Neurodiverse Intimacy: Rethinking Sex, Consent, and Connection with CheriIntimacy isn’t “broken” when you’re neurodivergent—it just plays by different rules. In this episode, I sit down with Cheri, a couple sex therapist and relationship coach, to reframe sex, consent, and communication for neurodiverse couples.You’ll hear how sensory sensitivities, masking, burnout, and mixed communication styles can shape closeness—and why that doesn’t mean you’re a mismatch. Cheri shares how her new workbook helps partners feel safe, seen, and equipped to build connection that fits their brains and bodies. We talk about practical ways to communicate (that aren’t awkward), how to handle mismatched desire without blame, and what repair looks like when things go sideways.I reveal where I’ve struggled to find the right support, and you’ll discover why a small shift in language can change the whole experience in the bedroom. Curious how texting can be a strength? Why kissing can be a bigger sensory hurdle than handholding? And what to offer instead of a flat “no”? It’s all here—without shame, and without guesswork.Timestamps0:02 – Welcome and why finding the right support matters0:53 – Why Cheri created a sex workbook for neurodiverse couples3:19 – How intimacy shows up differently (and what “different” really means)5:29 – Sensory realities: kissing vs. handholding6:10 – Building a workbook that feels safe, not clinical7:07 – Communication that works: beyond talking it out11:16 – Reframing “something’s wrong with us”12:52 – Desire, arousal, and capacity: what changes and why15:23 – Talking about sex without shutdowns or defensiveness20:06 – Moving from unspoken rules to clear consent21:36 – Consent in long-term relationships when energy fluctuates22:55 – What makes this a workbook (and how to use it together)24:16 – The exercise that surprised Cheri most30:21 – Balancing structure with flexibility31:13 – Shame, trauma, and gentle repair32:50 – Handling mismatched desire without judgment33:56 – In-the-moment repair when things go sideways36:53 – The “we’re not broken” shift39:22 – Beyond sex: building a lasting sense of connection40:07 – Where to start if you’re nervousAbout the GuestCheri is a couple sex therapist and relationship coach with 20+ years of experience. Her dissertation focused on neurodiverse couples, and she specializes in practical tools that honor difference without shame. Learn more at couplescounselingcenter.online.If this episode helps, share it with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. Subscribe for more accessible conversations on Autism, ADHD, relationships, and real-world support.#Neurodiversity #Autism #ADHD #Relationships #SexEducationHosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.