<p>Farida grew up with 19 siblings in a polygamous family in Kenya. She’s been married five times, and four of those times have been to men who have other wives.</p><p>In a letter she writes to her daughter, Farida describes some of the pros of a polygamous relationship, such as growing up with a large extended family and never feeling alone. But along with the pros there are also some cons, such as what it feels like for your husband to take another wife. </p><p>Farida tells Namulanta all about the ups and downs of being polygamous, and gives tips on how to have a happy marriage.</p><p>Letter writer: Farida</p><p>If you are a mum or mom, dad or papa, grandparent, uncle, aunt, daughter, son or just want to write a letter, send us a Whatsapp message on +44 800 030 4404 or visit https://bbcworldservice.com/deardaughter.</p><p>Get in touch and let us know what you think on social media - #DearDaughter</p><p>And please leave ratings and reviews.</p><p>You can read our privacy notice here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/3ZFHNV8v7qgTm1zbKbkwsvR/dear-daughter-privacy-notice</p>
