Jillian sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about what “the work” in love actually looks like — in real time. Jay shares why he created Messy Love (his Audible Original), where listeners get to “sit in the room” with real couples as they navigate cheating narratives, unmet expectations, old wounds, and the messy middle between conflict and connection. Jillian and Jay unpack why compassion isn’t permissive — it’s structured, boundaried, and powerful — and why most relationship fights spiral into accusation, criticism, and defense… leaving zero room for love. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking your partner to change…or asking them to be someone they’re simply not, this episode will land. Listen to Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection Try Jillian on Love Plus FREE for 30 days! Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices