<p>In this episode, we explore what it really takes to create meaningful change — especially in those seasons where everything feels hard, familiar patterns keep looping, and no amount of “trying” seems to make a difference. </p><p>We talk about the inner environment required for real change, and why self-compassion isn’t the opposite of accountability — it’s the foundation of it.</p><p>You’ll hear about:</p><ul><li>Why we default to shame when we feel stuck</li><li>The myth that self-criticism leads to better behaviour</li><li>How shame overwhelms an already stressed nervous system</li><li>Why being on your own team is essential for honest self-reflection</li></ul><p><a href="https://www.stephanierigg.com/secure-self-challenge" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">👉🏼 Join the January round of my 28-Day Secure Self Challenge here</a></p><p><br></p><p>00:00 Introduction 04:13 Why Self-Judgment is So Common06:32 Understanding and Validating Anxiety08:49 The Role of Self-Compassion in Growth11:58 Isn&#39;t Self-Compassion Self-Indulgent?</p>