Don't Change Much

Fatherhood does not come with a manual. For a lot of men, it comes with pressure, fear, old patterns, and the quiet belief that they are supposed to figure it out on their own. In this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, hosts Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin sit down with Brandon Hay and Dr. David Kuhl for a grounded conversation about fatherhood, community, and the places men finally talk. Mike brings the lens of a proud father watching his son step into adulthood, while Trevor connects the conversation to recovery, ceremony, and the power of finding yourself in a room with other men who understand. Brandon shares the work behind Black Daddies Club, Sunday Dinners, barbershop conversations, hikes, and community spaces built with Black fathers and men, not for them from a distance. David adds his perspective on why men’s health support works best when it goes where men already are and creates the right conditions for honesty. Together, they explore what happens when men have spaces where the mask can come down, mentorship can happen naturally, and fatherhood can be figured out in community. You’ll hear: Why fatherhood can feel isolating, even when men care deeply How community spaces help men speak honestly without forcing it Why support has to be built with men, not handed down to them How mentorship, food, ceremony, and shared experience can change what men believe is possible This is a conversation about men, fatherhood, and connection. Not a lecture. Not a fix. Just a reminder that men do not have to figure it all out alone   Support This Podcast and Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/   Follow Brandon Hay Black Daddies Club - https://theblackdaddiesclub.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/brandonhay8 TedX - Redefining Fatherhood - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=__OVH9UnDVk& LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-hay-mes-business-021a332a/ Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation Website - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/ Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation   Follow Mike Cameron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/ Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/ X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X  LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameronWebsite - https://mikecameron.ca/TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong   Follow Trevor Botkin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gsnscreative Muster Point IG - https://www.instagram.com/the_musterpoint Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gsnscreative LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/ Support Men & Their Familes: https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why are so many young men turning to the internet for answers? For a lot of guys, the search starts with something simple. A question about success. A question about relationships. A question about who they’re supposed to be. But it doesn’t take long before that search leads them into something bigger. The manosphere. A world of content that promises clarity, confidence, and control. But often comes with a very different cost. In this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, hosts Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin sit down with Dr. Paul Sharp, a researcher focused on men’s health and identity, to break down what’s really happening. They talk about why so many men feel lost right now. The role of social media algorithms in shaping beliefs. And why this content is spreading faster than ever. Because the reality is, most men aren’t looking for extremes. They’re looking for connection. They’re looking for belonging. They’re looking for answers. And when they don’t find that in real life, they go online. This conversation explores what draws men in, what keeps them there, and what we can do differently. Because this isn’t just about the internet. It’s about identity. It’s about community. It’s about what it means to be a man today.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the manosphere is growing and who it’s reaching How algorithms amplify extreme content over time What young men are really searching for online The impact of isolation and lack of connection Why traditional ideas of masculinity are being challenged How real-world relationships can counter online influence Simple ways to build stronger, more meaningful connections Support This Podcast and Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/   Follow Dr. Paul Sharp Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/5rSzbqlPjESA63g75f1xgl    Website - https://www.unsw.edu.au/staff/paul-sharp  Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation Website - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/ Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation Follow Mike Cameron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/ Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/ X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X  LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameronWebsite - https://mikecameron.ca/TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong   Follow Trevor Botkin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gsnscreative Muster Point IG - https://www.instagram.com/the_musterpoint Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gsnscreative LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/ Support Men & Their Familes: https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

“I got this.” For a lot of men, those three words feel like strength. But they can also be the loneliest words you’ll ever say. The “I got this” mentality often starts as resilience, but can turn into isolation. Learning to speak up, lean on others, and build support can actually make you stronger. In this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, hosts Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin sit down with Shawn Underhill and James Boseley. Two men who’ve spent years working in the trades and construction industry and know firsthand what it means to push through pain, stay silent, and carry more than they should. They share real stories from the job site. Long hours. Injuries. Chronic pain. Pressure to keep going no matter what. And what happens when you never stop? Because in the trades, asking for help doesn’t always feel like an option. The expectation is to be tough, to handle it, to figure it out on your own. But that mindset can come at a cost. Physical injuries that get worse over time. Mental health struggles that stay hidden. Pain that doesn’t just go away. Because you don’t need to hit rock bottom to make a change. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “I got this” can be both strength and a warning sign The hidden mental and physical cost of toughing it out How trades culture impacts men’s health and help-seeking behavior The connection between chronic pain, stress, and mental health Why many men avoid asking for help (and how to change that) How community and support can actually build resilience What real strength looks like in today’s world Simple ways to start opening up and getting support   Support This Podcast and Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/   If you, a friend or a family member is looking for support to live better with chronic pain, please reach out to Pain BC https://painbc.ca/    Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation Website - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/ Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation   Follow Mike Cameron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/ Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/ X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X  LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameron Website - https://mikecameron.ca/ TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong   Follow Trevor