Dating gets exhausting when you feel like you’re auditioning for approval. I sit down with Paul Roseberry, a relationship coach, matchmaker, and stand-up comic, to talk about a simpler foundation that makes everything clearer: security. Not fake confidence, not pick-up tactics, not pretending you don’t care. Real relationship security, where interest is mutual, respect stays intact, and both people can relax into something healthy.We dig into why “too nice” can backfire when it’s really fear in a friendly disguise, and how that dynamic can turn into people-pleasing, resentment, or control. Paul shares the coaching moments that pushed him to formalize what he calls the Security Method, including how small communication shifts (especially over texting) can change the tone from needy to grounded without being cold or manipulative. We also talk about masculinity in a modern way that’s steady and attractive without being performative, plus the role encouragement and compliments play in keeping a relationship balanced.If you want practical dating advice you can use tonight, Paul walks us through “the fives” exercise. Then we land on one of my favorite takeaways: “flip the interview” so you stop chasing and start choosing with intention. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s stuck, and leave a review if it helps. What’s one place you want more security in your relationships?Send us Fan Mail Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comicWant to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077