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Solo Moms Talk Episode Show Notes: Rest – The Key to Parenting with Potency Episode Overview If you’re a tired, weary, or frustrated mother who is desperately needing rest but can’t seem to actually reach that place of peace, this episode is for you. As a natural follow-up to our conversation last week, this episode was inspired by a powerful sermon I heard at church this past Sunday. As single mothers juggling work, kids, activities, and a constantly spinning mental load, rest is a concept that is usually completely absent from our daily lives. Yet, learning to overcome the fear of stepping back is one of the most vital strategies we can adopt to survive and thrive. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30). We so easily fall into survival mode, gripped by panic and fear that if we take even a 30-minute break, our world will collapse. That the dishes won't get done, dinner won't get cooked, or the bills won't get paid. In this episode, we unpack why stepping away from the daily chaos is actually aligned with God’s design for our lives. Grounding our discussion on Matthew 11:28–30, we address a hard truth brought up in Sunday's sermon: "one of the ultimate enemies of rest is our lack of faith that God will provide while we step back." Living as though "everything depends on me" pushes us past basic fatigue into deep depletion. Rest is not laziness. It's a fundamental responsibility that we owe to ourselves, our health, and our families. Giving yourself permission to recharge is the single most effective way to restore your parenting potency. Read on for a complete breakdown of our episode highlights, key takeaways, and practical exercises designed to give your mind the rest it truly deserves. Key Takeaways With Timestamp Starting with the mental and spiritual blocks that keep us trapping ourselves in non-stop hustle, moving into a precise definition of fatigue versus depletion, and wrapping up with simple, real-life adjustments you can make right inside your chaotic home to catch your breath. [00:00] - Facing the Solo Mom Grind: Addressing the constant, relentless juggling act of raising children, managing a household single-handedly, working, and mastering your mindset. We explore the immediate panic and paralyzing fear that strikes the moment a solo mom even considers taking a break. [02:15] - Grounding Rest in Faith: Unpacking Matthew 11:28–30 ("Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest...") alongside 1 Peter 5:7. We confront the uncomfortable truth that our resistance to rest stems from a lack of faith that God will care for our household if we step back, exposing the trap of believing "everything depends on me." [05:30] - Tired vs. Depleted (The "So What?" of Rest): I share my own personal story of raising my two youngest sons in New York City—working long days, getting up early, studying on the subway, and living in constant, overwhelming exhaustion. We look at how that state goes beyond basic tiredness into true depletion. Referencing the Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary, depletion is defined as being drained, exhausted, impoverished, bankrupted, or deprived of an essential element of existence or potency. [08:45] - The "Running on Empty" Gas Station Analogy: Analyzing the visual metaphor of a driver who sees the fuel gauge sitting on "E" but skips the gas station to save time, only to break down on the side of the road two miles later. Pushing past your physical limits doesn't save time. It forces an abrupt, catastrophic stop that costs far more time, energy, and stress (calling AAA or walking back for a gas can) than if you had simply filled your tank. [11:30] - Redefining Rest in a Chaotic Household: Breaking down simple, realistic ways to integrate rest without needing life to halt completely. I reflect on my own past habit of rushing through showers as fast as possible out of constant, anxious overthinking about what my young kids were doing in the next room. We discuss turning daily tasks into "rested exercises"—like sitting down to eat a meal with your kids to connect about your day, or stepping away from the laundry while the kids sleep to kick your feet up and look out the window. [14:15] - Clearing Brain Space Through Delegation: Exploring how offloading mental chaos onto paper restores clarity, alongside the necessity of delegating age-appropriate chores to your children. Such as asking your child to gather trash from different rooms into one bin or tie up the bags. Recognizing Depletion Understanding the difference between being merely tired and being totally depleted is the ultimate turning point for a single mother’s mental, physical, and spiritual health. When you are depleted, you are literally impoverished and bankrupted of your potency. Diminishing your capacity to parent effectively. Depletion makes you irritable, clouds your clarity, destroys your patience, alters your eating habits as your body craves quick comfort, and turns even your spiritual life—like prayer or reading scripture—into just another burdensome item on a to-do list. As I always say: "when fatigue enters the picture, faith walks out. " Recognizing depletion allows you to stop trying harder and start resting so you can show up whole for your family. To help you move from feeling depleted to reclaiming your emotional bandwidth, let's look at the hands-on exercises and downloadable worksheets designed to turn these