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In this episode, I answer three powerful questions from my community about orgasms, disgust in self-touch, and how to find your way back to sex after a long dry spell in a relationship. We explore the refractory period after clitoral orgasm, how to “edge” your pleasure to expand into vaginal orgasms, what’s really behind feeling icky or nauseous when you touch your body, and how to reconnect intimately with your partner when sex has felt clunky or disappointing. In this episode: Why pleasure is a choice and how attention grows desire The refractory period after clitoral orgasm and what to do about it Using edging to expand pleasure and support vaginal orgasms Disgust and nausea during self-touch as a protective, learned response Somatic and emotional tools for healing shame and body aversion Rebuilding sexual connection with your partner after months without intimacy   JOIN SLUT ACADEMY 👉 JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE to get 50% off enrollment, exclusive bonuses, first access to spots, and my erotic diaries newsletter: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist   Related episodes: 25: Slut Academy 26: The Slut Archetype – what and who is she and why she'll revolutionize your sex life! 97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission 34: The importance of imperfect pleasure and sex

In this episode, I unpack a powerful question from a listener who shared that while she’s a fully capable adult woman in every area of life (career, motherhood, friendship, creativity), but her sexuality still feels frozen at age twelve. She resonated deeply with my reel “Are you a teen or a woman in the bedroom?” and described the confusion of being perceived by others as sensual while internally feeling disconnected from her own body. Together, we explore what it means to evolve from that teen-like sexual identity into an embodied, confident adult woman… and how vulnerable, confusing, and awakening that transition can be.   In this episode, I talk about: Why your erotic self can lag decades behind your adult self-image Early sexual imprinting and how it silently shapes your confidence today The “capable woman” identity and why sexuality is the one place it often collapses Vulnerability with your partner: why it feels terrifying and why it matters How repressing emotions shuts down your pleasure and orgasmic potential Dropping performance and approaching sexuality as a learnable skill Identity-based habits that support your evolution into an empowered sexual woman   Download the Quick Start Guide to Identity-Based Habits by James Clear to map out daily actions that support your new mature sexual identity.   Join the Slut Academy waitlist (sae 50% on enrollment + bonuses + frist access to limited spots) to walk this rite of passage with me over four months and become the free, powerful, orgasmic woman you came here to be: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist   Powerful resource, a guided meditation, from the pod: 85. Empowering Narrative meditation  

In this episode, I share what it means to step fully into your slut era inside a committed relationship (or in singlehood). I talk about why this energy is so powerful, how it revived my own desire, and how reclaiming the word slut can transform sex that feels flat, disconnected, or routine.   In this episode, I talk about: What a “slut era” looks like in a monogamous marriage A new, empowering definition of the word slut Why long-term relationships often dull desire — and how slut energy reignites it Releasing shame, body judgment, and the “respectable woman” identity The difference between sensation and true erotic power Awakening the slut archetype for creativity, freedom, and wild pleasure Making space for taboo fantasies without fear or self-judgment How erotic energy boosts confidence, vitality, and relational intimacy Who Slut Academy is for and why community matters in this work   JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE and get amazing discounts and bonuses PLUS my exclusive erotic diaries newsletter! https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist   Related episodes: 25: Slut Academy 26: The Slut Archetype – what and who is she and why she'll revolutionize your sex life! 97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission 34: The importance of imperfect pleasure and sex  

In this episode, I answer my student's question about embracing your sensuality and navigating the shift within a committed partnership. I explore how to handle new attention from others, soften old “ice queen” protection patterns, and invite your partner into this new chapter without pressure or fear. I also share pieces of my own awakening and offer mindset tools, scripts, and practices to help you feel grounded, desired, and fully in your feminine energy.   In this episode, I talk about: Why your sensual awakening changes how people respond to you Old insecurities, “ice queen” energy, and stepping into embodied confidence Attention as an exchange — and why you don’t owe anyone anything Masculine vs. feminine energy in dating and long-term relationships Becoming more approachable by shifting into your feminine How to receive compliments and decline flirtation with grace Inviting your husband into your erotic growth (without pressure) Navigating light, innocent flirtation while staying in integrity Rethinking monogamy, fantasy, and relationship agreements   Related episodes: 109: Q&A: Sex questions we’re afraid to ask (but should) → 107: Q&A – rebuilding desire, expressing needs, unhealthy fantasies, overcoming shame and MORE → 14: How to be sexual/sexy AND feel safe in this world Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

This short episode is a love note to your sexuality, and an invitation to come home to it. I share one of my favorite analogies to help you understand what it means to truly inhabit your sexual self, to stop treating your sexuality like an abandoned house and start tending to it like the warm, beautiful home it’s meant to be. In this episode, I share: The difference between being disconnected from your sexuality and feeling fully at home in it How neglecting your pleasure shows up in your body and relationships What it means to take ownership of your sexual energy and desires How you can start reclaiming your sexuality through simple, embodied practices An invitation to join Pleasure Treats - my mini course to help you do exactly that   Links and resources:  Join Pleasure treats: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/p-treats Related episodes: 32: PLEASURE TREATS → Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn