TEXT US A COMMENT!This is the episode I never wanted to do...Men, grief doesn’t just hurt, it haunts. And if you don’t learn how to carry it like a man, you’ll start bleeding on everyone you love.WHY IT MATTERSBecause grief you don’t process doesn’t disappear, it leaks into other things.It leaks into your tone, parenting, marriage, Job, discipline.SOTD - Psalm 34:18 (ESV) “The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”HOW NOT TO DEAL WITH GRIEF (The wrong playbook)Men usually run one of these plays:Numb itbooze, weed, porn, scrolling, gaming, binge anything.You’re not healing, you’re sedating.Bury it“I’m good.” “It is what it is.” “I don’t want to talk about it.”That’s not strength. That’s a delay tactic.Outwork ithustle as anesthesia. stay busy so you don’t have to feel.Your schedule becomes your hiding place.Explode itanger, blow-ups, picking fights.You’re not “tough,” you’re untreated.Isolate and go lone wolfIsolation turns grief into a prison.Spiritualize it instead of surrendering itquoting verses while refusing to mourn.God isn’t asking you to fake it, He’s calling you to bring itTACTICAL APPLICATION:1) NAME IT OUT LOUDYou can’t lead what you won’t admit.Say the loss plainly.Say what it took from you.Say what you miss.This is where men stop performing and start healing.2) BUILD A CONTAINER FOR IT (A grief discipline)Grief needs a place to go that isn’t your wife and kids catching shrapnel.Daily 10: 10 minutes alone, walk, pray, journal, talk out loud to God.Weekly check-in: one brother/pastor/counselor  “Here’s where I’m at. Here’s what I’m carrying.”Body regulation: lift, ruck, run, sweat, not to escape, but to discharge stress and stay grounded.3) MAKE IT MEANINGFUL WITHOUT MAKING IT YOUR IDENTITYYou don’t deny the pain.You don’t worship the pain.You let God shape you through it.AskSupport the show TDMP SITE: https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/ Grab some DANGEROUS GEAR in our shop https://dangerousmanpodcast.com/shop/ Support the show for as little as $3 a month https://www.buzzsprout.com/2080275/supporters/new Follow us on X for more shenanigans https://twitter.com/TDMPodcast603 Follow us on Instagram for extra shenanigans https://www.instagram.com/thedangerousmanpodcast/ Connect with Matt Fortin & Rory Lawrence Email us at: [email protected] Remember men... Stop trying & start training! Top Men's Podcast for 2024... https://podcasts.feedspot.com/mens_podcasts/