concepts into immediate daily practice. Practical Exercises & Free Downloadable Worksheets As I often say, resting is so much more profound than just putting your head down on a pillow at night. True rest requires us to actively interrupt the chaos in our minds. I invite you to move from just listening to taking real action today. Getting those overwhelming, swimming thoughts out of your head and down onto paper is the ultimate exercise in brain rest. Offloading mental noise so you can restore your emotional bandwidth and regain your parenting potency. Here is a breakdown of the printable tools and exercises available to give your brain a break: Worksheet 1: The Energy Audit (Depletion vs. Rejuvenation) Take a simple sheet of paper and divide it into two clear columns: Column 1: What Depletes or Drains Me (List the specific daily chores, thought processes, or responsibilities that pull energy away from you). Column 2: What Makes Me Feel Rejuvenated (List the simple activities, quiet habits, or moments of pause that bring you strength and peace). Worksheet 2: Brain Dump & Financial Clarity The Thought Dump: Write down every single item swimming around in your head. For example, call someone, fix the washing machine, sign a school note, or cook dinner. Financial Itemization: List every specific item you need to purchase for yourself, your kids, or your home, and write the estimated price directly next to each item. Seeing real numbers eliminates the vague, lingering financial panic that thrives when costs remain unwritten thoughts. Worksheet 3: The U/I/L/D Chore Matrix (Daily & Weekly Prioritization) List out all of your daily and weekly household chores. Next to each task, assign one (or a combination) of the following four tags: U = Urgent (Needs immediate attention). I = Important (Crucial, but evaluate alongside urgency). (Note: If a task is both Urgent and Important, tag it with both letters: U/I). L = Can Do Later (Can be safely pushed back without your world falling apart). D = Delegate (Tasks that can be assigned to your children or trusted helpers). Look at realistic task tiering for your kids. For example, asking Johnny to gather trash bags from different rooms, tie them up, or carry the main trash can out. "He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose." — Jim Elliot Download Your Worksheets & Connect Ready to bring potency back to your parenting and clear out the chaotic mental noise? Head over to https://www.jrosemarie.com to access your free printable worksheets, catch up on past episode discussions, or drop me a direct email ([email protected]. I would love to hear how you are choosing to rest this week. Leave a comment on the blog and join the conversation! Finally, remember, to give yourselves permission to rest, stop trying to hustle through the depletion on your own, and rely fully on God’s strength today. You are doing an incredible job. Disclosure: Some links in the post are affiliate links, including Amazon affiliate links. If you make a purchase I may earn a small commission with no affectional cost to you. Join our next Empty Nest Solo Mom Live: https://solomomstalk.kit.com/9ea4e6e004 https://solomomstalk.mysites.io/podcast-2-copy/rest-the-key-to-parenting-with-potency This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

Introduction What happens to your sense of self when the earthly roles you play, mother, professional, spouse, suddenly shift, fail, or disappear entirely? In this lesson, we will explore the liberating shift from asking "Who am I?" based on temporary labels, to discovering "Whose I am" in Christ. Here is what you will discover in this episode: Realize the danger of "pigeonholing" your self-worth into temporary earthly roles. Learn how life disruptions can reveal hidden "identity holes" and how to heal them. Understand your standing as an adopted child of God through key biblical scriptures. Shift your mindset from a lonely "it's just me" attitude to a confident "I belong to the Father" reality. My Story: A Wake-Up Call in a London Church Recently, I found myself wrestling with a deep, unsettling question: Who am I? It all started during a church service in London back in 2023. A new member was introduced who shared my last name and came from my home country. I felt a sudden rush of excitement thinking we might be related. But just as quickly, a painful thought hit me like a physical blow: How could you be related? You don't even know who your father is. Even though I was 63 years old and didn't "need" a father in my daily life, that moment revealed a massive, unhealed identity hole. It made me realize how easily our sense of self can shatter. We often build our entire identities on what we do or who we are related to. As the Scripture tells us: "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he." — Proverbs 23:7 When our earthly connections or roles crack, our entire foundation can fall apart. Let's explore how we can build an identity that can never be shaken. Why Earthly Labels Place a Limit on Your Potential When someone asks who you are, what is your go-to answer? Do you say, "I'm a mom," "I'm a writer," or "I'm a secretary"? While these roles are wonderful, tying your identity solely to them is incredibly limiting. If your identity is tied to your marriage, what happens if that marriage ends in divorce? If your identity is tied to your career, what happens if you lose your job? When I was laid off from my Wall Street job in the middle of a massive