<p>Reclaim Yourself and Heal Self-Abandonment Workshop: https://stan.store/deborahlara/p/healingselfabandonmentIndividualized </p><p><br></p><p>Consultations With Deborah: https://www.deborahlara.com/consultations</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I break down what self-abandonment actually is, where it comes from, how it repeats in our adult relationships and work lives, and what healing actually requires. </p><p><br></p><p>Chapters: </p><p><br></p><p>0:00 — Introduction & Definition</p><p>2:30 — How the Pattern Gets Created</p><p>3:10 — Disconnection From Your Inner Life</p><p>4:42 — The Importance of the Holding Environment</p><p>5:57 — Why The Pattern Was Once Adaptive</p><p>6:43 — Adaptive Functioning: Self-Preservation Becomes Self-Destruction</p><p>7:02 — The Inner Feminine Archetypal Energy and Why It Gets Repressed</p><p>8:38 — Why This is Developmental, Not a Fixed Pathology</p><p>9:59 — The Different Holding Environments That Reinforce the Pattern</p><p>12:22 — Repetition Compulsion: How We Recreate the Wound</p><p>14:30 — The Healing Fantasy: The False Hope of Healing</p><p>17:04 — Overfunctioning and Emotional Labor</p><p>18:19 — Emotional and Spiritual Hunger</p><p>19:34 — The Correlation with Physical Illness</p><p>20:04 — The Healing Process</p><p>21:10 — Nervous System Reconditioning</p><p>21:43 — Reclaiming the Disowned Feminine</p><p>22:48 — Reparenting and Building an Internal Secure Base</p><p>23:21 — Upgrading the Inner Masculine</p><p>25:07 — Imagining a Healed Version of Yourself</p><p>26:18 — How Internal Healing Reflects Externally</p><p>27:18 — Closing</p>