When you step into the role of a foster dad, an adoptive father, or a stepdad, you are entering a territory that has already experienced a structural collapse. The child under your care isn&#39;t starting from scratch; they are carrying the invisible weight of trauma, rejection, or loss.In these high-stakes dynamics, traditional &#39;command-and-control&#39; parenting doesn&#39;t just fail—it can actually cause further damage. A child who has experienced trauma doesn&#39;t need a commander; they need a safe harbor. They need a father who understands the science of trauma and the delicate art of building a secure attachment. And since most of us don’t understand the science of trauma much less the art of building that secure attachment, I&#39;ve brought someone on the program who does understand this well.Bonnie Butler is a specialized coach for adoptive, foster, and step-parents. Bonnie is here to give us the facts we need to know on trauma-informed parenting. She’s going to show us how to look past a child’s defensive behavior, understand the root of their fear, and deploy the specific bonding strategies that turn a house of strangers into a durable, united home. To find Bonnie&#39;s website, coaching and resources mentioned in this episode, visit: <a href="https://bonniebutlercoaching.com/" rel="nofollow">https://bonniebutlercoaching.com/</a> To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: <a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge</a> Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr<a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;When you step into the role of a foster dad, an adoptive father, or a stepdad, you are entering a territory that has already experienced a structural collapse. The child under your care isn&amp;#39;t starting from scratch; they are carrying the invisible weight of trauma, rejection, or loss.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;In these high-stakes dynamics, traditional &amp;#39;command-and-control&amp;#39; parenting doesn&amp;#39;t just fail—it can actually cause further damage. A child who has experienced trauma doesn&amp;#39;t need a commander; they need a safe harbor. They need a father who understands the science of trauma and the delicate art of building a secure attachment. And since most of us don’t understand the science of trauma much less the art of building that secure attachment, I&amp;#39;ve brought someone on the program who does understand this well.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Bonnie Butler&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt; is a specialized coach for adoptive, foster, and step-parents. Bonnie is here to give us the facts we need to know on trauma-informed parenting. She’s going to show us how to look past a child’s defensive behavior, understand the root of their fear, and deploy the specific bonding strategies that turn a house of strangers into a durable, united home.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;To find Bonnie&amp;#39;s website, coaching and resources mentioned in this episode, visit: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="https://bonniebutlercoaching.com/" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://bonniebutlercoaching.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Beyond the Biological: Forging a Durable Bond as a Foster Dad or Stepfather

Beyond the Biological

There is a common myth that pornography is only a struggle for men and boys. But the truth is that our daughters are being targeted by the same digital traps, often fueled by deep-seated root causes like a search for intimacy, worth, or an escape from pain. When a daughter falls into this trap, she often carries a level of shame that keeps her silent, pulling her further away from the very man who wants to protect her: her father. If you’re that dad, take courage. There is a pathway out for your daughter, and she will need YOU by her side to walk her out of the trap. My guest shares her personal testimony of battling a porn addiction, how she was set free and how you can set and keep your daughter free.Ana Murby is the founder of Honest Christian Conversations. Ana is stepping into the gap to share her own powerful testimony of struggling with pornography and, more importantly, how she found the path to total freedom. She is here to help us understand the signs of the struggle, the reasons it happens, and how a Durable Dad can stand by his daughter’s side—not in judgment, but as a partner in her healing. You can listen to Honest Christian Conversations and the resources Ana mentioned here: <a href="http://www.honestchristianconversations.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.honestchristianconversations.com/</a> To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: <a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge</a> Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr<a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;There is a common myth that pornography is only a struggle for men and boys. But the truth is that our daughters are being targeted by the same digital traps, often fueled by deep-seated root causes like a search for intimacy, worth, or an escape from pain. When a daughter falls into this trap, she often carries a level of shame that keeps her silent, pulling her further away from the very man who wants to protect her: her father. If you’re that dad, take courage. There is a pathway out for your daughter, and she will need YOU by her side to walk her out of the trap. My guest shares her personal testimony of battling a porn addiction, how she was set free and how you can set and keep your daughter free.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Ana Murby&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt; is the founder of &lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;Honest Christian Conversations&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span&gt;. Ana is stepping into the gap to share her own powerful testimony of struggling with pornography and, more importantly, how she found the path to total freedom. She is here to help us understand the signs of the struggle, the reasons it happens, and how a Durable Dad can stand by his daughter’s side—not in judgment, but as a partner in her healing.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;You can listen to Honest Christian Conversations and the resources Ana mentioned here: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.honestchristianconversations.com/" rel="nofollow"&gt;http://www.honestchristianconversations.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Ana Murby on Why Daughters Turn to Porn and How Dads Can Help

