<p>***Trigger Warning - Death of parent, caring for sick parent</p><br><p>Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 208 - "Shoulding Series - Shoulda, woulda, coulda down the shame spiral" is now LIVE!</p><br><p>Full Show notes: <a href="https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide</a></p><br><p>Shoulda, woulda, coulda...we know we've said it more than once and we don't believe we are alone in that. The past can be full of shoulda, woulda, couldas that are impacting our needs in the present. In this episode we're going to talk about facing and dealing with our shoulds and how to turn shoulda, woulda, coulda into something that will actually support our needs.</p><br><p>In this episode we cover:</p><ul><li>Looking at and resourcing your needs in the present</li><li>The guilt and shame tracks and where they both lead</li><li>Catching yourself on the shame spiral</li><li>Is it better to stay in the present or return to the past</li><li>Dealing with shoulds when we can't redo them</li><li>Serena's trip down the shame spiral when her mom passed away</li><li>The importance of giving ourselves grace</li><li>Finding which unresolved barriers are holding us back</li><li>The gifts within the shoulds</li><li>Dealing with shoulds when we can redo them</li><li>Applying past shoulds to present actions</li><li>The alternative to shoulda, woulda, coulda</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Episode References:</p><ul><li>The first episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 206 - Shoulding Series - Why shoulding on yourself, or others, negatively impacts your needs</li><li>The second episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 207 - How to shift your shoulds</li><li>The Guilt and Shame Series -</li><li>Episode 43 - The Guilt &amp; Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shame</li><li>Episode 44 - The Guilt &amp; Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguise</li><li>Episode 45 - The Guilt &amp; Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanity</li><li>The episode we refer to the inner critic - Episode 92 - How to deal with the inner critic and inner saboteur</li><li>The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach</li><li>The Shapes Series - </li><li>Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach</li><li>Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor Approach</li><li>Episode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer Approach</li><li>Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful</li><li>The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach</li><li>The Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter Approach</li><li>The Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach</li><li>The other "shapes" episodes -</li><li>Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering one</li><li>The Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)</li><li>Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)</li><li>Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies</li></ul><p><br></p><p>Notes:</p><ul><li>Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: <a href="https://theuniversalneeds.com/Apology" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><u>https://theuniversalneeds.com/Apology</u></a></li></ul><p><br></p><p>Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: <a href="https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide</a></p><br><p>Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: <a href="https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds</a></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>