Groomed from childhood into a hidden fetish world, Jess spent years trapped in trauma, addiction, and a 700+ lb spiral, until losing everything forced a shocking fight to reclaim her life. → We're All Insane Plus for Bonus Episodes, Ad-Free Listening, Access to New Show, Guided Mediations:  ⁠https://wereallinsane.com⁠ Sponsored By: → Just Thrive | Get your health in check and save 20% on your first order at ⁠https://justthrivehealth.com/INSANE⁠ → Shopify | It’s time to turn those “What Ifs” into “cha ching” with Shopify today. Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial today at ⁠https://shopify.com/insane⁠ Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 – What does it feel like to realize your entire life was shaped before you even understood it? → 00:02:30 – What is feederism and how can it be introduced to a child without them realizing? → 00:03:10 – How can grooming happen even without physical abuse? → 00:05:00 – How can food, dieting, and control be used as psychological manipulation? → 00:06:00 – Why would someone secretly sabotage a child’s health for their own pleasure? → 00:07:00 – How does public humiliation play a role in control and manipulation? → 00:09:10 – How can fear be used to control a child’s behavior? → 00:12:40 – When does manipulation escalate into something more dangerous? → 00:14:50 – How does exposure to adult content at a young age shape identity? → 00:18:50 – How does grooming evolve as a child becomes a teenager? → 00:19:40 – What happens when a minor is brought into adult environments like clubs? → 00:22:30 – Why are teenagers especially vulnerable to harmful relationships? → 00:23:30 – What happens when a toxic relationship takes over your life? → 00:26:00 – What does feeder behavior look like in relationships and how extreme can it get? → 00:29:50 – How does someone transition from grooming into adult industry work? → 00:31:20 – Why can harmful environments feel familiar or even safe? → 00:34:10 – How do people separate their identity from their work to cope? → 00:36:00 – How can your body become tied to validation, income, and relationships? → 00:38:50 – What happens when survival pushes you into increasingly risky situations? → 00:40:20 – How can predators exploit vulnerability and past trauma? → 00:42:50 – What happens when boundaries are completely erased in relationships? → 00:45:00 – How does toxic behavior become normalized within communities? → 00:49:00 – When do you start realizing something is deeply wrong? → 00:52:00 – Why is it so hard to recognize grooming while it’s happening? → 00:59:00 – What happens when you finally start unpacking trauma in therapy? → 01:01:20 – How do you realize what you experienced was actually abuse? → 01:03:00 – How can abusers continue manipulating even after they’re out of your life? → 01:05:40 – How can financial dependence keep someone stuck in harmful work? → 01:07:20 – How quickly can physical health decline when mental health collapses? → 01:10:00 – What does rock bottom actually look like in real life? → 01:13:20 – How can loss and addiction push someone to their breaking point? → 01:16:30 – What happens in the moment you decide whether to live or die? → 01:19:40 – How do you rebuild your life after hitting rock bottom? → 01:22:00 – How do people react when you stop being the version of you they expect? → 01:24:30 – How do you let go of fear and trust that the right path will find you? → 01:28:30 – What does it feel like to finally enjoy your life again? Jess’s Links: → ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@jessteacakes⁠ → ⁠https://linktr.ee/teacakesjess⁠ More We're All Insane:  → ⁠OFFICIAL MERCH NOW AVAILABLE - code INSANE10 gets you 10% off for a limited time⁠ → ⁠Join We’re All Insane Mailing List for EXCLUSIVE Content + Discounts  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices