#120 | Did Elite Women Ruin Modern Dating and Mating?
NOV 24, 2025-1 MIN
#120 | Did Elite Women Ruin Modern Dating and Mating?
NOV 24, 2025-1 MIN
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<p data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">In this episode, I unpack the question - could much of the frustration and difficulty in dating and mating be attributed to (at least in part) to hyper-elite women practicing what is known as ‘Reproductive Suppression’?</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Vogue published an article titled ‘Is Having a Boyfriend Lame?’ Which prompted Rob Henderson to put forth his hypothesis about Reproductive Suppression in this brilliant piece titled ‘Girl Boss Gatekeeping’ - <a target="_blank" href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbm9zR1ZXUnFvLVlNLUcyM2QyWWZkNGotY21FUXxBQ3Jtc0ttSFlBYmF4SzgwUkl5MDlXbWdGcXZCZmhpWHE5Ymdhb2QzUUtfc2ZEMnRzenhvajAyUkFMbUh0SGF5MEtQYXlOWl95RXdrQVplRi1ZM1drVTgzSHVBY211RHRVVWJNUXhuMjJhRXFQTlliZENMZ1Z2Yw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.robkhenderson.com%2Fp%2Fgirlboss-gatekeeping&v=DWcotWoLm7c">https://www.robkhenderson.com/p/girlb...</a> </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">I draw on research from Rob Henderson and Dr. Dani Sulikowski as I break down female intragroup conflict and why all the body positivity, you don’t need a man, and red flag culture that seems like it’s in solidarity with women might actually be a covert strategy to keep women from finding mates.</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Listen in to learn about how high-status females (including chimps) keep low-status females away from mates, how modern tech amplifies ‘aspirational’ lifestyles, why rom-coms feel like castration for men, how dark-triad traits correlate with anti-natalism, and much more.</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">This one is an evolutionary psychology nerding out episode - enjoy!</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">TIMESTAMPS:</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">00:53 —Intro </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">01:03 —One on one coaching spots</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">03:15 — The Question of Elite Women as "Mean Girls"</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">05:00 — The Proximate and Ultimate Reasons for Elite Women's Behavior</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">06:16 — Intergroup Conflict and Covert Passive Aggression in Women </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">07:36 — Unconscious Competitive Strategy to Keep Women from Mates </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">10:12 — Girl Boss, Body Positivity, & Female Entitlement </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">13:16 — Technology, Consumerism, and the Tornado of Reproductive Suppression</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">14:37 — Heartbreak of Women Who Prioritised Career Over Family </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">17:00 — Reproductive Sabotage: Disrupting Women's Mating Preferences </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">18:01 — Demonising Traditional Masculine Traits & Rom-Com Castration</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">20:50 — Proximate vs. Ultimate Summary & Lying to Women</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">21:58 — Elite Women's Access to Resources and Protection</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">23:55 — Male Envy and Psychopathic Insanity </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">24:50 — Dark Triad Traits and Lack of Introspection</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">25:52 — The Frustration of double standards</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">27:16 — Historical Examples: Elizabeth Cady Stanton & Victoria Woodhull </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">28:54 — The Narrative of Oppression vs. Reality for Elite Women </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">29:57 — The Twisting of Pain into Man Envy (Betty Friedan) </p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">31:17 — Conclusion & Call to Action for Harmony</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;">32:24 — Outro<br>___________________________</p><p class="sqsrte-small" data-rte-preserve-empty="true" style="white-space:pre-wrap;"><em>If you found some value today then help me spread the word! 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