Nathalie De Los Santos
Imee Dalton (she/her) understands what it’s like to walk the world as someone disconnected from her roots. She has been dedicated to her own healing and remembrance journey for decades. Known as “the Mayari Moon”, Imee is a kali instructor, content creator and one of the hosts of the Babaylan Bruha Book Club Podcast. She lives on the ancestral lands of the mound builders that are the Hopewell and Adena. I interview her today on the podcast!
Seven years ago, she started training in kali, a Filipino martial art (FMA). Since then, it has ignited a passion within her to help others like herself to start to gain the confidence they need to walk the world without fear, remembering their truest selves. Kali is an ancient martial art form from the Philippines, that involves bamboo sticks, swords, knives and empty hand techniques. Kali, arnis, and escrima are different names for the practice of Filipino Martial Arts.
What Imee offers in her kali circles has been given to her by her guides, ancestors and the Tagalog and Kapampangan goddess of the moon, Mayari. Imee uses the energy of kali to heal from colonial trauma. She asks her students to sit with their shadow and confront where colonization still lives within them. Her book club podcast focuses on Filipinx spiritual books which are also inclusive of diverse spiritual practices across cultures, world history and lived experiences.
“I started practicing kali 7 years ago. My partner, who is half Filipino, had been training for a few years already. He kept asking me to join the gym where he was training FMA, saying I'd really like it. At the time, physical hobbies weren't my thing, so I kept declining his invitations,” Imee recollects. “Finally, on a whim, I decided to come to the FMA gym. I fell in love immediately. Once I picked up kali sticks, I never put them down."
The first step of decolonization is remembering who you are and to look to the past so you can move into the future. One life lesson I learned in joining Imee’s class is not to leave half of yourself at the door. There is a constant you across all energies, from the ages of your life and to the shapes of your body. The exploration of solar and lunar practices in her class set me on this unique path of healing.
“One of my main inspirations is Mayari. Looking back, both the moon and the lunar goddess have always been on the edges of my life calling to me,” says Imee. “It wasn't until I started training in kali that I stumbled across Mayari's story. She was a moon goddess who looked like me and had kali sticks like me! The representation healed something in me from childhood. With her being the goddess of the moon and a warrior, it called to a deep place in me that felt disempowered and disconnected.”
In a modern tale, the Tagalog worshiped Mayari, who had two sisters, Hanan, the goddess of the morning, and Tala, goddess of the stars. They were daughters of the supreme god, Bathala. Mayari also had a brother named Apo Laki, the god of the sun and war. He is a part of Tagalog, Pangasinan and Kapampangan mythology. In a Kapampangan myth, Mayari fought against her brother for equal rulership over the world. During the battle, Apo Laki strikes Mayari and blinds her in one eye. He immediately regrets his violence upon his sister and the two rule equally together. Mayari rules the night and her brother rules the day.