Unmasking the Struggle

If you grew up in a divorced home, you didn&#39;t see a durable marriage modeled. You saw the cracks, the divisions, and the eventual collapse of the structure. Now, as a father yourself, you might feel like you&#39;re building on shaky ground, worried that the history you lived through might repeat itself in the lives of your own children. But what if it doesn’t have to? How would you begin to proactively build defenses?Kent Darcie is the founder of Adult Children of Divorce Ministries. Kent has dedicated his life to helping men and women understand how their childhood experiences impact their current marriages and parenting styles. He’s here to show us that your past does not have to be your children&#39;s future. You can be the one to break the cycle. You can be the one who builds a home that stays together. To check out Kent Darcie&#39;s book and resources mentioned in this episode, visit: <a href="https://hope4adp.com/" rel="nofollow">https://hope4adp.com/</a> To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: <a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge</a> Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr<a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;If you grew up in a divorced home, you didn&amp;#39;t see a durable marriage modeled. You saw the cracks, the divisions, and the eventual collapse of the structure. Now, as a father yourself, you might feel like you&amp;#39;re building on shaky ground, worried that the history you lived through might repeat itself in the lives of your own children. But what if it doesn’t have to? How would you begin to proactively build defenses?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Kent Darcie&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt; is the founder of &lt;/span&gt;&lt;em&gt;Adult Children of Divorce Ministries&lt;/em&gt;&lt;span&gt;. Kent has dedicated his life to helping men and women understand how their childhood experiences impact their current marriages and parenting styles. He’s here to show us that your past does not have to be your children&amp;#39;s future. You can be the one to break the cycle. You can be the one who builds a home that stays together.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;To check out Kent Darcie&amp;#39;s book and resources mentioned in this episode, visit: &lt;a href="https://hope4adp.com/" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://hope4adp.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Kent Darcie on Building a Durable Marriage from Broken Blueprints

