Evolving Love

<p>In this episode, we dive headfirst into the world of <strong>hot wifing and hot husbanding</strong>, unpacking what these dynamics actually are and why they can feel so electrifying. We talk openly about erotic charge, compersion, possession, and play, exploring how fantasy and power can exist inside consensual, loving relationships without contradicting autonomy or feminist values.</p><p>We also explore the practical and emotional realities of these dynamics: how to talk to a partner about it, what makes someone a good third, where things can go wrong, and why communication, enthusiasm, and consent are non-negotiable.</p><p><strong>Evolving Love Links:</strong></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/">Website</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/evolvingloveproject">Instagram</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/">Substack</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://youtu.be/zQfetjIp5wE?si=dQOutHDBZOY-b2Ys">Youtube</a></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>In today’s episode we talk about entering midlife without the stereotype of a meltdown. We explore grief for past versions of ourselves, tenderness for who we’re becoming, and how aging changes desire, ambition, creativity, and intimacy. We talk about perimenopause, slowing down, recalibrating expectations, and what it means to grow older together without panic or denial.</p><p><strong>Evolving Love Links:</strong></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/">Website</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/evolvingloveproject">Instagram</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/">Substack</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://youtu.be/zQfetjIp5wE?si=dQOutHDBZOY-b2Ys">Youtube</a></p><p><strong>Resources From Episode:</strong></p><p>From Strength To Strength - Arthur C. Brooks</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/why-does-life-feel-harder-at-40/">Imperfects Podcast - Why Does Life Feel Harder at 40?</a></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>In our final episode of the year we discuss 2025 and some of our favourite podcast guests of the year, our plans for the New Year, the ethics of sending old selfies and so much more...</p><p>Here are <strong>links</strong> to the episodes mentioned in this episode:</p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/p/who-gets-to-be-seen-sexy-selfies">Dr. Emma Phillips - Sexy Selfies</a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/p/leaving-a-cult-love-intimacy-and?r=qb43x">Evan Buckley - Cults</a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/p/will-ai-kill-intimacy-w-evolutionary?r=qb43x">Dr. Rob Brooks - AI</a></p><p><strong>Evolving Love Links:</strong></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/">Website</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/evolvingloveproject">Instagram</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/">Substack</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://youtu.be/zQfetjIp5wE?si=dQOutHDBZOY-b2Ys">Youtube</a></p><p>See you in 2026!!</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p><strong>Evolving Lovers!! 100 episodes</strong> of the Evolving Love Podcast!!! </p><p>To celebrate, we invited back one of our all-time favourite guests: Dr. <a target="_blank" href="https://substack.com/profile/6699451-chris-ryan">Chris Ryan</a>, author of <em>Sex at Dawn</em>, <em>Civilized to Death</em>, and host of <em>Tangentially Speaking</em>.</p><p>In this milestone episode, we dive deep into what it means to love, to be seen, and to navigate desire in a rapidly changing world. Chris discusses why humans are <em>fundamentally non-monogamous</em>, why monogamy can still be a meaningful choice, and how shame, safety, novelty, and honesty shape our erotic lives. We also explore how AI will transform intimacy and whether social conditioning distorts our instincts.</p><p>For us, it is the perfect way to mark 100 episodes of the Evolving Love podcast.</p><p>Thank you for being here with us. ❤️</p><p><strong>Chris Ryan Links:</strong></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.chrisryanphd.com/">Website</a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://chrisryan.substack.com/">Substack / Podcast</a></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/thatchrisryan/?hl=en">Instagram</a></p><p></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>In this episode, Liam and I sit down to unpack what we’ve been calling <em>“the silent load”</em>….the unseen, unspoken work that keeps relationships and families running smoothly.</p><p>We talk about the four types of invisible load that show up in love: the <strong>physical</strong>, <strong>emotional</strong>, <strong>mental</strong>, and <strong>relational</strong> loads. From who remembers to buy the groceries, to who plans the date nights or initiates the tough conversations, we explore how these patterns form, what they mean, and why they can feel so heavy.</p><p><strong>Evolving Love Links:</strong></p><p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.evolvingloveproject.com/">Website</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://www.instagram.com/evolvingloveproject">Instagram</a> | <a target="_blank" href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/">Substack</a></p><p></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe</a>