financial crisis in New York City, everyone expected me to panic. But I didn't. Why? Because my identity was never tied to my job title. When we define ourselves strictly by our circumstances, we easily fall into a lonely, defensive mindset of "me, myself, and I." We start asking ourselves fearful questions like: If I don't earn this money, who will? Who will help me make these hard decisions? Who takes care of me when I'm exhausted? By framing our life as "it's just me against the world," we limit our options and block ourselves from receiving divine help. Finding My Identity in Christ The real game-changer in my life was shifting my devotion from my temporary labels to Christ. That is where we answer the deeper question: Whose am I? Here are the powerful truths that define who you are in His eyes: "But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God." — John 1:12 "See how very much our father loves us for he calls us his children and that is what we are." — 1 John 3:1 "For all who are led by the spirit of God are children of God. So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you receive God's spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him Abba father." — Romans 8:14-15 When my husband left me to raise our two- and four-year-old sons on my own, I had to learn how to rely on God as a literal partner. I co-parented with Him. He gave me wisdom for hard decisions, provided rent when money was tight, and filled my home with peace. Because I understood whose I was, I knew I was never truly alone. Think of it this way: If your own child is thirsty, they don't knock hesitantly on your door; they burst right in because they belong to you. You are their parent, and you naturally care for them first. God does the same for us as His children. As He promises us: "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you." — Matthew 6:33 Summary [00:00 - 01:15] Introduction: Challenging you to look past your daily roles and ask: Whose are you? [01:16 - 03:30] The London Incident: How a simple introduction in a church pew exposed a 63-year-old "identity hole" left by an absent father. [03:31 - 05:45] The Trap of Earthly Labels: Why calling yourself "just a mom" or "just an employee" keeps you stuck in a lonely, fearful "it's just me" mindset. [05:46 - 08:30] Surviving Life's Crises: Why my Wall Street layoff didn't break me, and how you can protect your peace when roles shift. [08:31 - 11:30] Finding Identity in Christ: Grounding ourselves in Scripture to realize we are adopted, cherished children of God. [11:31 - 14:00] Bold Access to the Father: The child-and-parent analogy, and why God's children get to step to the front of the line for His love and provision. [14:01 - End] Journal Reflections & Next Steps: Practical journal prompts to help you apply these lessons in your daily life. Your Self-Reflection Journal Challenge Grab a notebook and write down these three prompts to discover your true identity: I have been identifying myself as ______. Because I belong to Christ, I can begin to see myself as ______. One need I can bring to God and one step I can take is ______. Call to Action & Resources If you're a single mom struggling with loneliness, fear, or grief, grab a copy of my 21-day Christian devotional, "Courage to Believe." It is designed to help you bring your hopes and fears to God so you can take your next steps with courage. It's available on Amazon in English, Spanish, French, German, Italian, and Portuguese, and is free to read on Kindle Unlimited! Learn more here: https://link.amazon/B0bdk17Qj I love hearing from my listeners all over the world! Drop me a line at https://www.jrosemarie.com/contact and let me know how you are answering these identity questions today. Need emotional support as the kids get older and the nest gets emptier? Join our next Empty Nest Solo Mom Live: https://solomomstalk.kit.com/9ea4e6e004 You are loved, you are seen, and you are never alone. Follow me on: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/solomomstalk https://solomomstalk.mysites.io/podcast-2-copy/shattered-foundations-rebuilding-your-true-identity-as-a-daughter-of-god This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

Summary When we neglect our own mental, spiritual, and physical health to take care of everyone else, the trauma we ignore doesn't disappear. It piles up like a heap of debris, blocking our natural life flow. In this episode, you will explore a deeply personal journey of healing, learn how to unpack decades of hidden wounds, and discover how to construct your own multi-dimensional healing toolkit. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” ~ Matthew 11:28 (NIV). This episode will help you: Identify the physical and mental signs of living in chronic survival mode. Understand the concept of multi-dimensional, layered healing. Learn how to utilize free community and workplace resources for mental health support. Build a personalized healing toolkit using practical daily exercises. Key Takeaways: Recognize the Signs of Survival Mode: Chronic worry, physical exhaustion, and feeling like survival is your only setting are clear indicators that your body and mind are crying out for care. Start with Simple Movement: When structured plans feel overwhelming, take the easiest step first. Walking outdoors can act as a catalyst for both mental clarity and spiritual peace. Build a Layered Toolkit: A robust recovery plan uses multiple resources—such as journaling, reading