<p>Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 203 - "Why no matter how good you are, you're the villain in someones story" is now LIVE!</p><br><p>Full Show notes: <a href="https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide</a></p><br><p>Have you ever been made into the villain when you didn't do anything wrong? Been there and wore the cape and mask for that. We're now proudly in our villain era and even wearing our green and purple for the occasion. If you aren't sure what we're talking about tune into today's episode where we are going to discuss what it's like to be villainized when you've actually done nothing wrong, why people villainize others and how to check if you are truly in villain status and doing harm to others or just not meeting someone else's needs for them.&nbsp;</p><br><p>In this episode we cover:</p><ul><li>Why Claire and Serena are ok with being the villain in some people's story</li><li>The role interconnectedness plays in determining a villain</li><li>The difference between identity and behavior</li><li>Interpreting someones actions through the lens of one's own unmet needs</li><li>Being seen as a villain when we were younger vs being seen as one now</li><li>Doubling down and creating a super villain</li><li>Villainizing someone to avoid (potentially) uncomfortable communication</li><li>Placing blame instead of facing accountability</li><li>Why so many people need a villain to blame</li><li>When setting boundaries gets villainized</li><li>Impact over intention</li><li>Dropping into the Drama Triangle</li><li>Why Serena's often considered even more of an asshole now</li><li>Getting labeled the asshole</li><li>Being made out to be the villain doesn't mean it's valid and why it's OK to have feelings about this</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Episode References:</p><ul><li>The episode on interconnectedness - Episode 202 - What is interconnectedness and why is it so critical to getting our needs met?</li><li>The selfirst episodes -</li><li>The Selfirst series- Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…</li><li>Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility</li><li>Episode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needs</li><li>The Shapes Series -</li><li>The Drama Triangle episodes -</li><li>The Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Victim Approach</li><li>The Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Persecutor Approach</li><li>The Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - The Rescuer Approach</li><li>The Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful</li><li>The Empowerment Dynamic episodes -</li><li>The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Creator Approach</li><li>The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Supporter Approach</li><li>The Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - The Contributor Approach</li><li>The other "shapes" episodes -</li><li>Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one</li><li>The Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it </li><li>Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)</li><li>Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies</li><li>The episodes on prioritizing short term comfort but creating long term conflict - Episode 188 - What is supportive discomfort?</li><li>The Boundaries Series - </li><li>Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?</li><li>Episode 102 - Boundaries Series: How to know what your boundaries are</li><li>Episode 103 - Boundaries Series: How to communicate your boundaries</li><li>Impact over intention - Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn’t matter…</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: <a href="https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide</a></p><br><p>Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: <a href="https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds</a></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. 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