Send us Fan MailMost people are okay with their pain because it’s familiar.In this episode of Real Talk, Richard and I unpack what really sits underneath“I’m fine.”We talk about the gap between coping and actually living, how many high-functioning people build lives that look successful on the outside while quietly running on survival mode underneath.Here’s what happens:• We tolerate • We normalise • We distract • We hide • We ignore • We keep goingUntil one day… we can’t.That sudden anxiety at the supermarket. The tears that come out of nowhere. The burnout that hits behind closed doors. The moment you realise you’ve been lying to yourself for a very long time.We also discuss:Why most people don’t ask for help until things become unbearableThe ways we cover up pain to keep functioningEmotional isolation created by “tough love” conditioningFinancial anxiety and health neglect that builds in silenceSelf-doubt that hides behind capabilityWhat happens when your body forces you to stopWhy time doesn’t actually heal what hasn’t been processedAnd how simply being seen can begin to shift everythingThis is not about fixing yourself.It’s about recognising when coping has quietly replaced living, and choosing something different.If you’re tired of saying “I’m fine” when you’re really not, this conversation is for you.Timestamps00:00 Introduction 02:10 The difference between coping and living 05:20 Why most people tolerate pain for years 12:30 The hidden signs of chronic stress 16:40 When anxiety suddenly appears 20:15 Burnout behind closed doors 24:00 Imposter syndrome in disguise 28:10 Childhood conditioning and “tough love” 34:20 Emotional isolation 39:00 Why time doesn’t heal 44:30 Being seen without needing solutions 49:20 The moment you realise you’re not fine 54:00 Accepting where you are 58:30 Reaching out for supportIf this episode resonates, join my Skool community, a safe, supportive space for women navigating life transitions like the empty nest, separation, identity shifts, and personal growth.👉 Join us on Skool and come be part of the conversation.https://www.skool.com/the-change-makers-2078/about?ref=4d349337c57a4956baef9fhttps://[email protected] Me a Coffeehttps://www.buymeacoffee.com/wowlli?fbclid=IwAR1hch2v3XJ08zqmjuPled28N73L4WNYBiGmg6qbGLearn More about Lorene:https://loreneroberts.com/about Be part of our growing  Community!https://www.facebook.com/LoreneRobertsHolisticCousellorCheck our Website: https://loreneroberts.com  If you want more content like this and to help support this podcast, you can Buy Me a Coffee by clicking the link below:                  https://www.buymeacoffee.com/wowlli?fbclid=IwAR1hch2v3XJ08zqmjuPled28N73L4WNYBiGmg6qbGuHaGimcv7N3_IXuy4cLovin' this episode? leave us a rating or review on iTunes, for us to create and inspire more women around the world! Thank you