The Luella Jonk Show
The Luella Jonk Show

The Luella Jonk Show

Dr. Luella Jonk, PhD

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From the therapy room of a registered psychotherapist, dating coach and solopreneur who has tirelessly attempted a 'healthy' work-life balance for 25 years, it rarely existed for me and likely does not for most business owners, entrepreneurs and executives. The truth is relationships can really suffer. I will be interviewing expert guests who are doing things right so we can all learn to mix business with pleasure. Topics will range from building better relationships, connection, dating, and how to spread more kindness and compassion towards others while doing so. Listeners, you have the right to have passion surrounding your work while maintaining passionate relationships. You can have your cake and eat it too. New episodes premiere every Tuesday.

Recent Episodes

Episode #78: Why Your Mind Feels Like It's Working Against You
DEC 2, 2025
Episode #78: Why Your Mind Feels Like It's Working Against You

In this solo episode, I dive deeper into what I started exploring last week—why our minds feel so chaotic despite our best intentions. As a psychotherapist, I've watched clients struggle with scattered thoughts, emotional volatility, and decision fatigue, assuming something is fundamentally broken. But what if nothing is wrong with you? What if your faculties are simply responding to impossible demands?

I'll walk you through:

✅ The Catholic map of your interior life—intellect, will, memory, imagination, passions, and body

✅ Why chaos happens when these faculties stop working together (and how to spot which one needs attention)

✅ The dangerous North American lifestyle that expects your lower faculties to lead instead of follow

✅ Real client stories that show how physical exhaustion, past trauma, and overstimulation create mental fog

✅ Simple daily practices for each faculty—three-minute body resets, naming your emotions, bringing memory into prayer

✅ Why a tired will isn't the same as a weak will (and what to do about it)

This episode builds on Thomas Aquinas and the great mystics who understood something we've forgotten: the soul has an order. When God is at the center, everything else falls into alignment. When He's not, we orbit too far from the nucleus and the whispers start.

You're not broken. You're not mentally ill. You're just out of rhythm—and rhythm can be restored.

🔔 Remember: Your faculties aren't working against you. They're responding to the demands being placed on them. Start with one small practice this week and watch what shifts.

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Episode #77: Why Therapy Might Not Be Working for You
NOV 25, 2025
Episode #77: Why Therapy Might Not Be Working for You

In this solo episode, I share a profound realization that's been brewing in my practice for years—one that finally crystallized after listening to two Norbertine priests discuss the spiritual roots of psychotherapy. As a registered psychotherapist, I've helped countless clients function better, organize their thoughts, and reduce their symptoms. But something always felt hollow, both in my work and in the people I serve.

I'll walk you through:

✅ Why therapy can clean the house of your mind but cannot fill the emptiness inside

✅ The powerful visualization of thoughts as electrons orbiting around God as the nucleus—and what happens when we drift too far from the center

✅ What psychology can and cannot do: It restores function but cannot anchor the soul

✅ How pre-modern psychotherapy was actually spiritual care, not just mental health treatment

✅ Why that interior peace everyone craves will never come from ordered thoughts alone

✅ The dangerous truth about empty spaces—they never stay empty for long

This morning's insights have me questioning everything I thought I knew about helping people. I've realized my clients aren't broken—they're just orbiting too far from their center. The scattered thoughts, intrusive fears, emotional volatility, and constant temptations aren't primarily psychological problems. They're spiritual events.

🔔 Remember: You're not weak. You're not a failure. You're simply drifting too far from the gravitational pull that keeps everything in order. Prayer isn't just a nice addition to therapy—it's the magnetic force that holds the orbit stable.

This episode marks the beginning of something new for me, and I hope you'll walk with me as I explore how we can build truly ordered interior lives—not just functional ones.

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Episode #76: Sr. Orianne Pietra René on Finding God in the Digital Age
NOV 18, 2025
Episode #76: Sr. Orianne Pietra René on Finding God in the Digital Age

In this episode, I sit down with Sr Orianne Pietra René, a Winnipeg-born religious sister with the Daughters of Saint Paul who's bridging ancient faith and modern technology in the most unexpected ways. From her conversion to Catholicism at age 12 to a chance confession that changed everything, Sister Orianne's journey into religious life—and social media ministry—is anything but conventional.