Breaking the Divorce Cycle

Perfectionism is like a &#39;Brittle Wall.&#39; On the outside, it looks impenetrable and flawless, but because it has no flexibility, it shatters the moment life applies real pressure. When we demand perfection from ourselves, our marriages, and our children, we aren&#39;t actually building a fortress—we are building a prison. We create an environment where failure isn&#39;t a classroom, but a &#39;breach&#39; of character. This constant pressure doesn&#39;t produce excellence; it produces anxiety, disconnection, and a family that is afraid to be honest with the man leading them. We’ve brought an expert who can walk us away from the perfection trap.Katherine Sellery is the founder of the Conscious Parenting Revolution. She’s a three-time TEDx speaker  and a specialist in helping &#39;High-Performance&#39; parents realize that their &#39;Perfection Triggers&#39; are often the very things sabotaging the connection they crave. She’s here to show us how to swap the brittle wall of perfection for the durable foundation of Presence. We’re going to discuss how to identify the moments when you are being triggered, how to let go of the &#39;flawless&#39; narrative, and how to lead your family with a strength that is resilient enough to handle the messiness of real life. To find Katherine Sellery&#39;s parenting resources visit: <a href="https://consciousparentingrevolution.com/" rel="nofollow">https://consciousparentingrevolution.com/</a> To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: <a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge</a> Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr<a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Perfectionism is like a &amp;#39;Brittle Wall.&amp;#39; On the outside, it looks impenetrable and flawless, but because it has no flexibility, it shatters the moment life applies real pressure. When we demand perfection from ourselves, our marriages, and our children, we aren&amp;#39;t actually building a fortress—we are building a prison. We create an environment where failure isn&amp;#39;t a classroom, but a &amp;#39;breach&amp;#39; of character. This constant pressure doesn&amp;#39;t produce excellence; it produces anxiety, disconnection, and a family that is afraid to be honest with the man leading them. We’ve brought an expert who can walk us away from the perfection trap.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Katherine Sellery&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt; is the founder of the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Conscious Parenting Revolution&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt;. She’s a &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;three-time TEDx speaker&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span&gt;  and a specialist in helping &amp;#39;High-Performance&amp;#39; parents realize that their &amp;#39;Perfection Triggers&amp;#39; are often the very things sabotaging the connection they crave. She’s here to show us how to swap the brittle wall of perfection for the durable foundation of &lt;/span&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Presence&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt;. We’re going to discuss how to identify the moments when you are being triggered, how to let go of the &amp;#39;flawless&amp;#39; narrative, and how to lead your family with a strength that is resilient enough to handle the messiness of real life.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;To find Katherine Sellery&amp;#39;s parenting resources visit: &lt;a href="https://consciousparentingrevolution.com/" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://consciousparentingrevolution.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Katherine Sellery on Reclaiming Your Home from the Grip of "Flawless"

The Perfection Trap

Eating disorders and disordered eating are among the most complex challenges a family can face. As dads, we often want to &#39;fix&#39; the problem with logic or discipline. But when it comes to a child’s relationship with food, the mission requires a different set of tools: empathy, strategy, and a deep understanding of how to build &#39;eating competence.&#39; And if you’re like me, you don’t have a clue where to even begin and that’s why I brought an eating disorder professional who is a registered dietician to walk us through the healing process for eating disorders.Jessica Setnick MS,RD, CEDRD-S is a leading expert in the field of pediatric nutrition and eating disorders. Jessica has spent her career helping families move from fear and frustration to health and freedom. She’s here to show us how a father’s words and actions can become &#39;body armor&#39; for his children, protecting them from a culture that tells them they aren&#39;t enough. You can connect with Jessica Setnick or find her resources at: <a href="https://www.jessicasetnick.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.jessicasetnick.com/</a> To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: <a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge</a> Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr<a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow">https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;Eating disorders and disordered eating are among the most complex challenges a family can face. As dads, we often want to &amp;#39;fix&amp;#39; the problem with logic or discipline. But when it comes to a child’s relationship with food, the mission requires a different set of tools: empathy, strategy, and a deep understanding of how to build &amp;#39;eating competence.&amp;#39; And if you’re like me, you don’t have a clue where to even begin and that’s why I brought an eating disorder professional who is a registered dietician to walk us through the healing process for eating disorders.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Jessica Setnick &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;strong&gt;MS,RD, CEDRD-S &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;span&gt;is a leading expert in the field of pediatric nutrition and eating disorders. Jessica has spent her career helping families move from fear and frustration to health and freedom. She’s here to show us how a father’s words and actions can become &amp;#39;body armor&amp;#39; for his children, protecting them from a culture that tells them they aren&amp;#39;t enough.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;span&gt;You can connect with Jessica Setnick or find her resources at: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.jessicasetnick.com/" rel="nofollow"&gt;https://www.jessicasetnick.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;To be a guest on The Fatherhood Challenge visit: &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge" rel="nofollow"&gt;&lt;em&gt;https://zencastr.com/?via=thefatherhoodchallenge&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Protecting Your Child’s Relationship with Food

The Sentinel’s Guide to Eating Competence

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