<p>What does it look like when someone who only knew two emotions — anger and joy — finally faces the full spectrum of what they feel?</p><p>That&#39;s the story Han and Alicia Lau bring to the table this week. Married 31 years, parents to six kids, grandparents to six more — and coaches who almost skipped the Core Emotion Wheel entirely.</p><p>Alicia grew up in a world that told her to stifle her emotions, be a &quot;good Christian girl,&quot; and never be &quot;too much.&quot; The result? A life where anger and joy were the only acceptable exits — until a poolside audiobook moment changed everything.</p><p>In this episode, Glenn, Phyllis, Han, and Alicia unpack what it actually takes to go from emotional resistance to emotional fluency — including the 45-minute wheel session that helped Alicia finally process her father&#39;s suicide, more than a decade after his death.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>In This Episode:</strong></p><ul><li>Why Alicia threw the Core Emotion Wheel across the room (metaphorically) — and why she came back to it</li><li>How blended family dynamics (and two very different cultures) shaped emotional patterns for both Han and Alicia</li><li>The moment on their 30th anniversary that changed their marriage — doing the entire Foundations course in one weekend</li><li>Han&#39;s breakthrough: how advising a client led him to take his own advice about shame and guilt</li><li>Alicia&#39;s 45-minute grief wheel — and why she no longer feels her dad&#39;s death the same way in her body</li><li>What it means to practice the wheel &quot;like bad first sex&quot; and why that&#39;s the most honest description of growth we&#39;ve heard</li><li>Glenn and Phyllis share their own middle-of-the-night wheel moments — and what lonely really feels like when you go deep</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Resources Mentioned:</strong></p><p>Get the Core Emotion Wheel: <a href="https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast">www.connectioncodes.co/podcast</a></p><p>Work with a Connection Codes Coach: <a href="https://connectioncodes.co/coaches">connectioncodes.co/coaches</a></p><p>Foundations Masterclass: <a href="https://connectioncodes.co/foundations">connectioncodes.co/foundations</a></p><p><br></p><p><strong>SEO Keywords:</strong></p><p>emotional intelligence in marriage, blended family communication, how to process grief, Core Emotion Wheel, emotional avoidance, marriage coaching, emotional health tools, processing shame and guilt, trauma healing tools, long-term marriage, mental health and relationships, connection codes, emotional fluency, suicide loss grief</p>