Botkin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gsnscreative Muster Point IG - https://www.instagram.com/the_musterpoint Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gsnscreative LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/ Support Men & Their Familes: https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You feel fine. Nothing hurts. Everything seems normal. But that doesn’t always mean you’re healthy. In this episode of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, hosts Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin sit down with medical oncologist and prevention researcher Dr. Zia Poonja to talk about a problem many men don’t realize they’re facing until it’s too late. The gap between feeling healthy and actually being healthy. Because for a lot of men, the warning signs don’t show up until years, sometimes decades, after the damage has already started. Dr. Poonja introduces the idea of healthspan. Not just how long you live, but how long you stay strong, capable, and independent. The conversation explores why so many men avoid doctors, delay testing, or assume they’re fine simply because they don’t have symptoms. And how that mindset can quietly lead to bigger problems later on. It also challenges the idea of “normal” health. Just because your numbers fall within a range doesn’t mean you’re operating at your best. One of the most powerful ideas in the episode is a simple shift in perspective. Instead of asking, “Do I feel okay right now?” Ask, “Am I building a body that will hold up 20 or 30 years from now?” Because the goal isn’t just to live longer. It’s to stay strong enough to actually enjoy the life you’ve built. This isn’t about fear or drastic change. It’s about paying attention earlier, making small adjustments, and giving yourself a better chance at a healthier future. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why many men feel healthy but aren’t actually healthy The difference between lifespan vs healthspan (and why it matters) Why waiting for symptoms is one of the biggest health mistakes men make How “normal” test results can still hide underlying risk Why strength and muscle are critical for long-term health The real reason men avoid doctors and delay testing How to start thinking about your future health today Simple ways men can take a more proactive approach to their health Support This Podcast and Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/ Follow Dr Zia Poonja LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-zia-poonja-38481237/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/my_healthspan/  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ownmyhealthspan/  Website - https://www.myhealthspan.com/  Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation Website - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/ Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation Follow Mike Cameron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/ Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/ X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X  LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameronWebsite - https://mikecameron.ca/TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong   Follow Trevor Botkin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gsnscreative Muster Point IG - https://www.instagram.com/the_musterpoint Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gsnscreative LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/ Support Men & Their Familes: https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Support This Podcast and Canadian Men's Health Foundation https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/ The career is steady. The family is healthy. And on paper, life looks exactly the way it’s supposed to. But internally, the weight of carrying it all is starting to feel unsustainable. You might even catch yourself wondering why you feel so exhausted when you have so much to be grateful for. Sometimes life can look fine on the outside and still feel heavy on the inside. In this special live recording of the Don’t Change Much Podcast, hosts Mike Cameron and Trevor Botkin sit down with broadcaster Chris Gailus, Paralympic gold medalist Greg Stewart, and comedian Toby Hargrave for an honest conversation about the things men don’t usually say out loud. Chris shares how a sudden medical emergency forced him to start paying closer attention to his health. Greg reflects on how tying his identity to achievement left him searching for who he really was. Toby talks about the moment he realized burnout had quietly caught up with him. And Trevor speaks openly about the cost of pretending everything was fine when it wasn’t.  What follows is a conversation about the pressure many men feel to hold everything together and what happens when that pressure finally cracks. The discussion moves from the “armor” men wear as providers to the simple but powerful idea of being a lighthouse for the people around them: someone who shows up, stands steady, and listens. In this episode you’ll hear about: The "Lighthouse" Concept: Why you don’t need to steer someone else's ship; you just need to stand on solid rock. Body Literacy: Recognizing when your physical symptoms like shortness of breath or persistent pain are actually a cry for help. The Guilt Gap: Breaking the cycle of resentment that comes from struggling while "having it good." Spontaneous Connection: Why the most important conversations don't happen at a boardroom table, but in the middle of everyday life. This isn’t a lecture or a self-help formula. It’s a group of men telling the truth about their lives and discovering that honesty might be one of the strongest things a man can do. Follow Toby Hargrave Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tobyhargrave Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheRealTobyHargrave/ Men’s Health Champion - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/champions/toby-hargrave/ Follow Greg Stewart Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/greg_r_stewart/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/greg-stewart-ply-bba-7ab19161/ Website - https://themindfulete.ca/ Men’s Health Champion - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/champions/greg-stewart/   Follow Chris Gailus Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/chrisgailus/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/chris.gailus.2025 Get to Know Chris Gailus - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bqeifo44uj8 Follow Canadian Men’s Health Foundation Website - https://menshealthfoundation.ca/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/menshealthfdn/ Facebook - https://facebook.com/menshealthfoundation   Follow Mike Cameron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mikecameron.ca/ Youtube - https://youtube.com/mikecameronspeaks  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikedavidcameron/ X - Mike Cameron (@axiommike) / X  LinkedIn - https://linkedin.com/in/mikecameronWebsite - https://mikecameron.ca/TedX Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_cameron_redefining_badass_the_way_we_think_about_strong_is_wrong   Follow Trevor Botkin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gsnscreative Muster Point IG - https://www.instagram.com/the_musterpoint Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/gsnscreative LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/trevor-botkin-869ab5143/ Chapters 00:00 Rock Bottom Wake Up 01:05 Live Podcast Kickoff 01:52 Meet the Panelists 03:53 Chris Blood Clot Scare 07:37 Symptoms and Self Advocacy 09:28 Greg Identity and Help 14:20 Toby Silence and Burnout 19:50 Redefining Strength as Men 21:05 Owning Addiction Truth 22:04 Guilt Despite Good Life 23:08 Judgment Steals Love 24:34 Both Things Can Be True 26:42 Roomwide Struggle Exercise 27:48 Conversations Without Scripts 28:47 Mens Groups And Patience 35:28 Be The Lighthouse ClosingSupport Men & Their Familes: https://menshealthfoundation.ca/donate/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.