Let's Talk Love | A Real Love Ready Podcast

What actually makes a relationship work? In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin and Dr. Stan Tatkin, couples therapist, researcher, and co-founder of the PACT Institute talk about just that! Drawing from decades of work with couples and insights from his book In Each Other’s Care, Dr. Stan helps us understand how our nervous system, attachment patterns, and instinctive human threat responses shape the way we relate. He brings clarity to why relationship conflict feels so hard—and how awareness can create room for more clarity and connection.Dr. Stan explains what supports a secure-functioning relationship: offering relief before trying to solve the issue, repairing early so resentment doesn’t build, and creating shared relationship agreements that protect emotional safety and trust. Rather than focus on what makes for a healthy partnership, Dr. Stan emphasizes what we can do to form secure bonds with those we love.   This conversation offers thoughtful relationship insights and encourages us to consider how small, deliberate choices can strengthen the relationships we cherish.We want to hear from you!  Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLinks: http://thepactinstitute.com/FOLLOW DR. STAN TATKIN: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOKFOLLOW RLR: ⁠INSTAGRAM⁠ | ⁠FACEBOOK⁠ | ⁠TIKTOK⁠

What does it mean to fawn—and how can we begin to heal this trauma response?In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin sits down with licensed clinical psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton to explore the fawn response, a survival pattern that develops as a way to stay safe in unsafe environments. Drawing from her professional work, therapy practice, and lived experience, Dr. Ingrid shares how fawning shows up in relationships through people-pleasing, over-accommodating, or losing your voice—and how understanding this trauma response, often rooted in complex trauma, can help us move from self-blame to self-awareness, personal growth, and healing.Robin and Dr. Ingrid share personal stories and insights as they unpack how early experiences and attachment wounds shape the ways we seek love, safety, and connection. They talk about the process of“unfawning” by noticing your body’s cues, rebuilding self-trust, setting healthier boundaries, and learning what safety feels like from the inside out. This conversation reminds us that healing begins with awareness—recognizing how the patterns that once kept us safe can also hold us back, and how seeing them with compassion can open the door to new ways of showing up for ourselves and those we love.We want to hear from you!  Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLinks:Book - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/Website - https://www.ingridclayton.com/FOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOKFOLLOW DR. INGRID CLAYTON: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK

What does it take to create secure, lasting love?In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin sits down with therapist, author, and attachment expert Julie Menanno to explore how we can create relationships that feel safe, connected, and enduring. Rather than focusing on the idea of a “healthy relationship,” Julie invites us to consider what it means to build a secure partnership—one rooted in emotional safety, empathy, and mutual understanding.Drawing from her powerful book Secure Love, Julie shares how recognizing our own and our partner’s core emotional needs and attachment styles can transform the way we communicate, navigate conflict, and repair ruptures. Her approach reminds us that love thrives not in perfection, but in the consistent willingness to see, hear, and respond to one another with care.Through her platform The Secure Relationship, Julie’s work reaches millions, helping people understand that love and connection are not luxuries—they are essential human needs. This conversation offers practical wisdom and heartfelt insight for anyone seeking to deepen intimacy, build trust, and experience the grounded joy of secure love.We want to hear from you!  Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLinks:https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/FOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOKFOLLOW JULIE: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOK

Why do we get hooked on drama and how can we break free?This week on Let’s Talk Love, Robin sits down with clinical psychologist and founder of The Embody Lab, Dr. Scott Lyons, to explore the hidden role drama plays in our lives. Drawing from his book, Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Drama in Yourself and Others, Scott brings warmth, openness, and relatability to a subject many of us don’t fully understand—yet we all know what it feels like to get wrapped up in the chaos of other people’s lives.Scott himself once struggled with being addicted to drama, and now he dedicates his work to helping others heal from this exhausting pattern. As he shares, drama often masks unresolved trauma—it’s a coping mechanism for pain we haven’t yet faced. Because drama is so contagious, it can ripple through our relationships and communities unless we learn to stop perpetuating it. Together, Robin and Scott unpack why we get hooked on drama and how it becomes addictive, how unresolved trauma hides behind cycles of chaos and crisis, and what neuroscience reveals about the toll these patterns take on our bodies and minds.They also explore practical ways to step out of drama and create more peace, along with the surprising role of play in restoring joy, connection, and balance. With compassionate insights and grounded strategies, Scott offers a roadmap for breaking free from drama and building steadier, more fulfilling relationships. This conversation is a powerful reminder that awareness and compassion are key to healing—and that choosing peace over chaos is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and the people we love.We want to hear from you!  Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLinks:https://www.drscottlyons.com/FOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOK

What does it really mean to be a “good mom”—and who gets to decide?In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin sits down with therapist, author, and mother Vanessa Bennett for a candid conversation inspired by her new book, The Motherhood Myth.Together, they explore the myths and societal pressures placed on women, the impact of over-parenting, and the learning and growth available to all of us when we create space in our lives to just be.   Vanessa shares stories from her own journey and insights from her work, offering a grounded perspective on how women can honor themselves while caring for others.This conversation is an invitation to release outdated expectations, embrace the full truth of motherhood, and lean into the support and connection we all need along the way.We want to hear from you!  Please send us your anonymous questions for the Podcast as well as our weekly IG Live Ask The Experts Q&A. https://realloveready.com/submitaquestionLinks:https://www.vanessabennett.com/the-motherhood-mythFOLLOW RLR: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOKFOLLOW VANESSA: INSTAGRAM | FACEBOOK | TIKTOK