📺 Watch on YouTube and Spotify“If I’m a good partner, you should want to have sex with me. Super fucking common for guys. So what’s the hidden need underneath that?” says Mike Salemi, host of The King Within and today’s solo guest on Start a Conversation. Mike Salemi cuts straight to the core of why so many men feel underappreciated, disconnected, or even resentful in their closest relationships: covert contracts—the unspoken, invisible deals we make in our minds but never actually communicate.Once successful on paper but feeling lost on the inside, Mike shares his own wake-up call, pulling back the curtain on the seven most common covert contracts he sees in men (including himself), from the “provider contract” to the exhausting peacekeeper and the desperate need for recognition through fixing and giving. Drawing from personal stories, men’s groups, and cornerstone books like No More Mr. Nice Guy, Mike weaves together advice and exercises that help listeners shine light on what’s secretly running their relationships and keeping them stuck.If you want to understand why your efforts in love keep hitting a wall, or what’s truly beneath the surface of your frustrations, don’t miss this episode of Start a Conversation with Mike—because learning to confront and communicate your hidden needs could change not just your relationship, but your legacy.5 Key TakeawaysShine a light on covert contracts—grab a pen and write out your unspoken expectations in relationships. Awareness is your first step to freedom.Dig deeper—identify the real needs beneath your hidden agreements. Clarity about what you truly crave leads to genuine connection.Speak up—summon the courage to voice your needs directly to your partner. Expressing yourself honestly changes everything.Let go of attachment—accept that your needs or requests might be met with a “no.” True leadership means releasing control over the outcome.Model radical responsibility—commit to breaking cycles of resentment and miscommunication. Your actions ripple out, shaping your family and legacy.Memorable Quotes"A healthy man has a hundred wishes, but a sick man only has one. It really reminded me of what really matters in life.""Largely, covert contracts have hidden needs underneath, and we just don't know how to express them. No one ever taught us how to express our needs, and it can really block connection in relationships and start leading to a lot of resentment.""For me, success is going through this process and being courageous enough to go through the four steps. So if you're courageous enough to go through the four steps and set the container, then you're doing a damn good job, my man."Resources MentionedNo More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover - https://amzn.to/4b1v3X3Audible (audiobook platform mentioned for listening to books) - https://www.audible.com/Inner Compass 9 (Enneagram system referenced for coaching) - https://innercompass9.com/Mike Salemi Men of Movement Retreats - https://mikesalemi.io/retreatsClick Here for our Black Friday Specials!(expires by Midnight PST December 1, 2025)🔥 Work With Mike=== mention "PODCAST" for a special discount) ===Apply for The Grounded King Collective → https://mikesalemi.io/thegroundedkingMen of Movement Retreat → https://mikesalemi.io/retreats1:1 Coaching - https://mikesalemi.io/coaching💪 Programs=== use code "PODCAST" for a special discount) ===Kettlebell Lifestyle - https://www.kettlebelllifestyle.com/Mastering the Kettlebell - https://www.masteringthekettlebell.com/Athleticism for Life (Bulgarian Bag training) - https://mikesalemi.io/athleticism4lifeBulgarian Bag Certifications - https://coaching.mikesalemi.io/bulgarianbagcertificationsConnect with MikeInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike.salemi/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@MikeSalemiLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikesalemi111/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mike.salemi.583X/Twitter - https://x.com/mike_salemiMentioned in this episode:The Grounded KingThe Grounded King is a unique blend of an ongoing online men's group and private community with the education and frameworks to go with it. We meet 1x/week for 90 minutes, and you will get access to all of my online programs, as well as the Curriculum to go with your journey. If you’re ready to stop carrying it all alone, and start building from a place of truth and vitality, click below and I’ll send you everything you need to know.The Grounded King