The Kink Perspective

On today’s show, I discuss the tension between wanting connection and needing control. We look at learned defiance, how it forms, why it feels safer than hope, and the subtle ways it shapes intimacy, attachment, and power exchange inside the lifestyle.

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Celebrating the 200th episode, I’m digging into the two myths you voted for: the idea that harm doesn’t count if it wasn’t intended, and the belief that experience automatically makes someone safe. These show up everywhere, and they shape how people trust, how they explain discomfort, and how they excuse behavior without even realizing it. In this episode, I’m breaking down why these myths stick around, how they actually play out in real dynamics, and what matters more than intention or years in the lifestyle. If you’ve ever wondered whether your reaction was valid, or whether someone’s “history” should mean anything, this conversation will help you sort through it.

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On today’s show, I discuss why some people believe your time and labor should be free. We look at how entitlement shows up in community spaces, the real cost behind expertise, and why boundaries matter if you want your work to stay healthy and sustainable.

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On today’s show, I discuss how rising hostility is reshaping kink spaces, why people are jumping to extremes, and how emotional overload, identity signaling, and silence are changing the culture. This episode takes a close look at behavior, not politics, and explores what gets lost when anger becomes the default tone in a community built on trust, curiosity, and communication.

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On today’s show, I discuss the difference between hurt and harm in power exchange. We look at how emotional coercion hides behind consent, how both Doms and subs can cross lines without realizing it, and what recovery looks like after control or manipulation. It’s about learning to hold power with care, not fear, because while we can consent to hurt, we cannot consent to harm.

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