Sad to Savage

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down how to go from settling to standards — in your relationships, your self-worth, and the way you show up for your life. We’re diving into the psychology and brain science behind why people settle, how your brain actually rewires itself to expect less, and the powerful shifts that happen when you start raising your standards. You’ll learn:• Why your brain clings to situations that aren’t good for you (loss aversion)• How cognitive dissonance lowers your standards without you realizing it• How repeatedly tolerating less rewires your neural pathways• The science of standards and how they activate your confidence, clarity, and self-worth• How raising your standards calms your nervous system and helps you feel emotionally grounded Then, we’ll build this into action with three simple habits you can use to move from settling to self-value: The Micro Non-Negotiable Habit — one tiny act of self-respect each day The Bare Minimum Audit — a 30-second reflection to catch misalignment The Standards Rehearsal — practicing boundaries out loud so they feel natural And at the end, I share a personal story about how these exact habits changed my life during a past relationship — and why they’ll change yours too. If you’ve ever accepted less than you needed, questioned your worth, or struggled to speak up… this episode is going to shift something big for you. If you want this episodes worksheet, get it here: WORKSHEET ⁠Watch this episode here! ⁠ ⁠Shelby's IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Sad to Savage IG⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Habit Tracker⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Shelby's TikTok⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Sad to Savage Six Week Program!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the biggest reasons people stay stuck: the cycle of going all-in, burning out, quitting, and starting over. If you’ve ever tried to change your entire life in one day… only to fall off by day three, this episode is going to change everything for you. You’ll learn why your brain loves big bursts of motivation but struggles with actual consistency, how sporadic actions are often hidden signals of a deeper need, and the science behind why small, steady habits are the only path to real transformation. By the end of this episode, you’ll understand what your sporadic behavior is trying to tell you, how to uncover the steady behavior you truly want, and how to build tiny daily habits that finally stick. This is the episode that will help you stop restarting your life… and start rebuilding it. If you want this episodes worksheet, get it here: WORKSHEET Watch this episode here! Shelby's IG⁠ ⁠Sad to Savage IG⁠ ⁠Habit Tracker⁠ ⁠Shelby's TikTok⁠ ⁠Sad to Savage Six Week Program! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are SO back my girls! Sad to Savage Season 4 is officially here! I’ve missed you so much, and I’m so excited to start this new season and new era with you. Whether you’re a longtime listener or brand new, I’m so happy you’re here. In this episode, I’m reintroducing the heart of Sad to Savage:Sad → TO → Savage the strategy that helped me transform my mental health, routines, relationships, finances, and identity over the last 5 years. You’ll learn: ✨ What “Sad” really means (and why it’s not failure) ✨ What “Savage” looks like (discipline, consistency, identity shifts) ✨ How the “TO” phase — small habits & routines — rewires your brain ✨ My personal story of starting with ONE tiny habit ✨ How to pick your one habit to begin your own Sad to Savage reset Season 4 will follow weekly mini-series topics on habits, routines, and real-life growth. Each episode will mix science, psychology, strategy, and bits and pieces from my life. If you’re ready for a fresh start and a realistic path to your best self, this episode is where it begins. Let’s grow together. 💜 I LOVE YOU! In this episode I shared my code to Cozy Earth and my love for their Bamboo Sheets! Use this link cozyearth.com/SAVAGE for up to 40% off! <3 Use this link to get this weeks worksheet! Click here Watch this episode here! Shelby's IG Sad to Savage IG Habit Tracker Shelby's TikTok Sad to Savage Six Week Program! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes the most savage thing you can do… is pause. I’m hitting pause on Season 3 of the Sad to Savage podcast—not because I’m done, but because I need to make space for the next chapter of my life. Between planning two weddings, running two...

☀️ New Episode: Summer Sprinkles is HERE! 🌸✨ This week on the pod, we’re talking about tiny wellness habits you can sprinkle into your summer days to feel more energized, grounded, glowy, and YOU again. Think 5-minute rituals, sunset walks,...