I'll walk you through:

✅ How a random priest at a youth conference asked one question that redirected her entire life

✅ What it really means to "feed the spiritually hungry" through Instagram and digital platforms

✅ The deepest spiritual hunger women face today: the fear of not belonging and not mattering

✅ Why social media amplifies what's already broken in our society—and how to navigate it with grace

✅ The dangerous temptation of believing you're the savior instead of pointing people to Christ

✅ Setting boundaries in online ministry when vulnerability crosses into inappropriate territory

✅ How to "offer up" your suffering and make it redemptive instead of wasted pain

✅ The critical difference between virtual connection and incarnate, sacramental relationship


Whether you're struggling to find authentic connection in a screen-saturated world, wondering how to integrate faith into your digital life, or searching for meaning in your own seasons of suffering, Sister Orianne offers profound wisdom on bringing intentionality to every space we inhabit—online and off.


🔔 Remember: We are incarnate beings who need incarnate relationships. Social media is powerful in its place, but it will never replace the fullness of what we're called to. The dose makes the poison—or the medicine.


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Sister Orianne's relevant links:

Website: https://daughtersofstpaul.com/

Podcast: Dare to Dwell: A Podcast with the Daughters of St Paul

Instagram: @orianne_jn

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Episode #75: Fr. Thomas Morrow on Overcoming Anger in Relationships
NOV 11, 2025
Episode #75: Fr. Thomas Morrow on Overcoming Anger in Relationships

In this episode, I sit down with Fr. Thomas Morrow, a Catholic priest, theologian, and author whose expertise in marriage and family has helped countless couples build stronger, more resilient relationships. With a Doctorate in Sacred Theology from the Pope John Paul II Institute for Studies on Marriage and Family and decades of pastoral experience, Fr. Morrow brings both scholarly wisdom and practical insight to the challenges modern couples face.

From his bestselling work on overcoming sinful anger to his latest book Marriage for God's Sake, Fr. Morrow understands that lasting relationships require more than good intentions—they demand understanding, sacrifice, and the willingness to confront our own weaknesses head-on.

I'll walk you through:

✅ The hidden ways anger sabotages even the strongest marriages and how to recognize its patterns

✅ Why modern relationship advice often misses the mark on commitment and sacrifice

✅ Practical tools for navigating conflict without destroying connection

✅ How understanding marriage as a vocation transforms the way we approach partnership

✅ The role of forgiveness and humility in keeping love alive through life's inevitable challenges

✅ Why addressing our own character flaws is the secret to becoming better partners

Whether you're struggling with recurring conflicts in your relationship, trying to balance the demands of business ownership with showing up for your partner, or simply wanting to deepen your understanding of what makes marriages thrive, Fr. Morrow offers time-tested wisdom that speaks to both the spiritual and practical dimensions of love.

🔔 Remember: Great relationships aren't built on avoiding problems—they're built on having the courage and tools to work through them together.

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Fr. Morrow's relevant links:

Website: https://cfalive.com

Books:

YouTube: Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLLdXJkvx53zaFV6TXpiFzW7mVlTNRfSsY

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59 MIN
Episode #74: Michael P. on Finding Freedom and Closure Through Annulments
NOV 4, 2025
Episode #74: Michael P. on Finding Freedom and Closure Through Annulments

In this deeply informative episode, I sit down with Michael Podhajsky, a canon lawyer who brings compassion and clarity to one of the most misunderstood processes in the Catholic Church—annulments. As someone who's been married for nearly 28 years and has walked alongside friends and family through divorce, I realized how little I actually understood about this process, which is why I sought out Michael on LinkedIn.

What struck me most about Michael isn't just his expertise in canon law—it's how deeply he cares about the people navigating one of life's most painful chapters. He approaches each case not just as a legal matter, but as an opportunity for healing, reflection, and ultimately, freedom.

I'll walk you through:

✅ What an annulment actually is (and what it isn't)—clearing up common misconceptions about the process

✅ Why annulments focus on the sacramental bond, not invalidating your entire relationship or lived experience

✅ The step-by-step process of seeking an annulment and what to realistically expect in terms of time and cost

✅ How children are never considered "illegitimate" regardless of the annulment outcome

✅ When you might need a canon lawyer versus working directly with your parish tribunal

✅ Why the annulment process, though difficult, can actually be profoundly healing and provide closure

✅ How truth-seeking through reflection helps people understand what went wrong and move forward differently

Whether you're Catholic and wondering if you need an annulment, supporting someone through this process, or simply curious about how faith intersects with the painful reality of broken marriages, Michael offers grounded wisdom and pastoral care. His reminder that canon law exists to serve people—not punish them—is a message of hope for anyone feeling stuck between their past and their future.

🔔 Remember: The annulment process isn't something to fear or avoid. With the right support, it can bring the closure and freedom you need to begin again.

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Michael's relevant links:

Website: https://podhajskylaw.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-podhajsky-a04aa647/

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61 MIN