A Fresh Story

What if the very word "mother" has been quietly shrinking you your whole life — not because you didn't love being one, but because no one ever told you that you were allowed to be more than one? That's the question at the heart of this week's conversation on A Fresh Story: Book Talk, and it's the kind of question that lingers long after you've set down the book that asked it.Dr. Gertrude Lyons is an author, coach, retreat leader, and TEDx speaker whose talk has now reached nearly 250,000 views — and when you spend even twenty minutes in her presence, it is immediately clear why. She has the rare gift of making a room feel like a circle of trusted women who've finally decided to tell the truth. Her book, Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, A Cosmic Approach to Motherhood, grew out of a long and deeply personal reckoning. A mother of two grown daughters, Dr. Lyons pursued her doctorate specifically to study the transformational potential buried inside the experience of motherhood — only to look back and realize that even she, a coach surrounded by frameworks for growth, had quietly lost herself along the way. "I lost that thread," she says with the kind of honesty that makes you exhale. "I let it go." That vulnerability is what makes this book so necessary. It is not a manual for doing motherhood better. It is an invitation to ask who you have been while doing it — and who you might still become.Rewrite the Mother Code argues that mothering is not a role confined to those who have given birth. It is an energy — one that flows through aunts, mentors, artists, founders, and coaches; through anyone pouring their nurturing, creative, cyclical power into something they love. And the most overlooked recipient of that energy? You. The book maps the inherited "codes" — the patriarchal myths and silent scripts — that have kept women disconnected from their own desires, intuition, and aliveness. It then charts a path back: through emotional awareness, self-compassion, and what Dr. Lyons calls "cosmic motherhood," the realization that universal wisdom becomes available to us the moment we stop outsourcing our sense of self to the world's expectations. For anyone in the middle of a life transition — redefining themselves after loss, reinvention, or the quiet erosion that comes from years of putting everyone else first — this book is not just a read. It is a reclamation.

Some of us learned very early that love could be unpredictable. That the sound of a car pulling into the driveway meant something different in our house. That being the last kid picked up from school wasn't just inconvenient—it was a whole education in holding your breath. Cassidy Gard, debut memoirist and former television producer, grew up being that kid: hyperaware, fiercely observant, and already whispering to herself, I'm going to write about this one day. From age seven—when she first understood that her father's illness was reshaping everything around her—Cassidy was quietly building an inner world fortified by prayer, imagination, and an unwavering belief that something bigger was watching over her. She didn't have the language for it yet. But she was already living inside what would one day become her book.Cosmic Goodness: Surrendering the Shadows to Live in the Light spans nearly three decades—from that seven-year-old girl navigating a home filled with chaos and secrets, to a mother of two, finally grounded in the life she once only dared to imagine. The memoir explores the long shadow of growing up with an alcoholic, emotionally abusive father and the particular perfectionism and people-pleasing that survival demands. It moves through a young woman's brave solo relocation to New York City at seventeen, a decade-long career in television production, a solo pandemic road trip to Montana, and the discovery of a word—Cosmic Goodness—to name the force that had been quietly guiding her all along. It is a book about learning to stop masking and start trusting. About choosing a sober partner because you finally understand what safety actually feels like. About writing yourself—slowly, deliberately—into the future you deserve.What makes Cosmic Goodness something you'll want to press into the hands of anyone navigating a life transition is this: Cassidy doesn't arrive at healing by accident. She earns it—through Al-Anon, through therapy, through the radical act of telling her story honestly. This conversation is a reminder that you don't have to come from a peaceful home to build one. That the anxious child waiting by the window can grow into a woman who finally, deeply feels at home in herself. That cosmic goodness—whatever you call it in your own life—is not something that happens to you. It is something you learn, slowly and beautifully, to recognize.