self-development material, prayer, therapy, and community support. Utilize Workplace & Community Programs: Don't let finances halt your healing. Look into employer-sponsored Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) or local sliding-scale non-profit counseling services. Extend Grace to Yourself: Healing takes time. Be patient with your progress and seek out safe, trustworthy confidants who can listen without judgment. Resources: From the Blog: https://jrosemarie.com/connect-with-nature-for-better-mental-health/ Courage to Believe 21 Day Christian Devotional for Single Moms. Ebook available in English, French, Spanish, Portuguese, Italian, and German on Amazon: https://link.amazon/B0bKY9jS0 Also free with Kindle Unlimited: https://link.amazon/A0hRTZlVw Connect with me/request your free study guide: https://www.jrosemarie.com/contact Explore more resources: https://solomomstalk.store/b/giveaway Disclosure: as an Amazon Associates, I may earn a small commission when you purchase an affiliate link on this post. There is no additional cost to you. https://solomomstalk.mysites.io/podcast-2-copy/god-my-healer-facing-the-wounds-i-learned-to-hide This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

Welcome back to Solo Mom's Talk. Today, we are beginning a new series: Navigating the Emptiness. For those of us who have spent decades or more mothering solo, this transition hits with a force you never expected. I remember a moment after my children had grown when I was traveling to recalibrate my life. I was at Whole Foods, and as I picked up a juicy organic plum, I felt a literal stabbing in my heart. It was a wave of guilt so intense I had to stop and ask myself why. I realized that after years of pouring everything into my children, I didn’t believe I deserved my own happiness or even a simple piece of fruit. This "guilt of the organic plum" is a signal that a massive life era is ending. Acknowledging these complex, messy emotions is a strategic necessity for your next chapter. This transition is far more than a "sad phase"; it is a critical psychological recalibration. For twenty years, your identity has been fused with your children’s survival. Now, as the silence of the house grows, you must move from looking outward at their needs to looking inward at your own. This pivot point is the difference between fading into the background and embarking on a powerful, purposeful next phase. To help you navigate this transition, let’s explore the strategic milestones and takeaways for reclaiming your individual identity. Key Takeaways & Timestamps 02:15 - Give Yourself Permission to Grieve (But Not Too Long): Grief isn't just for the loss of a person; it’s for the loss of a life-era. It is okay to be sad and recognize the reality that you are alone now. However, the strategy here is to grieve with intention. Start by asking yourself exactly which part of solo mothering you are having the most difficulty letting go. Face the end of the era, sit in the quiet for a minute, and then prepare to move forward. 05:30 - Shifting from Caregiver to Mentor: Your role as a mother isn’t ending; it is evolving from daily "carer" to lifelong mentor and coach. Embracing this change is the absolute secret to a successful relationship with your adult children. They may not need you to manage their laundry or carpools, but they will seek you out as a sounding board. For a deeper dive into this shift, I encourage you to listen to Episode 36, Season 8: Secrets to Communicating with Your Adult Children. 09:00 - The "Who Am I?" Audit: During the throes of single motherhood, we often tell ourselves we don't have the time or resources for our own desires. Now is the time for a deep internal audit. To jumpstart this, I used a practical tool: I bought a Red Notebook. This color was significant to me, and inside, I listed every woman I wanted to stay connected with. This simple act of writing helped me focus on building a community of women worldwide. Reclaiming yourself starts with these small, intentional connections outside of your children. 15:45 - Building a Living Legacy: Your independence is a blueprint for the next generation. Consider my mother, who in her 80s prioritized the gym and healthy eating to manage her high blood pressure. Her example stuck with me more than any words could. When I travel now, I’m showing my granddaughters that they don’t have to stay in one place. They can live anywhere and be anyone. Self-care and goal-setting aren't selfish; they widen your children’s perspectives on what is possible for their own lives. Capturing these realizations in writing is the bridge between a vague feeling and a concrete future. The Solo Mom’s Self-Discovery Checklist Journaling is a strategic tool for "writing the vision and making it plain," as we are instructed in Habakkuk 2:2. In this season of life, your "lizard brain" will often attempt to sabotage your progress with whispers of guilt or fear. By documenting your answers to deep questions, you bypass these internal mental blocks. You transition from a reactive state, handling the emergencies of others, to a proactive state where you are the architect of your own happiness. Self-Discovery Questions: [ ] What do I actually enjoy doing for myself when no one is watching? [ ] What specific goals or hobbies have I been putting off for the last 20 years? [ ] What parts of my personality disappeared while I was raising my children? [ ] What have I always wanted to