthy needs in love. Most couples aren’t fighting about the dishes or the sex or the late nights at work, they’re fighting to feel respected, safe, valued, and prioritised. We’re talking about respect, emotional safety, consistency, accountability, affection, and repair and how those differ from control, reassurance-testing, avoidance, mind-reading, and over-functioning. Having needs doesn’t make you needy, it makes you human. But when you don’t understand your needs or you try to meet them through fear and control, intimacy starts to erode.If you listen and realise you’ve been fighting about symptoms instead of the real issue underneath, good. That’s not failure, that’s awareness. When you can separate healthy needs from anxious coping, you stop weaponising love and start building something secure.WORK WITH MICHELLE:Join THE CONNECTED WOMAN, a course for the woman who wants to go from anxious & self-abandoning in relationships to secure, confident and unf*ckwithable: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-womanSign up for THE EXPERIENCE, an exclusive 12-month mentorship experience where you go all in on YOU (aka, you get direct access to me as a mentor, access to every offer I run over your year, and MORE): https://michellepanning.com/the-experienceCONNECT WITH MICHELLE:Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanningWebsite: http://www.michellepanning.com

31 MIN