There's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes when your life is being dismantled — not by accident, but by necessity. When Heather Quick walks into a courtroom, she carries with her more than case files and legal strategy. She carries two-plus decades of watching women rebuild from the inside out — women who walked in terrified and walked out, eventually, transformed. A 26-year family law attorney whose Florida-based firm represents women exclusively, Heather has sat across the table from thousands of clients mid-crisis. And what she kept witnessing, again and again, was a specific kind of pain that wasn't just emotional — it was the pain of not knowing. Not knowing what came next, not knowing the language, not knowing how to hold their ground. That's why she wrote Unbreakable Divorce: A Winning Guide Every Woman Needs to Reclaim Her Life. Not because divorce is a win, but because you can be.Unbreakable Divorce is many things at once: a legal primer, an emotional road map, and an act of advocacy. In under 200 pages — with full-size type, because Heather's not here for suffering of any kind — she walks readers through the full arc of the divorce process. What is family law? How do you prepare? What questions do you ask an attorney? What happens at mediation, at trial, in front of a judge who is, as Heather says with candid humor, "just another human being with their own preconceptions"? The book is clear that it isn't a substitute for a lawyer — but it is the kind of document that gives women language, strategy, and a framework for reclaiming their footing. Whether a woman is just beginning to ask hard questions or is already in the middle of proceedings, this book meets her where she is and refuses to leave her there.What comes through in this conversation — and in the book — is Heather's deeply competitive, deeply compassionate belief that winning is available to you. Not winning as in beating someone else, but winning as in arriving at peace, freedom, and a future that is yours. "It's a marathon, not a sprint," she tells Olivia, and she means it in every sense: it's long, it's grueling, and it requires training you never asked for. But women, she says without hesitation, are extraordinary at pivoting. At enduring. At finding their footing again. Unbreakable Divorce is the training guide Heather wishes every woman had before she ever needed it — and the lifeline she knows so many need right now.🔗 Check out Fresh Starts Registry:The first & only divorce registry + support platform ➡ https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry/📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreshStartsRegistry🎙 Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/divorcehappenspod/📬 Magazine: https://divorceguidemagazine.com/

There are moments that crack something open in you — moments you can't unhear, can't unsee, can't unfeel. For Lori Sugarman Lee, that moment came across a desk from an insurance agent who looked at her years of raising children, moving her family across continents, building communities from scratch, and sustaining a household with fierce devotion — and said, simply, "You're just a housewife. There's no loss." No loss. As if the thousands of hours she had poured into her family, her husband's career, her children's schools, her community organizations, amounted to nothing more than a footnote. That sentence didn't break Lori. It lit her on fire.A former marketing director for Four Seasons Hotels and Resorts who had deliberately stepped away from a high-powered career to invest in her family, Lori had never once doubted the value of that choice — until society handed her its verdict. What followed was a journey of profound reinvention: she found Eve Rodsky's Fair Play system, took a Stanford course on Motherhood and Work, wrote a viral LinkedIn article called "I Don't Get Paid, So What Am I Worth?" — and then asked herself the most important question of all: What can I do that no one else is doing? The answer was a children's book. Not because her sons needed a bedtime story, but because she believed, deeply, that if we want to change how the next generation values care — how our daughters are treated, how our sons show up — we have to start before the patterns calcify. Our Home: The Love, Work and Heart of Family is that book. It's tender and illustrated and deceptively simple, and it is, at its core, a revolution wrapped in a picture book.In this conversation, Lori and Olivia explore what it truly means to value the invisible — the labor that keeps families alive and thriving but so rarely gets named, let alone celebrated. They talk about representation and why seeing your own family reflected in the pages of a book can quietly change a child's entire worldview. They talk about raising boys who understand that care is not a burden to be avoided but a gift to be given. And they talk about the cycle — the one that places the full weight of domestic life on daughters, generation after generation — and why a book, of all things, might be exactly the right tool to break it. If you've ever felt unseen in your own home, if you've ever wondered whether the work you do matters, or if you're raising children you hope will build a more equitable world — this episode is for you.

In this episode of A Fresh Story: Simple Tips to Support Yourself, host Olivia Howell sits down with Meredith Beardmore — therapist, author, and YouTuber — whose entire practice is dedicated to helping women navigate the painful and often overlooked experience of loving someone with an addiction. With both professional expertise and personal lived experience, Meredith brings rare authority to a topic that affects millions of people silently. Whether you are currently in a relationship with someone struggling with alcoholism or narcotic addiction, or navigating life after leaving one, this episode delivers the kind of addiction recovery support and emotional resilience tools you need to begin putting yourself first.Meredith's core message is clear: the pain of loving an addict is valid, and self-care is not selfish — it is survival. She walks listeners through her top practical strategies, beginning with the critical importance of establishing personal boundaries and recognizing that your loved one's needs cannot continue to override your own. She strongly recommends Al-Anon and Nar-Anon — free, widely available support groups focused not on the addict, but on the loved ones — as essential tools for emotional resilience and starting over after an addictive relationship. Meredith also addresses the often-neglected foundation of physical wellbeing: sleep hygiene, nutrition, and regular self-care practices that protect your nervous system from the chronic stress that loving an addict produces. For those seeking therapy, she advises specifically asking for a clinician experienced with loved ones of addicts or, where unavailable, a therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery — noting the significant overlap in patterns and tactics.Meredith is also the author of two powerful resources: Hey Addiction, Thanks for Nothing — a brutally honest self-help workbook for those currently loving an addict — and The Plan B Chronicles: Divorce, Defiance, Liberation, a memoir chronicling her own journey through divorce recovery and the path to finding herself on the other side. Her message to anyone listening who feels trapped, ashamed, or alone? Let go of the guilt. You cannot save someone from addiction. You can, however, save yourself — and there is an entire community ready to support you in doing exactly that.