learn, try, or experience (e.g., travel, school, business)? [ ] Who am I when I’m not organizing my life around my children's needs? [ ] What relationships with other women do I want to nurture now? [ ] What is it that I want for myself as an individual woman? As you begin to fill your own "Red Notebook" with these answers, remember that you don't have to find all the answers at once. Resource Spotlight & Call to Action The path forward often feels unclear, which is why seeking external guidance, both spiritual and professional, is a strategic move. For years, you co-parented with God through the struggles of solo motherhood. This new season is an invitation to walk with God in a new way. Relying on faith provides the strength to move forward even when the entire path isn't visible. This continuity of faith ensures that the same spiritual tools that helped you survive will now help you thrive. The Book: Courage to Believe: 21-Day Christian Devotional for Single Moms. This devotional helps you connect your messy emotions with the everlasting story of grace. It is available on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited in English, Spanish, French, Italian, German, and Portuguese. Special Offer: Every purchase of Courage to Believe includes a free companion workbook with proof of purchase to help you dig deeper into your recalibration. Connect: If you are navigating this transition and need a space to share your thoughts, or if you'd like to request a conversation, use the contact link: https://www.jrosemarie.com/contact Your role as a mother is permanent, but your life as an individual is being reborn. It’s time to start doing the things you’ve been putting off. This podcast is not sponsored. However, some links in this post are affiliate links. If you make a purchase using a link, I may earn a small commission with no extra cost to you. https://solomomstalk.mysites.io/podcast-2-copy/navigating-the-emptiness-real-life-tips-for-empty-nest-solo-moms This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy

1. Finding Your Strength: An Invitation to Lead Hey mama, I know exactly what it feels like when you’re barely keeping your head above water. I’ve been where you are. There were days when raising my two youngest sons who were just two and four years old when their father walked out felt like an impossible weight. In those moments, "thriving" isn't even on the radar; you’re just trying to survive the next hour. But I want to share a truth that changed everything for me: to see our families truly flourish, we have to move from "getting by" to a mindset of parenting as leadership. In my own journey, this shift happened when I stopped trying to carry the burden of being a solo mom on my own shoulders. I realized that I didn't have to parent from a place of depletion, but could begin parenting from a position of power. This isn't a power we muster up ourselves; it’s a power that comes from a radical realization I had while my boys were small: I wasn't actually alone. I was co-parenting with God. When we move from the struggle of isolation into a divine partnership, our entire parenting landscape changes. 2. The Radical Shift: Co-Parenting with God [02:15] Viewing God as your co-parent is the foundational step for any mother seeking to lead her household with confidence. When my husband left, I hit rock bottom. I felt like I couldn't even parent myself, let alone two babies, and there were moments I wanted to end it all. But then my mind shifted. I realized that if God cared for me, He cared for the children He gifted me. By making God your primary confidant, you protect yourself from the judgment of others. I learned early on that some people are only waiting for you to tell them your problems so they can use them against you. Confiding in God instead reduces that crushing burden of decision-making and keeps your heart safe. My journey from Atlanta to New York is a perfect example of this partnership. I had my mind set on going to Florida. But I had asked for God's help, and He led me to New York. Even when it felt like the craziest idea ever, I followed His lead because I knew He had the answers I didn't. This partnership allows you to: Navigate Financial Uncertainty: Turning to Him when the numbers don't add up. Receive Decisive Guidance: Seeking wisdom for your children's future. Find Emotional Safety: Knowing you have a partner who never leaves. Before we can effectively lead our children, we must first allow ourselves to be led. 3. The Oxygen Mask: Letting God Parent You [06:40] You know the airplane instruction: put on your own oxygen mask first. In parenting, this is a strategic necessity. If we don’t address our own internal wounds, anger at the ex, impatience, or the deep insecurity that abandonment leaves us with, we can’t lead our children well. I had to learn to let God parent me. I didn't know my earthly father, but I discovered through the Word that God is an all-powerful, loving Father. Adopting Him as your own Father provides the emotional security you need to handle conflict and life’s challenges. As Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, when we trust Him with all our heart and stop depending on our own limited understanding, He shows us exactly which path to take. When we ask Him to help us with our fear or frustration, that internal healing becomes visible to our children. They see us being led, and it teaches them how to follow. 