Send a textStart with a Valentine’s greeting, end with a fire in your chest. We open warm and then drive straight into the hard truths about consent, courtroom trauma, and why too many survivors are punished by the very systems meant to protect them. From a 1960s case portrayed on screen to present-day stats that will stop you cold, we look at how disbelief, repetition, and composure theater stack the deck against people who report sexual assault. No is still no—marriage doesn’t cancel it, clothing doesn’t grant it, and momentum doesn’t override it.We share raw, lived experience from countless court appearances: the memory tests, the character hits, the way a survivor’s tears become “instability” while an abuser’s calm reads as “credible.” Then we pivot from outrage to action. Victoria walks through “Shielded,” a detailed, step-by-step safety plan: discreet finances, safe banking, a separate phone and charger, document copies, staged bags, camera-aware meeting spots, and layered exits for kids and pets. We spotlight hospital security that got it right—alias rooms, locked units, escorts, and photo alerts—showing how trauma-informed design can save lives.Michael brings an insider view from years working inside a jail. He breaks down how isolation really works, why certain offenders avoid general population, and how knowledge-sharing behind bars can worsen risk when people reenter society. We contrast that with what survivors actually get on release from terror: triggers that last for years, nervous systems wired for survival, and very little institutional support. Along the way we wrestle with the ethics of punishment, the possibility of reform, and the responsibilities communities carry to believe, protect, and document.To close, we share new resources: a guide for healing from narcissistic abuse, a body-dysphoria Q&A designed for teens and adults navigating scars and identity, and an upcoming series of children’s workbooks to help young minds name danger, seek help, and hold onto hope. If you care about consent, survivor advocacy, trauma-informed justice, and practical safety planning, this conversation brings clarity and tools you can use or share. Subscribe, leave a review to help others find it, and tell us: what change would make the biggest difference where you live?Support the show