💙 Understanding Sadness & Grief in Medicine Episode Overview Part 2 of our emotional health series! Amanda, Laura, and Kendra continue the conversation about the harder feelings in medicine—this time focusing on sadness and grief. This isn't just about patient deaths; it's about the mounting, often invisible losses that accumulate over a career and silently fuel burnout. 🎯 Key Distinctions (Thanks, Brené Brown!) Sadness ≠ Depression Sadness is transient; depression is a cluster of symptoms over time Depression can exist WITHOUT sadness (it's often just fog, fatigue, disconnection) Sadness ≠ Grief Sadness is ONE part of grief, but grief includes many emotions and experiences Grief is not linear—it waxes and wanes, hits you when you least expect it Positive Aspects of Sadness Less judgmental errors, more empathy, greater generosity Naming sadness is CRITICAL for compassion formation Sad movies reconnect us with our humanity (and remind us emotions are temporary!) 💔 The 3 Elements of Grief LOSS - Death, separation, identity, function, or things hard to describe LONGING - Involuntary yearning for wholeness, understanding, meaning FEELING LOST - Disorienting; requires reorienting your entire world 📋 Types of Grief in Medicine Acute Grief: Tearfulness, insomnia, typically <1 year Anticipatory Grief: Grieving before the loss (terminal diagnoses) Complicated/Prolonged Grief: Intense, persistent, interferes with daily life Ambiguous Grief: Loss without closure (hello, pandemic deaths we never processed!) Disenfranchised Grief: Loss society doesn't acknowledge as legitimate "Doctors, what do YOU have to be sad about? You've got it so good!" Loss of autonomy, agency, the practice you thought you'd have THIS is the sneaky one that intensifies burnout 🚨 How Grief Shows Up (And You Might Not Even Know It) Emotional: Tearfulness, heaviness, numbness Cognitive: "I could have done more," difficulty concentrating, rumination Behavioral: Withdrawing from colleagues, reduced empathy, irritability Physical: Fatigue, insomnia, appetite changes, unexplained aches Clinical Spillover: Overcompensating or avoiding complex cases Declining call you used to handle fine Emotional blunting during difficult conversations Snapping at loved ones at home 📚 The Research That'll Make You Say "FINALLY!" "Hidden in Plain Sight" Review (17 studies): We're exposed to repeated death & bad outcomes with ZERO formal training Healthcare workers feel unprepared because we have no bereavement training Colleagues provide the MOST meaningful support (takes one to know one!) What would help: paid time off after difficult cases, designated space to grieve, debriefing JAMA Meta-Analysis (21,000+ physicians): Depressive symptoms nearly DOUBLED the risk of medical errors Mounting grief → emotional exhaustion → burnout → errors We're setting ourselves up for disaster by not addressing this! 🌧️ The RAIN Method for Processing Emotions R - RECOGNIZE: Name what you're experiencing "I feel sad because this isn't what I wanted" A - ALLOW: Accept it without judgment (just sit with it for 90 seconds!) "I can sit with this sadness. I'm not gonna fix, avoid, or dismiss it" I - INVESTIGATE: Get curious, not critical "I wonder why this sadness is coming up? What am I believing?" N - NURTURE: Self-compassion time! What would you say to a colleague feeling this way? Say THAT to yourself "It's okay to be sad. It's not your fault. You're not alone." Why it works: Self-compassion activates your parasympathetic nervous system, decreases cortisol, improves sleep and wellbeing 🤝 The NURSE Framework (Helping Colleagues) N - NAME/Mirror the emotion: "It sounds like you're feeling angry. I hear you." U - UNDERSTAND: Seek to understand their feelings R - RESPECT S - SUPPORT E - EXPLORE: "Tell me more" OR "Can I offer you a coach/therapist?" 💡 What We Can Do For Ourselves: Practice RAIN regularly Journal after you understand it wasn't your fault Go for walks (use your body to regulate big emotions) Cry (it's an incredible release!) Reach out for counseling (it's brave, not weak) For Each Other: Sit across the table: "Yeah, this is tough. I'm in this with you." Group debriefs after difficult cases Connection, connection, connection! Meaning-Making: Group coaching, rituals of closure, processing with those who GET IT 📖 Must-Read Resource "Grief Healed: A Physician's Guide to Dealing With Grief and Thriving" by Dr. Shona Bhatnagar Written by a full-time practicing physician who lost her husband unexpectedly AND her son to chronic illness in 10 months. Real, raw, doctor-to-doctor wisdom. 🎯 Your Challenge Next time grief shows up, ask: "What is this feeling telling me?" "How can I connect with this experience and accept it?" "How can I reach out from here?" Remember: Isolation isn't the final answer. Community, compassion, and courage through connection—that's how we heal. Need to talk? We're here. Email us at [email protected] or book a free session at www.thewholephysician.com You are whole. You are a gift to medicine. The work you do matters. 💙 Sources: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12174799 https://www.aafp.org/pubs/fpm/issues/2023/0900/physician-grief https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2755851 Weekly Well Check Podcast Fast Track