4. Leadership Through Demonstration & The Power of Apology [10:45] True leadership in the home is demonstrative. Our children internalize our reactions more than our instructions. We have to move away from that old "boss" mentality where the parent is always right just because they’re in charge. Instead, we lead by example. One of the most powerful tools you have is a sincere apology. I grew up in a culture where parents never apologized, but I’m telling you, it builds respect. If you lose your temper and start cussing or carrying on because someone made you mad, apologize to your child. Say, "I'm sorry I acted that way; I let my emotions control me." That’s a seed of accountability. You’re teaching them how to handle their own future mistakes. Leadership in Action: Money Management: I have to be honest, I’ve struggled with a "scarcity mindset" myself, where you get money and feel you need to spend it immediately. My guest, Al Jones, saw this in his own mother. Leading means breaking those cycles of poor credit and impulsive spending. Health Habits: Modeling how we value our bodies through exercise and nutrition. Respect for Others: Refusing to gossip or speak ill of the children’s father in their presence. Emotional Regulation: Showing them how to respond to hardship without losing control. 5. Rewriting the Legacy: Breaking Generational Cycles [14:50] As the leader of your home, you have the power to recalibrate your family legacy. It’s about rejecting the idea that "this is just in my DNA." My family had a legacy of high blood pressure and young people dying of aneurysms. But 40 years ago, my mother who is now 91, decided to focus on her health. She changed the trajectory. I think about Patti LaBelle, who saw the women in her family dying of cancer and decided she wasn't going to "buy into" that legacy. You can alter your bloodline. I see it in my sons. My oldest maintained celibacy until he was married at 38, and my younger sons have made intentional choices about their own health and lives. Legacy isn't one dramatic declaration; it’s repeated behavior. The Legacy Audit Ask yourself these questions to see what needs to change: How does our family handle money? How do we resolve conflict? (Is it yelling, or prayer and apology?) How do we talk about people when they aren't around? Do we keep our word? How do we treat our bodies? Remember: some things can stop with you, and some things can start with you. 6. The Ministry of Imperfection [20:00] Sustainable leadership means releasing the perfectionism trap. You aren't "screwing up your kids" because you aren't perfect. When we realize that children are a reward and a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), we can finally relax. Your home is your primary ministry. You don't have to be perfect; you just have to be present and willing to let God work in your life right in front of them. Let them see you pray, let them see you learn, and let them see you change course. As Isaiah 41:10 promises, you don't have to fear or be dismayed, because God is with you, strengthening you and upholding you with His hand. 7. Episode Summary & Scripture Reference Table Scriptures for the Solo Mom’s Journey James 1:5 - Seeking wisdom for parenting decisions from a God who gives generously without fear of rebuke. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. (NIV). Proverbs 3:5-6 - Relying on divine guidance instead of personal understanding to find the right path for your family. Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take (NLT). Proverbs 22:6 - Investing in your child's future by training them through demonstrative leadership. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (WEB). Psalm 127:3 - Reframing children as a gift and a reward to lower parental anxiety and perfectionism. Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him (NLT). Isaiah 41:10 - Finding the strength to lead by resting in the promise that God is upholding you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand (NIV). In this episode, we explore how a solo mom can transition from survival mode to parenting as leadership. By embracing the radical concept of co-parenting with God, mothers can alleviate the burden of decision-making and begin rewriting their generational legacy. Learn why demonstrative leadership and the power of apology are more effective than a "boss" mentality in shaping a child's character and breaking the cycle of scarcity. 8. Call to Action (CTA) I invite you to take this journey further. If you need a daily reminder that you aren't walking this path alone, please check out my 21-day Christian devotional, Courage to Believe. It’s available on Amazon and is translated into French, Spanish, Portuguese, German, and Italian (and it's free on Kindle Unlimited!). **Amazon affiliate links when you purchase I earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I’d also love to connect with you. Follow me on Instagram @solomomstalk or subscribe to the SoloMoms Talk Podcast on YouTube. Contact: https://www.jrosemarie.com/contact Reach out and share your story with me. I want to know: how did this mind shift feel for you? What is the one thing God is asking you to change today? Remember, mama, some things can stop with you, and some things can start with you. Thank you for listening. https://solomomstalk.mysites.io/podcast-2-copy/co-parent-with-god-to-be-a-better-parent-leader This podcast is hosted by Captivate, try it yourself for free. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy